As I sit at my desk, listening to Life's About Choices Radio where I interviewed Dale Stanten (The Hooker's Daughter) I am reminded that each of us has a most special gift within us. At 70 years old, Dale shares her story of being the daughter of a prostitute.
The important thing to understand about Dale's story is that she has not allowed her childhood to hold her back from sharing the gift that she is.
I hear too many women who believe that they can not go after their dreams because they are allowing something in their past to hold them back. When women share their stories about overcoming adversity, they are giving other women an opportunity to hope and to believe that if another woman can overcome something in her past, then she also has that ability.
Give yourself permission to speak the truth, even if your voice shakes because the truth will set you FREE!
How many times have you wanted to set goals, think outside of the box or "go against the grain" but a limiting belief stopped you? What would you like to do? Stop right now and ask yourself this question, "If I could "DO" or "BE" anything I wanted, what would I do or be?" Now ask yourself this question, "what is holding me back?"
You are a gift to this world, there is no other person "just like you". How are you sharing your gift with the world? What were you put on this earth to do? Are you living your life or a life that someone else wants you to live? Do you wake up every single morning and jump out of bed wondering what wonderful event is going to happen in your life today? On a scale of 1 to 10 (10 being the BEST) how EXCITED are you about your life? What would it take to make it a 10?
We only have one life to live so shouldn't we be doing everything we can to bring abundance into our lives? You have everything you need to live the abundant life you deserve. If you have not yet learned how to tap into your abundance to know the gift that you are, what are you waiting for? What secret desire is burning deep inside of you that you have not spoken out loud? It is my wish for you that you realize your potential and get out there and Party Like Purple to make the most of every single day you have on this earth. Life is short, and time is running out so what are you going to commit to, this very minute, that has the potential to bring abundance into your life? It is time to stop the excuses, and start living.
Speaker, Author, Women's Life Coach & Media Host
This morning, as I prepared for an upcoming meeting with a group of women from my networking group, I found myself thinking back...
Only four short years ago I was looking for a networking group to join that would give me an opportunity to connect with like-minded women entrepreneurs.
I wasn't interested in selling a product or trying to get new clients as much as I was interested in meeting women who understood that growing our entrepreneurial business is about integral connections.
I was amazed that I could not find such a group, so, I decided to start one. I wanted the meeting to be free of charge because I felt called to "pay it forward" for all of the blessings that were happening in my life and business. I did all of the preparation; finding an ideal location, promoting the group, preparing the agenda and so on.
The day of my first meeting finally arrived and I was eager to see who would show up and if my ideas would be well received. I arrived early to the meeting place, set up for the meeting and sat down to wait for my guests to arrive. A half hour went by and then 45 minutes and finally it was time to admit to myself that no one was going to show.
The next week, I arrived to my meeting location, set everything up and sat down to wait for my guests. 15 minutes after the start time, there were still no guests. As I was driving home from that meeting, many thoughts were running through my head but the main thought that I kept thinking was, "when my success level gets to a point where people are paying me thousands of dollars to speak or be one of my coaching clients, all of these women who didn't show up are going to be very disappointed that they didn't attend my event when it was FREE!"
On my drive home, I was thinking about a lot of things, but never did I think about giving up. I knew that if I was looking for the kind of group that I wanted to attend, that there had to be other woman out there who was also looking for the same kind of opportunity. When I got home, I immediately started promoting my group in a different way and by the third week, I had 26 women show up to my meeting.
Now, four years later, while preparing my dining room for a meeting with some of the women in my group, I found myself reflecting on all of the wonderful things that have come out of my group. I have met women who have become great strategic business partners, friends, confidants, and most of all, women who saw my vision and were happy to be a part of it.
Our group has raised money for children's homes, women's shelters, and local businesses and now offers a global opportunity for women to belong to a group with integrity. Now I ask you, "Where would all of these women be if I had given up after that second week?" The beautiful thing about our group is the fact that from one woman's idea, hundreds of women have prospered. The reason that our group is so amazing is due to the fact that each woman understands that "it takes a village". We understand that no one woman makes it to the top by herself. There is always someone there, encouraging her to "go for it". Whether it is a teacher, mentor, life coach, friend, neighbor, family member or another woman in her networking group.
So the next time you have a great idea, but you are afraid that no one will understand your vision, I suggest that you go for it anyway. Take it from me, "one woman truly can make a difference!"
Speaker, Author, Women's Life Coach & Media Host
Living your life in high self-esteem can be the key to unlock your greatest desires in life. But what happens when your self-esteem is at an all-time low or you didn’t have much to begin with?
High self-esteem can mean the difference of going after that new client, asking for the promotion you want, working up the nerve to talk to that special guy you’ve had your eye on or even having that conversation that you have been avoiding.
An example of creating high self-esteem can be found in your shampoo bottle! When you buy a new bottle of shampoo, you are more likely to feel that you have an abundance of shampoo without giving much thought as to how much you use. However, when the bottle is close to empty, and you haven’t been shopping in a while, you probably tend to use the shampoo very sparingly.
Self-esteem is a lot like shampoo; when you have an excess of self-esteem, you are more likely to be happy and live life to the fullest. When you are low on self-esteem, you are more likely to live your life sparingly; being hesitant to join a conversation, stand up for yourself, ask for that promotion, volunteer information during a meeting or standing your ground when someone is requesting more of you than you are ready to give.
What is self-esteem and where does it come from? Self-esteem starts with our self-talk. Self-talk is that little voice inside our head that starts talking when someone else stops talking. For example; if I were to compliment you on your shirt, would you be able to smile and say “thank you?” Or would your self-talk kick in, causing you to think, “this shirt, oh my gosh, why did she have to say anything about this shirt? I haven’t done laundry for so long and this was the only clean shirt in my closet. I didn’t even have time to iron it and I am sure that she is really noticing every wrinkle in this shirt. Why, oh why, did she have to say something about my shirt, today of all days? Why couldn’t she have complimented me yesterday when I was feeling great about my outfit?”
You can see how low self-esteem and negative self-talk can take the life out of your living but unlike shampoo, I don’t know of any store that sells self-esteem. So, where do you go to refill your self-esteem?
The answer lies inside “YOU!” Let’s start with your health. On a scale of 1 to 10 (10 being the BEST) where are you? If your answer is less than a 10, what are you doing to improve your health? Let’s face it, I think you will agree that it is no fun to be sick. When you feel a cold coming on or experience depression, the whole world seems out of control.
When you’re tired, run down, out of energy and the highlight of your day is plopping down in front of your TV set, that is your clue that it is time to put some life into your living! Most people have forgotten what “healthy” feels like. Start where you are and create positive habits and eliminate your negative habits. Get off the couch, go for a walk. Turn off the TV, read a book. Stop watching the news, get out there and make the news. Learn to cook healthier, stop eating fast food and drinking soda. You are what you eat and your brain is counting on you to choose healthy nutritious food to fuel your body. If you start your day with a bowl of cereal and milk, coffee and a donut, soda and a candy bar or you skip breakfast altogether, you are setting yourself up for a day of disaster.
Our bodies need fuel; nutrients, vitamins, minerals, water, sunlight, exercise and a happy mindset. You won’t find these things in a fast food joint or a vending machine. Starting your day off with the right kind of protein can make all the difference between getting through the day and sailing through your day.
Do you want to know the best part… YOU get to choose how you live your life, what you feed your body and the level of fun you add to your daily routine.
Every negative has a positive; sometimes you have to look a little harder to find it, but it is there. If your self-talk is full of negative comments and put downs, how will you build your self-esteem to the level you need to live every day to the fullest?
Create a habit of waking up every morning and finding 10 things to be grateful for and then do the same thing before you fall asleep at night. Studies show that whatever is on our mind right before we fall asleep is what we will take into our subconscious when we are sleeping. If you are a person who falls asleep with the TV on, you have no control over what is being loaded into your subconscious as you fall asleep. Commercials and negative news shows permeate our minds and we think we are tuning them out but we are not. How can you eliminate the negative habit of falling asleep in front of the TV with a better more positive habit?
So, the next time you reach for your shampoo bottle, think about how easy it is to get a refill. Then, tell yourself that your self-esteem can be as abundant as your shampoo. Because, after all, Life Is All About Choices!
By Nancy Mueller
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