 Being a Life Sensei goes beyond teaching martial arts; it involves guiding individuals on their journey toward personal fulfillment and overall well-being. Let's delve into the transformative role of a Life Sensei and how they empower others to live their best lives.
Being a Life Sensei is an opportunity to empower others, inspire personal growth, and foster a sense of purpose and fulfillment. By guiding individuals on their path to self-discovery and supporting them through life's challenges, I have the privilege of witnessing transformative change and helping them create lives they truly love. Being a Life Sensei is part of what my J.O.B. (Jump Outta Bed), this is why I'm fond of saying, "I Love My Life!" Nancy Mueller ~ Life Sensei at Mastering Your Beliefs
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 Inner-child work is an approach to recognizing and healing childhood trauma. Healing your inner child addresses the unmet needs your child-self longed for and your adult-self is still searching for.
So how do you know the difference between needing to heal your inner-child and just having a bad day? The first step is to pay attention to how you're feeling. Do you notice that whatever is causing you to have a bad day feels a lot like the negative feelings you had as a child. It may take you a minute to connect the dots but when you begin to see the correlation, you know you're on the right track to healing your inner-child. As you learn to heal your inner-child you'll have less bad days and more happy days when you learn to let go of the negative emotions associated with your thoughts. Here are some unmet needs your child-self may have longed for and your adult-self may still be thinking about or experiencing:
If you see the correlation and recognize any of the above thoughts showing up in your life, this is your opportunity to do some inner-child work. The first step to doing this work is to teach your brain to reach for a more positive thought than the thoughts you're currently thinking. If you'd like some help with this, download your free guide to Turning Your Negatives Into Positives In 4 Easy Steps. This is how you witness the true inner-powerful you possess to stop being triggered by negative emotions associated with painful experiences.  It's understandable that children become easy prey when they are victimized by adults. But what happens when adults are victimized by other adults?
When I was 23 years old, I was at the doctor's office for a routine visit. During this visit, I was alone in the room with the doctor. He had me sit up while he looked into my eyes, ran his hands along my jaw feeling for any abnormalities in my throat. He then untied my gown and continued to run his hands down my shoulders and chest until he was holding my breasts in each hand while complimenting me on the perfect shape of each breast. As he held my breasts in his hands, he said one of my breasts seemed to be slightly lower than the other and continued to look from one to the other making comments and assuring me that I was perfect. After a few minutes of concentrating on each breast individually, he took his hands away and said I could cover up. By this stage of my life I had been through two miscarriages and two cesarian section births so doctor exams were quite familiar to me. As I walked to my car, I kept asking myself what had just happened. Every prior breast exam I'd ever had took place with me lying on my back and putting one hand behind my head during the exam. Never had I been asked to be in a seated position during a breast exam. Was my discomfort all in my mind? Was this something new? Why did I feel so uncomfortable? I shared my experience with a friend; she told me I was imagining things. I told my husband; he told me it was in my head and not every man was a sexual predator like my father. So I stopped asking other people and kept quiet as I came to the conclusion that I should just stop thinking about it. Very soon after that visit, I received a notice from my doctor's office telling me that my doctor had been transferred to another state and I would need to choose a new doctor. This led to more questions; had he done something similar to other women? Should I have said something to the nurses in the office? Did my silence keep him in a position to do the same to another patient and if he did, what if she wasn't as strong as me and it was worse for her than it was for me? I started thinking about the teacher who had propositioned me, the jobs I quit because the boss was giving me too much attention and all the times I hadn't said a word because I doubted my right to say, "what you did is wrong and you don't have the right to use your authority over me in this way." We remain silent for so many reasons; we're afraid to lose our job so we barter our right to say "no" with our need to have an income. We're afraid to create problems within the family so we do our best to stay out of harm's way during family gatherings. We don't want to be the cause of ruining someone's life so we remain silent. We don't speak up for fear of being labeled a troublemaker, a liar or a woman with loose morals. We make the choice to remain silent because we fear the unknown or that we won't be believed but what we're really afraid of is diminishing our value by letting others know what happened. Many of us don't realize that we are the only person who has the power to diminish our value. The only way we are going to take the power away from these silent predators is by increasing our value of "SELF" (self-esteem, self-love, self-confidence, self-image, self-worth). As we expand our value of who we are, we break the silence that has gone on for too long. Every woman deserves to be heard, valued and seen for who she is but this can't happen until she can see it for herself. The only power a person has over us is the power we give them. When we stop asking questions such as "why me" we give ourselves the opportunity to shift from a victim mindset to a mindset of power and prosperity. It's not what happens to you that matters, it's what you do with what happens. Believe in who you are, believe in your value, believe in your Divine right to stop suffering in silence and start living your life through harmony, healing and happiness. Trust what you're feeling, speak up and remind yourself that if you're living in fear, it's because you have a belief about something that may or may not happen in the future. When you master your belief in the present you are using your inner strength to create your future. If you're still being triggered by the memory of a silent predator in your life, I want you to know that it is possible to let go of the painful emotions associated with your experience. The first step to doing this is to teach your brain to reach for a more positive thought than the thoughts you're currently thinking. If you'd like some help with this, download your free guide to Turning Your Negatives Into Positives In 4 Easy Steps. This is how you witness the true inner-powerful you possess to stop being triggered by negative emotions associated with painful experiences. Nancy Mueller ~ Life Sensei By  We all have a story. In fact we have many stories!
Our stories are created from the thoughts we had today, yesterday, last week, last month and the years before that. The more we think about them, we are either feeling better about our life or feeling less hopeful about our life. Our stories come from the thoughts we think and the stories taught to us by others. Our stories include who we believe we are, what we believe we're capable of, the identity we've created based on how we see ourselves through our own eyes and the eyes of others. We create stories about why we can or can't achieve our goals, receive love, experience fulfilling relationships, enjoy a healthy body and a sense of well-being. Our stories become self-fulfilling prophesies causing us to wonder why our lives are not going in the direction we'd hoped. We can get so used to living with the struggle that we create a story about why struggle is a part of life! We look to outside sources to make our story better so we can live happier lives but these sources are usually a temporary solution to an ongoing challenge. What you're experiencing may be out of your control but the struggle is optional once you choose to go beyond your story! Once you realize that everything you're experiencing is based on a story you're telling yourself about the experience, you can begin to go beyond your story. Start by asking yourself, "What story am I telling myself about this particular experience?" When you can answer the question as a person watching your story instead of being the character in your story, you'll be able shift your perspective about what's going on. This is the first step to going beyond your story! For example: if your story sounds something like: "No matter what I do, I can't seem to get ahead. I can never seem to create the financial success I want in my business." If this is your story, every choice you make will reenforce your story. Your mind always wants to be right and will go to great lengths to make your story true. It's up to you to re-train your mind and this will happen with daily practice as you learn to Go Beyond Your Story. Whether something that happened yesterday, a week ago, a year ago or 30 years ago, it can negatively effect you if the memory of the event is still triggering negative emotions within you and is negatively affecting your story. When a past event is triggering you now, you’re reliving it emotionally and because the mind does not know the difference between something that’s actually happening or something you’re remembering, you are reliving it in your present moment. Do you want proof of this? Think about a scary movie you saw or something that frightened you. Focus on a specific part of the movie or whatever you were afraid of and watch how you can summon that feeling of fear into your body. Even though the event happened in the past, recalling how it made you feel is happening in the now! If your story doesn't FEEL good, you're setting yourself up for mental, physical and emotional struggle! When the pain of where you are, becomes greater than your fear of letting go, you'll be able to go beyond your story to create different and positive experiences. Once you've identified your story, ask yourself if this is how you want to be identified by yourself or others. Do you want to be known as a person who can't seem to get ahead? Your answer will probably start with "No, but..." It's the "but" that gets in the way of your prosperity by blocking prosperous thoughts. When you've identified your story, keep asking yourself "WHY?" Why do I believe that? Why do I choose to hold onto this story? Why did I allow myself to create this story? As you force yourself to answer the "WHY" question, you are moving out of subconscious thought and into conscious thought. This is how you make conscious choices about what you want instead of choosing by default. This is how you create your life instead of living your life by default. When you go beyond your story, your thoughts change, your words change, your choices change and your vibration (feelings) change. This is how you begin to feel better, hopeful, powerful and unstoppable. It is from this change that your story will shift from one of struggle to one of success! All you have to do is Go Beyond Your Story! Nancy Mueller ~ Life Sensei  I’m so excited to have received this set of bone china with lemons and doubly excited for what they represent for me.
They are a gift from my mother. If you’ve read my books or follow my work, you’ll know that my mother and I didn’t always have an easy relationship, in fact, most of my life it was quite painful. Several years ago my mother started to follow me on social media and once she realized what I was teaching, she called me and asked, "I've been watching what you're teaching, do you think it will work for you and I?" When the student is ready, the teacher will appear. That was the start of each of us being able to go beyond our story about our painful past to heal our relationship in the present so we can stop creating our future from our past. This is how we break the cycle of anything unwanted. We teach people how to treat us based on the treatment we allow from others. If memories of your painful past arise, the only power it has over you is the power you give it. No one has power over another person; it's only when we give away our power to someone that they can use it against us. It's not what happens to us that matters, it's what we do with what happens. Blame is a weapon people use when seeking the burden of proof because they are holding on to hate, anger and animosity based on a driving force to be right. Your burden will only get heavier when you're looking for reasons to prove the other person wrong because all you're really doing is proving your role as the victim. The burden of proof becomes a vicious cycle until your desire to heal and feel peace within your mind, body and soul outweighs the driving force of vengeance within you. You will know you have healed when the peace within you outweighs your desire for revenge and your memories no longer make you cry. Learn the power you possess when you go beyond your story because when you wake up every day feeling the joy and happiness that comes from the peace you feel in your mind, body and soul; you'll know you've learned to turn lemons into lemonade! Nancy Mueller ~ Life Sensei  I want to care how I feel and everything I think do, and say; I want that to matter more than everything else
I want to care how I feel I care so much about this that I’ll change my thoughts that don’t feel good I care so much that I’ll focus upon the people who are easy to feel good about when I think of others I care so much about myself that I will stop feeding the negative thoughts about people and experiences both past and present that make me uncomfortable every time those thoughts come to my awareness and practice shifting negative thoughts to positive thoughts to create feelings of love, joy, happiness, abundance and prosperity I care so much about myself that I will focus in a way that feels good to me. I care so much that I will listen to the calling of the Source within me, even when it calls me away from anger, rage, judgment, guilt and frustration I care so much about myself that I’m going to listen for that consistent, steady voice within me. I care so much that I am actively aware of the vibration of Source energy and I immediately go allow myself to flow with it When I am following the guidance of my Inner Being, when I practice subject by subject, into vibrational alignment with how my Source feels about me, I can reach expanded feelings of love and joy within me I care so much about how I feel that I tell myself continually that I am a magnificent Being There is nothing that I cannot achieve The world always addresses itself to me in positive ways. Everything is always working out for me. I live a charmed life Things are supposed to, and always do go well for me Seas part for me! Doors open for me I have the resources of the Universe at my disposal I live in an environment where I am inspired to a new thought, and as soon as I give birth to it, things align in order to bring me the actualization or the manifestation of it I am an extension of Source energy I am God in physical body I am worthy, and because I am worthy, good things come to me If I am sick it is temporary because it is natural for me to be well If I am not abundant of things that are important to me, I know it’s temporary because it’s natural that I be abundant There is nothing that I am supposed to do but all kinds of things that I want to do When I listen to the hypnotic voice of my Source, I am constantly hearing the drum beating that shouts, “I am loved, I am worthy, I am valued and life is supposed to be good for me.” I am worthy | I am valued | I am loved and life is supposed to be good for me and it is! Sensei Nancy Mueller  Before you can stop being triggered in your current relationship you have to know what it means to be triggered:
Triggers often show up as: ✅ When the other person has a habit that bothers you but you don't know why ✅ Specific smells set you on edge ✅ Loud noises that cause you to fee anxious ✅ Inability to trust another person ✅ Faking orgasms ✅ Liking someone A LOT but not sure if you can overlook certain behaviors ✅ You don't feel like you deserve to be happy ✅ You try to prove you're right by trying to prove how wrong the other person is ✅ Feeling like you have to justify your actions ✅ Feeling judged ✅ Holding a grudge ✅ Unable to forgive ✅ You're always apologizing ✅ Feeling helpless ✅ Arguing about the same thing, over and over and over ✅ Feeling criticized ✅ Feeling betrayed ✅ Believing if the other person REALLY loved you, they'd know what's wrong without you having to explain yourself ✅ Not sleeping well ✅ Wanting out of a relationship because you don't see any other way to be happy ✅ Feeling like no one really understands you ✅ Trying to overcompensate in your present relationship to make up for the choices you made in your previous relationship ✅ Pleasing others more than you're able to please yourself ✅ Feeling drained because you're trying so hard to make others happy ✅ You're arguing... again ✅ You keep attracting the same type of man/woman in your relationships ✅ You believe that being with someone who doesn't always treat you well is better than being alone ✅ You fear being alone ✅ Your arguments turn violent and you tell yourself he/she didn't mean it Triggers happen when something you're currently experiencing FEELS very similar to a negative experience from your past. When you're being triggered, you're bringing something from a past experience into your present day relationship (this is how you recreate your future from your past) YOU are the only person who has the power to stop yourself from being triggered. When you're ready to improve your current relationship, let's have a conversation about how you can stop being triggered by your past negative experiences. Nancy Mueller ~ Life Sensei  Be mindful of your thoughts and words, they are creating your reality!
When you stop to think about this, it's probably the most exciting information you will ever learn because as you learn to master your thoughts and words, you will change your life! How many times have you thought or said: * I can't afford to... * I hate my job * No one understands me * I'm so stressed out * Life is so hard * My mother/father/ex-husband/boss/children makes my life miserable * My life is so hectic * If only my life could be different * It's all my fault * I have no friends * How will I ever... * Divorce is wrong * I'll never forgive myself * Every thought you think and every word you speak has a vibration. If you often feel guilty, ashamed, depressed, lonely, misunderstood, victimized, traumatized, fearful, overwhelmed, difficulty focusing, unorganized, you are arguing for your limitations instead of seeing your possibilities. You have the power to stop living your life by default and start consciously creating the life you want to live. Nancy Mueller ~ Life Sensei  Do you know what love FEELS like?
You have to know what love feels like if you're going to receive it. Love always starts with YOU and it's something you practice every day. You love yourself by:
Don't just write them down, focus on what it FEELS like to give these to yourself and celebrate what you create from them EVERY - SINGLE - DAY! Loving YOU will give you all you need to prosper mentally, financially, physically and spiritually - all you need to do is believe you deserve it! Nancy Mueller ~ Life Sensei  I recently had a woman tell me that she finds my messages hard to take. She said when she reads something I post about my childhood, she can't comprehend going through such a life and it makes her feel uncomfortable.
As we talked about it, she realized she was using my stories to rationalize her childhood. During our conversation she said things such as, "I thought it was awful to have to live with XXX until I read one of your posts and then I realized my life wasn't so bad." I reminded her that trauma is trauma, there is no trauma that is better or worse than what someone else experienced as their trauma. Feeling guilty about wanting to express sadness, guilt, fear, anger, blame or shame only means you are holding those negative emotions inside you. Allowing yourself to express what you're thinking and be honest with how you're really feeling about it will set you free. I explained to her that because I've learned to do the inner work and have healed from the negative experiences of my past, I am now able to use my experiences as teachable moments without the emotional triggers. I am able to show proof that we don't have to carry the experiences of the past around with us. If we do, it only keeps us from enjoying who we are. I would not be able to teach what I teach if I hadn't had the experiences I did and learned to heal from them. We all have the choice to continue feeling like a victim and blaming others for who we've become or to choose to let go of victim beliefs and live in our power. We are all more powerful than we know, we all have the ability to see ourselves as the gifted and talented person we are. The ONLY reason we can't see our gifts and our talents is because we're holding onto a belief that is keeping us from knowing who we are. My mother once said to me that she and I used to clash when I got to a certain age. I suggested she look at that memory with a different perspective. We didn't clash, I simply got to a point where I no longer believed I was the person she kept telling me I was. When I was no longer willing to believe I was worthless and would always be worthless, what she describes as us clashing is actually her inability to understand why I no longer saw my value the way she saw my value. If you are having difficulty allowing yourself the honesty of what you're feeling because you've been taught to keep it to yourself, I encourage you to give yourself the gift of loving who you are. Everything you're keeping bottled up inside of you is building momentum. The question you have to ask yourself is, "do you want that momentum to explode in happiness or more sorrow? We all have free will, you can choose to suffer in silence or you can choose to free your mind. #LifeIsAllAboutChoices There has never been a better time for people to do the inner work we all came here to do and experience the love of who we are! Nancy Mueller ~ Life Sensei |
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