Emily Post used to be THE woman to turn to whenever you needed to learn the etiquette's of society.
Today, with all of our diverse cultures and backgrounds, the etiquette's of society have gone the way of the Remington Typewriter. What was thought to be taboo in the 1920’s wouldn’t even cause someone to bat an eye in today’s society.
While technology, social awareness, culture acceptance, (just to name a few) have certainly come a long way, WHAT ABOUT THE IMPORTANCE OF THE R.S.V.P.?
Why is an R.S.V.P. important? Whether you are a bride planning her catering needs, an event planner planning a gala for the White House or simply a family pot luck; knowing how many guests will be in attendance is important for a successful event.
We all KNOW this to be true and yet, time and time again I hear people talking in frustration about the lack of response to an R.S.V.P. request. Why has this become a lost act of respect in today's society? Do people wait to R.S.V.P. because they are holding out for a better invitation? Do people forget to reply, and if so, do they forget because the event didn’t mean enough to remember? OR, has society simply lost all standards of social etiquette?
According to Wikipedia, the high society of England adopted French etiquette in the late 18th century, and the writings of Emily Post aimed to offer a standard no more stringent than that tradition. Emily post wrote that "Anyone receiving an invitation with an R.S.V.P. on it is obliged to reply.... and breaching this standard as "inexcusably rude".
Emily Post advised anyone receiving an invitation with an R.S.V.P. on it must reply promptly, and should reply within a day or two of receiving the invitation.
More and more people are going into business for themselves and, as such, are only held to their own standards of social etiquette. What can you do to start a Social Etiquette Revolution to demand higher standards from the people you do business with?
Where is Emily Post when you need her?
By Nancy Mueller
I posted a question on Facebook this morning asking this question:
I have a question for you... If you could go back in time, knowing what you know today with the opportunity to talk to your 10 year old self, what advice would you give yourself?
As I sit here looking out over the Pacific Ocean, it is so easy for me to share my answer to this question. My answer was this, "stop being afraid and stop believing that you don't matter! You will grow up to bring a positive influence to others and your strength will empower many people."
Ever since high school, I wanted to be a teacher; to bring knowledge into the lives of others that would inspire and motivate them. Have you ever heard the term, “You Don’t Know What You Don’t Know?” As a teenager, I thought the only way I could accomplish this would be as a teacher standing in front of a classroom of students, imparting wisdom on the chalkboard. Here was my limiting belief about that dream, “I did not have the grades or the money to go to college. How could I ever be a teacher?”
I had no way of knowing that I would “grow up” to be a published author, motivational speaker, and success coach for women!
As a teenager, I had a dream but no belief that it would happen. As I got older, my belief in myself grew in ways I could not have foreseen. As an adult, my dream grew but I had no idea how I could manifest my desire. It turns out, my desire became my passion and my passion became my reality!
There came a point in my life when I had to stop being “less than” so others could be “more than.” I had to stop listening to what the nonbelievers in my life would tell me and start believing in myself and the people who believed in me. I have always known that I have a strong Inner Strength and the day that I finally stepped into my power was the day that I started living my passion.
What is your dream? What is your limiting belief that your dream will never come to fruition? What can you do, right now, this very minute, to start a New Beginning in your thought process to start living your dream?
Do you SUPPRESS your dreams to the point that you become DEPRESSED? Does the depression keep you from who you were put on this earth to be?
Jack Canfield calls big dreams a BHAG (big hairy audacious goal!!!). What is your BHAG? Just as Glinda, the good witch told Dorothy, “You have always had the power to go home. You simply had to wait until you believed it for yourself!”
By Nancy Mueller
Congratulations, you finally did it; you took that leap of faith and started your own business! You found something you are truly passionate about and decided to go into business for yourself.
Once you started working your business, you may have discovered that there are some aspects of the business that you love, and then there are the things you dread doing.
The mundane tasks like filing, bookkeeping, emails, blogging, etc. can sometimes keep us from doing the things we love about our business. Even though these tasks can be mundane, we all know they need to be done. Have you ever found yourself putting off these not-so-favorite tasks and before you know it, you are so far behind you feel like you will never catch up?
Do you find yourself deleting emails without reading them, putting off balancing your checkbook, and even hiding the mail in a closet? You keep telling yourself that “you will get to it” but that day never seems to arrive?
If this sounds like you, what you are avoiding may be affecting your business!
What excuses are you giving yourself to continue avoiding these important tasks?
> Are you too busy?
> You can’t afford an assistant?
> You don’t have enough time in your day?
> You don’t have the energy?
If you knew that you could triple your income if you stopped avoiding these tasks, would you be able to find a way?
Putting systems in place to streamline the day to day office work can greatly enhance your work output. When the mail arrives, consider having a system that will allow you to trash it, shred it, or file it. Once you file it, you simply need to look at the files once a month and tackle the job at hand.
Getting organized can be the New Beginning you need to find more time on your calendar. More time means more opportunity to do the things you love about your business and less time stressing about the things you are avoiding.
By Nancy Mueller
Motivational Speakers love to speak in front of an audience and I am no exception!
I love speaking in front of an audience and watching their face light up with delight when they learn something new and exciting that I share with them from the stage! One day I asked myself, “What can I do for fun that will allow me to talk to people at the same time?” My answer: Tour Guide School!
Being a Tour Guide is a lot of fun, especially in my area because I get to take my tour guests to Old Town Pasadena, Farmers Market, The Grove, Hollywood, Grauman’s Chinese Theater, the Sunset Strip, Rodeo Drive, Venice Beach and the Santa Monica Pier! I love seeing these cities for the first time every time I take guests on my tour bus!
Not only do my tour guests learn from me, but I also learn a lot from them! For the last six days, I had the pleasure of taking a group of people from Louisiana on my tour bus. Some of these people were telling me about the town they are from, the excitement of New Orleans and the shrimp boats they use to catch the fresh shrimp they love so much. No frozen shrimp for these people; they are experts on all things shrimp!
One man showed me pictures of his beautiful house after he had just remodeled it; beautiful tile, hardwood floors, new paint and then WHAM… the next picture showed his beautiful home in a mound of toothpicks the day Katrina blew into town.
After Katrina, they moved into temporary shelter, rebuilt their homes, and, WHAM… Isaac blew through town! Instead of concentrating on what they lost, they work together and concentrate on rebuilding.
Wouldn’t it be great if more people could learn a lesson from the thousands of people who lost everything to Katrina? Sometimes you have to lose everything to find yourself! Material possessions can be fun but they cannot replace the smile on a loved ones face.
If you took a moment to think about losing everything, and starting over from the ground up, what would New Beginning would you create? Presents and packages are great for awhile, but they can never replace the look of a smile!
The next time you get ready to complain because you don’t have the newest or latest and greatest “must have” item, look around you and give thanks for the roof over your head, hot and cold running water, food in the cupboard and the ability to create a New Beginning!
P.S. If you ever get the chance to visit Louisiana, you may want to check out Robin Seafood Company for the finest shrimp and Select Louisiana Oysters to tempt your taste buds! CLICK HERE to watch Don Robin share more about their Katrina experience… and then… go hug someone you appreciate!
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