We women can be so hard on ourselves!
We don’t need anyone else to judge us and find us lacking; we do that very well all by ourselves!
Women are great at setting goals, working their business, being a mom, being a wife, being a homemaker, and making sure that everyone is being taken care of. Everyone except us.
Why is that?
On Friday, July 7th, I could tell that I was feeling anxious and out of sorts. At 10:30 my internet went down. I called the internet company and they told me the internet was down all over Long Beach. I realized not having internet added to my anxiety because I couldn't work. I was feeling so overwhelmed with what I hadn’t gotten done that day that I found myself staring at my internet modem and willing those blue lights to come back on.
That’s when it occurred to me that I needed to give myself permission to Let Go, create some self-care and have some fun! Why was I being so hard on myself?
My answer was to drive to my daughter’s house on Saturday morning and play with my grandchildren to get my fill of fun, merriment, silliness and only thinking about family! I let go; of the work, the anxiety, the stress and the belief that I wasn’t doing enough work.
Why are women so worried about being judged by others that they make their life so much harder than necessary? We are experts at comparing ourselves to others and then deciding that we are lacking. Comparing ourselves to someone else is like comparing two snowflakes; no two are alike so there is no comparison! We can compare the beauty of each and how each snowflake is unique but one is not lacking because it is not the same as the other.
Every single woman on this planet us unique and cannot be compared to another! We are here to share our unique gifts and talents with others, to extend our hand and reach out to our sisters around the world and say, “here, take my hand and let me help lift you up!” When we do this, we help ourselves and others at the same time.
We also need to take time to put our needs and wants in front of everything else.
My self-care involved family time and time with my grandchildren but every person is different. What if we could give ourselves permission to roll around on the floor with our kids, or our pet? What if we could give ourselves permission to cook a gourmet meal (or finally make a meal that isn’t prepared in the microwave!!!!).
Self-care means different things to different people but the important thing about self-care is “taking care of our self!!!!” Putting our needs and wants first so we have what we need to be there for others. It’s time we stop confusing self-care with being selfish and let our minds wander.
Nancy Mueller ~ Mastering Your Beliefs Sensei