After my marriage of 34 years ended, I suddenly found myself dating!
Dating, hmmmm, what did I know about dating? Not much, so I started asking around and well, just about everyone suggested internet dating; so, I gave it a try.
When talking about dating on the internet, one topic that intrigued me was the conversations that women had over their FEARS of dating through the internet.
Internet Dating does not have to include FEAR!!!
Here are a couple of suggestions that I recommend if you are dating through the internet:
By Nancy Mueller
First, you have to plant the tree
First, you have find a group
Second, you weed and fertilize
Second, you will want to put in exactly what you want to get out of it
Third, it lays dormant for awhile
Third, you are not sure if this is the right group for you
Fourth, you start to see buds
Fourth, you start to feel as though you are connecting with other members
Fifth, the buds bloom into beautiful roses
Fifth, as you work together, everyone in the group prospers
Nothing happens overnight. Just as one bloom does not a tree make, one person does not a group make
TEAM = Together Everyone Achieves More ~There is no "I" in the word TEAM.
When you start networking with the attitude of "what can I do for you" instead of "please buy my product or service" the energy of the group will shift and your group will be as successful as the rose bush ~ one rose is beautiful, a bush FULL of roses is a sight to behold!
I was talking with someone I met at a networking event yesterday and as she was giving me a list of reasons about why she was having challenges with her business. As she stood there complaining, I was reminded of an event from my childhood.
I was 9 years old, standing in the kitchen watching my mother prepare dinner. As she was stirring something on the stove, my father came home, walked up behind her, put his arms around her waist, and handed her a little black velvet box.
As I watched my mother open the box with wide-eyed amazement, wondering what treasure might lie inside this little black box, I could hardly contain myself. Presents weren't a common thing in our home and through childhood dreams of fairy tales and wonder, I watched her slowly open the box.
As she opened the lid, there, nestled inside the velvet case was a beautiful purplish stone surrounded by diamonds. I thought that surely this would put a smile on my mothers face. I waited for my mother to turn around and return my father's embrace; just like in the movies. Instead of hugs, my mother snapped the box closed and ran; crying, from the room.
It wasn't until many years later that I understood my mother's reaction to the ring. You see, my father was famous for quitting every job he ever had and since he had just quit his most current job, my parents could not even afford to feed my brothers and sister and I; let alone buy a shiny opal ring surrounded by diamonds.
I am often reminded of this event when I hear someone say they can not afford to invest in themselves. People can't seem to find the money to buy a self-help book, take a class, hire a coach, go to counseling, go back to school (the list is endless) but they will find a way to pay for cable, buy that new video game, the latest gadget, or the last round during happy hour.
Life truly is all about choices! The choices you make today can bring you closer to success or move you farther away from success. You can choose to turn off the TV and read a book. You can also choose to watch the TV to find out who won the dance contest or got a date with the bachelor. One choice will bring you closer to success and one will prolong your success. Shopping and presents are fine for awhile, but success will give you a permanent smile!
Just a thought!
That 20 minute ride to work that just took you 45 minutes may have gotten you thinking about how nice it would be to work from home!
That co-worker who has been rude one too many times may be making you think about how much more positive your life would be if you never crossed paths again.
That last round of job eliminations that has you now doing the work of 4 employees WITHOUT a pay raise may be putting a strain on your personal life.
Not having had a pay raise in the last few years is making you ask, "should I look for something else, or stay here where at least I know how much money I will receive every week".
Since your last birthday you have been evaluating why you are working to create someone else's dream while putting yours on hold has got you frustrated.
Having to miss yet another special event at your child's school because your boss would not let you leave the office has you feeling like you are missing out on the milestones in your child's life!
Many women have been dealing with these conflicting emotions and made the decision to leave the corporate world behind to become their own boss but how do you know if you are ready to make that dream a reality?
If you are one of the thousands of women who are self-employed or thinking about being self-employed it is important to know what you are truly passionate about so that with all of the ups and downs of being self employed, you will be working at something you love!
KNOW YOUR STRENGTHS AND WEAKNESSES: If you know nothing about networking, building your website, social media or even how your tax bracket will change; these are areas that you will want to investigate before you make the leap to self-employment.
MAKE SURE YOU KNOW THE NUMBERS: what is the absolute minimum you can afford to live on while you are creating success within your company?
CREATE YOUR MISSION STATEMENT: It is important that you create and KNOW your Mission Statement. Your Mission Statement is comparable to the destination you have in mind when you drive your car. Without it, you will be wandering aimlessly while you try to figure out where you are going and how you are going to get there.
INVEST IN YOURSELF: Remember, YOU are your business! With that simple statement in mind, how are you investing in YOU? Your vision, values, image and how you make a "first impression" are important to your success.
Remember: whether you think you can, or think you can't... you are probably right. ~ Henry Ford
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