How many of you know people in life who, just by walking into a room, can immediately drain the energy in the room. Once they walk into the room, everyone else sort of walks away or leaves! Or, if you spend time with these people, after an hour or so, you feel totally drained.
How many of you know people who, when the walk into a room bring such a positive energy that the room just seems to brighten? Have you ever asked yourself, “Do I have a nourishing personality or a toxic personality?”
If you want to increase your self-esteem, consider hanging out with nourishing people. At this time of year, we often encounter many toxic people at holiday parties or family gatherings. We often feel that it is our duty to attend these holiday gatherings but if you really want to build high self esteem and step into your power, you may want to consider avoiding that holiday event this year.
Likewise, throughout the rest of the year, use the same thought process when determining which family or social events you want to attend. If you are currently a member of a networking group that you feel contains one or more toxic people, consider leaving the group to look for a group that is nourishing and leaves you feeling uplifted during and after the meeting!
You are known by the 5 people you hang around with the most; ask yourself if those 5 people are more nourishing or toxic and then decide if you should spend more or less time with them!
One of the concepts in Martial Arts is to use your opponents force against him or her. Rather than allowing force to meet force, one opponent will step off to the side and use the opposing force against their opponent. Using this same theory, you can often do this with the toxic people in your life. When you are resisting someone else’s negativity (you say “no I’m not, the other person says “yes, you are”) you allow struggle or conflict into your life thereby putting yourself in the situation of having to defend yourself.
Consider, instead of resisting their energy, blend with it and move to the side to allow their negative energy to be used against them. You can apply this same principle to relationships. For instance, if a friend were to tell you that you are a bad friend because you never call. You can reply, “If I were you, I would feel the same way, I probably am a bad friend!” You will probably find a long silence from your friend while they try to understand what just happened. He or she will probably respond with, “Well, you’re not that bad.” If you stop resisting people judging you or criticizing you, and simply tell them that you can understand why they might think or feel the way they do, they will have nowhere to go because all of their energy will be used in defending their point. Agreeing with them does not mean they are right. It simply means you understand how they could have that perception or you can understand how they could feel that way. You are not saying they are right, but internally, inside of you, you know that you have your point of view and your perception of who you are and that’s right too. It’s as if you can both be right at the same time, that there is no truth out there, because there is only the other person’s experience of you and your own experience of you. We can choose to believe our experience of us, while letting the other person have their experience of us.
Can you give yourself permission to let go of the toxic people in your life or to at least minimize the time you spend with them?
Would now be a good time for you to create a New Beginning in who you choose to surround yourself with? Remember, life is all about choices!
The first part of any plan is determining what you want to accomplish. Your goals can be as simple as a dollar figure or as complex as expanding into a new area or specialty.
Make your goals as S.M.A.R.T. (Specific, Measurable, Attainable, Realistic, Timely) as possible and focus on areas you can actually measure. This will make choosing your tactics and making hard decisions during the year much easier.
To help you narrow your business focus for 2013, ask yourself the following: “What was my biggest missed/unexplored opportunity in 2012?”
Once you’ve set your goals, you need to decide who you want to spend time with and which clients are most likely to help you succeed. Answering the “who” question will help focus your time and efforts to reach your goals. Ask yourself where you found your highest quality leads in 2012 to see if it those tactics will serve you in 2013.
Remembering that “You Are Your Brand”, keep in mind that clients gravitate to the business person they feel will best serve their specific needs. To be successful every business person needs a brand strategy that answers the question: “Who do you want to be when your business gains momentum?” Defining yourself as an expert in a particular area or niche can help the right clients find you much easier. Developing a brand strategy or positioning statement is easy. Just answer this, “If someone describes you as a professional, what do you want them to say?”
Be clear on your goals; for example: “Starting a new blog” isn’t a great goal. “Building an online reputation that yields clients each month” is a much better goal. Clients don’t just fall out of the sky. To engage the right clients today, you need the right tools, and a good plan for getting the exposure that will boost your bottom line.
Examine your key messages and ask yourself, “What do I offer that no one else can?”
Your web page information is the reason(s) clients should call you over the next person in your area of expertise. This should show up in your marketing materials, websites, ads and anywhere else you promote your business. Is your business card professional and does it include a recent picture of you? All pictures and information should be up to date on business cards and web presence. Basically, your key message converts your brand strategy into words and phrases that explain why people need you over someone else in your field. This would be a great time to take a second look at the copy on your website and determine if it is time to focus your internet or web presence for bottom line impact.
You have a web page, but is it helping you generate business by getting found? Does your web copy need to be rewritten by a professional? Google yourself and check your page rank by searching your field of expertise in your area. If you’re not on the first page, chances are you’ll never be found. Over 75% of all searchers never get past the first page!
Consider creating a goal to appear in the top three Google spots to help you generate referrals that will boost your bottom line. Keep in mind that leveraging social media is about raising awareness about your business organically, not abusing your connections with marketing banter.
Start 2013 off right and avoid using your social profile as a never ending stream of useless information or shameless marketing tactics. Look instead for interesting natural opportunities to mention your business (like thank you notes, news, and stats). Some interesting business content you can share socially include checking in at your most recent location, InstaGram photos, Pinterest, or local information regarding your field of expertise.
A New Year is a perfect time to create a New Beginning in your life or business. Remember, if you keep doing what you’ve always done, you will keep getting what you have always gotten!
The WANT was there; work from home!
The DESIRE was there; be your own boss!
The POSSIBILITY was there; make all the money you want!
The DREAM was there; have time freedom…
THEN, REALITY set in…
…you wake up, get the children off to school, sit down for a cup of coffee, read your email, which leads to internet browsing, which leads to catching up with friends on your favorite social media, and before you know it, it is time for lunch.
WOW! Where has the day gone?
Now you decide to put in a load of laundry, clean up the kitchen, start thinking about dinner, and oops, your day has gotten away from you.
How do you prioritize your day? How do you make business a priority when you work from home and you look around and see so much that needs your attention?
You may want to start by creating a weekly calendar that shows each day in 1-hour increments. From there, make a list of the things that “MUST” be accomplished on a daily basis (i.e. exercise, breakfast, shower, walk the dog, etc.) and put them on your calendar. A good rule of thumb is to set aside one hour every day and break it down into twenty minute increments that consist of 20 minutes of reading something in your field, 20 minutes of listening to an audio about something in your field and 20 minutes of exercise. If you schedule this hour into your day, it will get done! Remember, if you don’t manage your time, others will manage it for you!
Take everything you want to accomplish and think in 1-hour increments until you see it clearly on paper. This simple plan could be the key to keep you on track and from giving up your dream of working from home! Remember, if you keep doing what you have always done, you will continue to get what you currently have. Creating a New Beginning can start with something as small as 1-hour increments!
Preventing attack situations is an important self defense requirement for any woman; an important self defense technique is knowing where danger occurs, and avoiding those risky circumstances. Remember, the best way to win a fight is not to be there.
Tip #1: Be attentive and aware of your surroundings. It's a bad idea to be walking through a shady park or in your apartment stairwell with your iPod headphones in your ears, potentially deafening you to the approach of an attacker. Also, stay in well lit, public places. This holds especially true for women who like to exercise outdoors. If you must run outdoors, only run in public places or run with a friend. Pairing up with another person is a great deterrent for predators.
Tip #2: Look confident. Predators are often attracted to women who look like they won't be able to defense themselves.
Tip #3: When driving at night, park as close to the entrance as possible and avoid dark parking lots. Carry a flashlight on your keychain. When walking to your car, ask someone to come with you. Also, have your keys ready to enter your car immediately and lock it from the inside. You can become a target if you're being followed and linger outside of your car looking for your keys in your purse. A great self defense move for women is holding the keys in a defensive position-position the keys to extrude from between your fingers like brass knuckles. It sounds unusual, but it adds significant clout should you need to physically defend yourself from an attacker.
#4: Know what potential attackers look like. Someone loitering in a parking lot or an alley is a potential sign of trouble. If you notice someone following you and you feel in danger, go to a well-lit, public area with lots of people and call a friend to come meet you instead of attempting to walk to your car or home alone.
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