In her book Choices To Changes, (which I highly suggest every entrepreneur read) author Sheila Kennedy asks this question: Give 5 Reasons Why You Do What You Do and Why You Are The Perfect Person To Do It. Thank you for asking this important question Sheila because it reminded me of why I do what I do!
1. I love the feeling of watching someone get the "Aha" when they work with me or hear me speak
2. I love being the reason that someone is happy & giving them the opportunity to embrace positive energy
3. I love that my work connects me with like-minded thinkers who also love empowering others
4. I feel that everything I have experienced in my life prepared me for who I am and what I do today
5. Because I believe that every woman and every girl should know what it feels like to be loved, valued and appreciated for the gift that she is.
I believe I am the perfect person to do what I do because instead of trying to find an outlet and a reason to give up on my life, I chose to embrace my Inner Strength. I know what it feels like to believe that you have no value, worth or meaning in your life. Once I was able to let go of my limiting beliefs around lack; lack of self-love, self-worth and my value, I began to experience the absolute joy of who I am and my purpose in life. It is my wish that every woman and girl feel valued, loved, heard, and empowered in her life because it is the best feeling in the world!
Nancy Mueller ~ Empowerment Sensei
When a woman leads an empowered life it means she’s taking care of her wants and needs.
For example, maybe you really love to dance! You love to dance so much that you find yourself moving to the music wherever you go. You might even find yourself moving to the music while you are walking down the aisle in the grocery store!
Then, you meet a guy… and you fall head over heels for this guy. You love being with this guy and you really feel like he loves being with you. One day the two of you are walking down the aisle of the grocery store and your favorite song starts playing overhead and you’re so happy that you start moving to the music!
But your guy gets a horrified look on his face and says, “What are you doing?” And you look at him, smile and say, “I’m dancing. I’m really happy and I’m dancing!” And then your guy says, “Please don’t do that here, you look ridiculous.” So a little piece of you is saddened but you think, “Hey, this guy is worth it, I won’t dance in the store if it bothers him!”
As time goes by, there are other things about you that bother him. Rather than staying in your power, you feel that you’re showing him love and understanding if you do what makes him happy.
Your disempowerment is so gradual that you hardly realize it until one day, you find you just aren’t as happy as you used to be and you’re trying to figure out why. Someone can say to you, “Hey, how come I never see you dancing anymore?” and you answer, “oh, I gave that up a long time ago!”
Often times a woman will give away her power to please another person but the process is so gradual it goes unnoticed.
If you’re feeling disempowered in one or more areas of your life, the best way to understand why you’re feeling disempowered is to pay attention to your feelings. Your feelings will give you the answers every single time. When you’re feeling sad, anxious, fearful or depressed these are surface emotions telling you that you have an underlying feeling that needs to be dealt with in order to feel more empowered.
Give yourself permission to take some time to understand what you’re feeling and what your feelings are trying to tell you.
Being disempowered can be a gradual process and it will take time to regain what has been lost.
Be Self-Loving because when you practice putting your needs and wants first, you will learn the value of never again allowing someone to rob you of what is most important to you!
We teach our children to stay away from bullies because we know it disempowers them. Let’s empower women to say “no” to anyone who wants us to be less than who we are! This includes anyone who makes you feel disempowered in a relationship, your career, friends, family members, social situations or parents.
Show the world that you are a gift and every gift should be treated with care and love!
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Nancy Mueller ~ Empowerment Sensei
Yesterday was my grandson’s 4th birthday so I sent a text to my daughter asking her if I could FaceTime with the birthday boy. My daughter texted back that his reply was, “I don’t want to FaceTime right now because I am playing with my presents!”
At that moment I wondered, “How many adult women are as empowered as this 4-year old boy?” How many women give themselves permission to put their needs and wants before the needs and wants of others?
Moms often have difficulty with this because as women, we’re natural born nurturers and we’re always doing for others! Many women feel the need to put the wants and needs of others before their own. Even women in the workplace will find excuses to put the needs of others before her own! There is a reason that the flight attendants always tells you to place your own oxygen mask on first and then put the mask on your children. Let’s face it, if you pass out, you will be of no use to your children!
Think about all of the times when you put yourself last and rarely have time to meet your own needs. By the end of the day you are exhausted and you’ve got nothing left to give! You’ve got nothing left to give to your family, your co-workers, your clients, to your business; you’ve got nothing left to give to anyone because your own cup is completely empty, so how can you possibly have anything left for yourself?
There are too many women who think Self-Love is a spa day! When you are practicing Self-Love, you are leading an empowered life. A spa day is great for rest and relaxation but what do you do on a daily basis to take time for your needs and wants? When you are practicing Self-Love, when you understand the importance of putting your needs and wants first, you are actually giving yourself the Inner Strength you need to be there for others!
What can you do, on a daily basis, to start practicing more Self-Love? How can you be there for yourself, to put your wants and needs first, and ensure that you have everything you need and want to be your most empowered self?
When you learn to “fill your own cup” every day, you will have plenty to give to the people who mean the most to you in your life. It is impossible to draw from an empty cup so by filling your own cup, you will then have plenty to share with others.
Sometimes it can be as simple as taking a 10-minute walk in nature, reading a book, listening to your favorite songs, dance like no one is watching, take a nap, or stretch. Whatever it takes for you to feel that you are receiving positive energy into your mind, body and soul, make a promise to do this for yourself every single day.
Fill your cup by prioritizing your wants and needs, practice Self-Love and you will show the world the empowered woman you are!
Nancy Mueller ~ Empowerment Sensei
The thoughts that were going through my mind seemed to come from the twilight zone.
Nightmares that would make Stephen King shudder were interrupting my sleep every night. The lack of sleep and the anxiety level was taking over my mind and my life.
What was wrong with me? I remember thinking, “Is this what it feels like to lose my mind?”
When you think you're losing your mind, how do you explain it to someone? How do you bring up THAT subject?
My doctor suggested pills, my health practitioner suggested it was my diet, my teacher suggested more workouts, my friends suggested a vacation, my co-workers suggested I get a new job, work from home, join an MLM, journal more, talk to your husband, reassure your children, don’t let anything slip through the cracks, and none of these suggestions made a difference.
STOP – Just please stop, I just want the madness to end. I was so tired of being tired and felt so disempowered in my own life.
And then… one morning I was walking down the stairs and I tripped. As I felt myself begin to fall, I was amazed how many thoughts were going through my mind in that split second.
I remember thinking, maybe I’ll just fall and it will all be over. But in that split second, I realized something very valuable about myself. I wasn’t ready to give up!
The Universe has an amazing way of bringing us our greatest desire because I certainly was given the opportunity to end the madness that was going through my mind. After I fell, I broke both ankle bones in my left leg, had surgery, spent 5 days in the hospital, 4 months in a wheelchair and 3 years to walk again including a second surgery.
Needless to say, I certainly had a lot of time to sit around and think!
When are women taught to be empowered? When are women taught to put their needs and wants before the needs and wants of others? Being empowered means that you feel valued, heard, practice self-love, feel appreciated and are part of something much bigger than yourself. It's nearly impossible for women to be empowered when they believe that the wants and needs of others should come first.
As a wife, mother, career woman, friend, and part-time entrepreneur, I had never learned to put myself first. I always allowed others to come before me and my needs. I was my biggest saboteur at disempowering myself.
When will we finally say, “ENOUGH, I have had enough and it is up to me to make new choices in my life".
When a woman is living her life based on self-love, she will never again allow a person, place or condition to treat her with anything less than she deserves.
Society is so quick to take a pill for whatever is bothering them. Instead of silencing the voice inside your head (that’s trying to get your attention), give yourself permission to pay attention to your feelings. What are you feeling? If you are feeling overwhelmed, that is a clue that you are not practicing self-love.
That voice inside your head is pleading with you to make the necessary changes for you to live an empowered life. Make the choice to lead an empowered life this very moment.
There are easier ways to make different choices in your life than falling down the stairs!
Nancy Mueller – Giving Empowerment CPR to women around the world!
When you see her, you think, "Wow, she is so amazing. She always has a smile on her face and a kind word for others. She has a beautiful home, a loving family, a fabulous career and I know that so many woman want to be just like her!"
She knows that you are thinking this as she sadly turns her head, so that you can't read her thoughts because she is thinking, "if you only knew!"
No one knows the secrets she hides in an effort to maintain outward appearances. There is no one she can confide in because surely, if she were to speak her truth, she would be judged by all she knows. After all this time, how can she possibly speak up and tell the truth?
Every time she stands in the shower longer than she intended so no one will see her tears, she is trying to convince herself that she is not a victim. Victims have bruises and black eyes because they are weak and allow themselves to be abused. She is sure that she is not abused because she works very hard to be in control and allows others to see only what she wants them to see.
Every day she thinks, "Be strong and don't tell, there are too many people counting on me! If I give up it means I am weak and I am no quitter! How can I possibly admit to anyone what has happened to me? No, I must carry the weight of this secret on my own."
The children, I must be strong for the children because they must never know or suspect what is really going on. I am a good mother because I shield my children from the truth.
I wish someone could help her understand that speaking her truth is the greatest strength of all! I wish that someone could help her understand that she is worthy and there is so much about her that is loving and good. I wish that someone could help her understand that her children know.
I wish someone could help her understand the importance of being self-preserving and experiencing self-love! I wish that someone could teach her that once she speaks her truth, she will feel a great weight lifted from her heart. I wish that someone could teach her that abuse comes in many forms and doesn't always leave bruises and black eyes but it can scar the soul! I wish that someone could teach her that being a victim does not mean that she is weak.
The truth is, I wish all of these things for her but I know that until she is ready to speak her truth, until she is ready to let go of any person, place or condition that disempowers her, she will remain a victim.
I wish someone could teach her that being a victim is not why we are here. I wish someone could teach her we are here to shine like the brightest star in the sky to light the way for others who have lost their way.
I wish someone could teach her to always give her love secondhand because she should always feel it for herself first! I wish someone could teach her to live an empowered life because it means she will never again have to hide her truth.
You may be wondering how I know these things. I know because I used to be her. I am someone.
I am someone. I am here, and I am ready to teach you these things when you are ready!
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