It makes sense; why take the blame when there is someone or something close by to take the blame for you!
As children grow, we teach them to take responsibility for their actions and guide them to make positive choices. But, what if the person teaching the child has challenges of their own with placing blame?
What about adults? How do adults handle situations when they make a negative choice; who do they blame?
Take the person who is in a job that they absolutely loathe. Why are they there? They blame the economy (no other good jobs are available), they blame their family situation (I can't possibly quit, my parents are counting on me to do well in my career), they blame their spouse (if only he/she understood how unhappy I am and would give me the support that I need to quit).
What about the unhealthy adult? They blame genetics (my family has always been overweight, it is something we have learned to live with), I have to eat fast food (it is the cheapest way to feed my family), I can't exercise (I don't have the time, the money, the support).
What about money? Who do we blame for our lack of money? Money can be a very touchy subject for many people, especially if they feel a lack of money. (I can't quit this job because it pays so well, I was born poor and poor is what I know, if I could just win the lottery, money doesn't make you happy, money isn't everything!).
When it comes to money, we have millions of excuses and ways to blame our current financial situation. Consider this:
Q: "When do people think about money the most?
A: "When they lack money or fear a lack of money."
Blame, excuses, reasons not to take responsibility for our choices in life are simply stories we tell ourselves to get through the day. Very early in life we learn to tell stories. Some stories serve us well, (I am going to grow up and make a difference in the world), some stories hold us back, (money doesn't grow on trees - I will need to study hard and work hard if I am ever going to make something of myself).
When you play these stories over and over in your head, they begin to be a part of your belief system. This belief system can become a limiting belief. All limiting beliefs hold you back from your true potential.
So... what is your story? Is it holding you back or part of your success? If it is holding you back, would NOW be a good time to change that story? We can choose to change our story, OR, we can continue to say, "The devil made me do it!"
Changing Your Story with New Beginnings With Nancy
Now imagine that at age 34, you found out that you were never actually adopted because the two people you thought were your parents had actually stolen you when you were 2 years old.
This is the true story of Judi Rohleder, and how she eliminated the limiting beliefs in her life to share her story with the world.
If a child is told often enough that he or she is no good, worthless, and will never amount to anything, they will grow up to believe it to be true. This perceived "truth" can hold us back from moving forward in our life and enjoying the abundance that is meant to be in our life.
Too many people believe they "can't' do something because of a story that was told to them and the story became a self fulfilling prophecy. You can change the story in your head, and rewrite your destiny. This is one woman's story of how she went from a limiting belief to author in a few short months.
Judi's story; Ripped From My Mother's Arms, I Was A Black Market Baby is available HERE. If her story has intrigued you in any way, please feel free to share this video with people you know. Judi is still searching for her relatives and, who knows, by sharing the video you may be just the person to help her find them.
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My story starts with child abuse, fear, anxiety and the belief that I would never amount to anything.
Your story may be one of happiness and a belief that you can be anything you desire.
It's really all about perception.
Take a close look at the picture to the left. This is a picture of something you have seen many many times throughout your life. And yet, looking at it in this manner, you may have difficulty seeing it for what it really is.
Take a close look - let your mind relax... WHAT DO YOU SEE?
Our mind is a very powerful tool that can bring us our greatest desire or hold us back from the abundance that we seek.
All people struggle with limiting beliefs. These beliefs are so strongly ingrained in our subconscious that we KNOW with absolute certainty that they must be true.
Truth: If you let go of an object in your hand, it will fall to the ground
Truth: If you touch a hot stove, you will get burned
Truth: After night, comes day
Truth: You can "DO", "BE", or "HAVE" anything you desire. Is this statement a TRUTH or do you have a limiting belief that this might not be true?
Whether you THINK you can, or you THINK you can't, you are probably right. ~ Henry Ford
Can we think our way to happiness? Can we think our way to abundance? Can we think our way to love? Can we think our way to a healthy body? The answer is "YES" to all of these questions.
Is it possible that you have a limiting belief (a story you have told yourself over and over so many times that you believe it to be absolute FACT) that is holding you back from the success and abundance that the Universe is waiting to add to your life?
Limiting Beliefs can include:
My story began with the belief that I would never amount to anything. When I learned that I had the power to change my story, to eliminate the limiting beliefs that were holding me back and then started sharing my story and encouraging others to change their story, miracles began to happen.
Perception is everything because after all, Life Is All About Choices!
Speaker, Author, Women's Life Coach & Media Host
Encouraging Women to Change Their Story!
Right about now I am thinking that my world is perfect!
Have you ever stopped and asked yourself "how you got where you are right now?"
I don't mean how you got to the specific location you are in at the moment, I am talking about how you arrived at this moment in time. If you are reading this blog from your phone, how did you get the phone, what made you choose that particular brand, what did your previous phone look like.
You see, every situation we find ourselves in have to do with choices we made somewhere along our path in life.
I would like to share one of my chosen paths with you...
In 2013 I heard of a new place opening up in my city called The Girl Cave. This sounded like an interesting business and since I am always looking for opportunities to network with women in my industry, I decided to check it out. When I walked in the front door, the owner, Georgette Sleeth, was standing in the middle of the room and she looked at me and said, "I know you!" I knew that I had never met her before and as I was looking for the right comment she said, "I just ordered your book, it just came in the mail today from amazon!"
That was the start of my path with The Girl Cave and Georgette Sleeth. The Girl Cave truly is an extraordinary place to gather so naturally when I have a workshop to lead, I choose to hold it there whenever possible.
During one of my workshops, I met a woman named Judi who had decided to attend my workshop. The next month, I held another workshop about writing your own book and Judi attended that workshop as well. Before the book writing workshop, Judi took me aside and said, "Nancy, you have truly changed my life with your workshops and I am looking forward to this one in particular because I have a book that I want to write. When I asked her what her book was about, I nearly fell off my high heels when she told me.
After that workshop Judi became my client and worked very hard on completing her book and all of her hard work has come to an end as her book is currently being published. In honor of where we met, Judi has decided to hold her book signing at The Girl Cave and many of the women that Judi has met through networking will be attending her book signing.
I am so proud of Judi and her accomplishments and as I think back to the question, "how did Judi get here" I smile as I think ...
Judi had a dream; to write her book. Georgette had a dream; to open The Girl Cave. I had a dream; to live my mission statement by being a life coach for women. At some point our dreams intersected because we are women who network with the belief that when women gather, we learn from the collective knowledge of the group.
In thinking back to "how I got here" I think my answer would have to be, "because the Universe sees fit to make sure my world is perfect!
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