My mom always bought the gallon size container of ice cream containing half chocolate and half vanilla. She also had a knack for ruining our excited anticipation when the time came to eat the ice cream!
As she was scooping ice cream into bowls, she'd ask, "Do you want chocolate or vanilla?" I always wanted chocolate so that's what I'd ask for but she always gave me vanilla. When I thought I could outsmart her, I'd ask for vanilla and still get vanilla. We knew better than to complain, if we did, we'd get no ice cream at all. If we looked disappointed at what she gave us she'd simply say, "you get what you get, now eat." This experience taught me to believe that, "no matter what I asked for, I would never get what I asked for." Probably not a big deal when we're talking about ice cream but it's a BIG deal when I started applying that belief to other areas of my life like, a life partner, my job, money, relationships, my health, my body, my education and the big one for me was "God never gives me what I ask for." Something so simple, like ice cream, created a huge limiting belief in my life that often held me back when I wanted something. After all, why ask for something if you know you can't have what you want! And for the longest time, I was able to blame that belief and not having what I wanted on my mother! When I got older, I asked her why she did that to us and her answer was, "I tried to teach you kids that life is hard and I wanted you to be tough so you could handle it." Can you see where I'm going with this? Because my mother had a belief that "life is hard and you have to be prepared for disappointment" she passed that belief on to me and my siblings. She became my teacher on the subject of "Life is disappointing, will always disappoint you and you might as well face it and not ask for what you want because you won't get it!" My child-self interpreted her action as someone being mean to me but my mom saw it as teaching me a valuable life skill. Isn't it interesting how two people can experience the same event and have two completely different interpretations of the event! Life is never what it appears to be and we have the power to see things differently whenever something comes into our awareness that we do not want. If we're unhappy about our how someone is treating us, the number of our bank balance, the image in our mirror, the car we drive; our unhappiness is defining our self-confidence, self-worth, self-love, self-image, and self-esteem. Life is all about choices; we can choose to blame events, people, experiences and circumstances for what is currently showing up for us, or we can choose to see another side of it. The existence of "opposite" is a metaphysical process of creation. When the opposite of what you want to have, do or be is showing up for you, express gratitude for it and make a choice to bring forth the opposite of what's currently showing up for you. You have that power, we all have that power! The word "metaphysical" roughly translates to: "after physical" - when you accept that nothing happens on the outside until it's first created on the inside, you realize how powerful you truly are! Once I understood that I could continue to give my power away by blaming my mother for my beliefs and my shortcomings, or I could embrace the existence of the law of opposites as a metaphysical process of creation, my inner power began changing the outer manifestations I no longer wanted to experience. If life has been serving you something you don't want, would "now" be a good time for you to start practicing the "law of opposites" as your process of creation? Nancy Mueller ~ Life Sensei at MasteringYourBeliefs.com
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In 2019 I was in the attic with two of my cousins; going through a lifetime of boxes that my aunt had amassed over the years; her attic was a gold mine of memories!
In one of the boxes, I found letters, newspaper articles, birth announcements and documented proof of affairs, illegitimate children, betrayal, and even a homicide. This box held documentation of long held secrets about our entire family. As the three of us sat there, stunned and trying to process what we were reading, my cousin said, "oh my gosh Nancy, I think you just found information for your next book!" We laughed at her suggestion and began talking about the things we were learning about family members we thought we knew so much about. Ever since that day, I've thought often about how much we rely on what others tell us about the truth of who we are and that saying of "who would you be if someone hadn't told you who you are?" The foundation of who we are is based on what we believe about what we've been told. We've all heard stories, read books or watched movies where an adult learns...
People are very accustomed to telling half-truths, lies and innuendo without a second thought. We read books, go to the movies, or read the headlines because stories can be entertaining, frightening, hard to believe, outlandish, and even an opportunity to be thankful it happened to someone else and not us! (There but by the grace of God go I) The seed of thought I'd like to plant with you today is this: we've all created our lives based on something we were taught, told or intuited and how we understood it at the time, but that was then and this is now, so how much of what someone told you, taught you or was intuited by you, do you still believe in today? What if you really are...
Remember: when one of us rises, we take everyone else with us, this is the power of the collective! Enjoy the rest of your week, be mindful of your thoughts and be prosperous in all that you do! Nancy Mueller ~ Life Sensei Deep within each of us resides a precious treasure—an inner child who holds the essence of our innocence, wonder, and pure joy. Just as we carry cherished memories and experiences from our childhood, we also carry wounds and emotional burdens that may affect our present lives. Healing your inner child is a transformative journey that allows you to reconnect with that little girl or boy within you, providing an opportunity for profound personal growth and healing.
We All Have That Little Girl or Boy Inside Us: No matter how grown-up or accomplished we become, the truth is, we all carry a part of our childhood self within us. That little girl or boy holds our deepest vulnerabilities, dreams, and emotions. He or she experienced the world with wide-eyed wonder and openness. However, they may have also experienced pain, rejection, or trauma that left lasting imprints on their innocent soul. Recognizing and acknowledging the presence of your inner child is a powerful first step towards healing. By doing so, you create a safe space for their emotions, fears, and needs to be heard and validated. Embracing your inner child with compassion and understanding allows you to address unresolved wounds and cultivate a deeper sense of self-love and acceptance. The Healing Journey: Healing the inner child is a process that requires patience, empathy, and self-reflection. Here are some key steps to embark on this transformative journey:
The healing of your inner child is an ongoing, transformative process that brings you closer to your true self. By recognizing and nurturing that little girl or boy within us, we unlock the power to heal past wounds, release limiting beliefs, and embrace a future filled with authenticity, joy, and personal fulfillment. Embrace the opportunity to heal your inner child, and watch as your life transforms into a beautiful reflection of your innermost desires and dreams. Namaste, Nancy Mueller ~ Life Sensei As a Life Sensei, one of my key responsibilities is to help individuals cultivate strong and meaningful relationships. In this blog, we'll explore the importance of connection and how your Life Sensei can support you in developing fulfilling connections with yourself and others.
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Being a Life Sensei goes beyond teaching martial arts; it involves guiding individuals on their journey toward personal fulfillment and overall well-being. Let's delve into the transformative role of a Life Sensei and how they empower others to live their best lives.
Being a Life Sensei is an opportunity to empower others, inspire personal growth, and foster a sense of purpose and fulfillment. By guiding individuals on their path to self-discovery and supporting them through life's challenges, I have the privilege of witnessing transformative change and helping them create lives they truly love. Being a Life Sensei is part of what my J.O.B. (Jump Outta Bed), this is why I'm fond of saying, "I Love My Life!" Nancy Mueller ~ Life Sensei at Mastering Your Beliefs Inner-child work is an approach to recognizing and healing childhood trauma. Healing your inner child addresses the unmet needs your child-self longed for and your adult-self is still searching for.
So how do you know the difference between needing to heal your inner-child and just having a bad day? The first step is to pay attention to how you're feeling. Do you notice that whatever is causing you to have a bad day feels a lot like the negative feelings you had as a child. It may take you a minute to connect the dots but when you begin to see the correlation, you know you're on the right track to healing your inner-child. As you learn to heal your inner-child you'll have less bad days and more happy days when you learn to let go of the negative emotions associated with your thoughts. Here are some unmet needs your child-self may have longed for and your adult-self may still be thinking about or experiencing:
If you see the correlation and recognize any of the above thoughts showing up in your life, this is your opportunity to do some inner-child work. The first step to doing this work is to teach your brain to reach for a more positive thought than the thoughts you're currently thinking. If you'd like some help with this, download your free guide to Turning Your Negatives Into Positives In 4 Easy Steps. This is how you witness the true inner-powerful you possess to stop being triggered by negative emotions associated with painful experiences. It's understandable that children become easy prey when they are victimized by adults. But what happens when adults are victimized by other adults?
When I was 23 years old, I was at the doctor's office for a routine visit. During this visit, I was alone in the room with the doctor. He had me sit up while he looked into my eyes, ran his hands along my jaw feeling for any abnormalities in my throat. He then untied my gown and continued to run his hands down my shoulders and chest until he was holding my breasts in each hand while complimenting me on the perfect shape of each breast. As he held my breasts in his hands, he said one of my breasts seemed to be slightly lower than the other and continued to look from one to the other making comments and assuring me that I was perfect. After a few minutes of concentrating on each breast individually, he took his hands away and said I could cover up. By this stage of my life I had been through two miscarriages and two cesarian section births so doctor exams were quite familiar to me. As I walked to my car, I kept asking myself what had just happened. Every prior breast exam I'd ever had took place with me lying on my back and putting one hand behind my head during the exam. Never had I been asked to be in a seated position during a breast exam. Was my discomfort all in my mind? Was this something new? Why did I feel so uncomfortable? I shared my experience with a friend; she told me I was imagining things. I told my husband; he told me it was in my head and not every man was a sexual predator like my father. So I stopped asking other people and kept quiet as I came to the conclusion that I should just stop thinking about it. Very soon after that visit, I received a notice from my doctor's office telling me that my doctor had been transferred to another state and I would need to choose a new doctor. This led to more questions; had he done something similar to other women? Should I have said something to the nurses in the office? Did my silence keep him in a position to do the same to another patient and if he did, what if she wasn't as strong as me and it was worse for her than it was for me? I started thinking about the teacher who had propositioned me, the jobs I quit because the boss was giving me too much attention and all the times I hadn't said a word because I doubted my right to say, "what you did is wrong and you don't have the right to use your authority over me in this way." We remain silent for so many reasons; we're afraid to lose our job so we barter our right to say "no" with our need to have an income. We're afraid to create problems within the family so we do our best to stay out of harm's way during family gatherings. We don't want to be the cause of ruining someone's life so we remain silent. We don't speak up for fear of being labeled a troublemaker, a liar or a woman with loose morals. We make the choice to remain silent because we fear the unknown or that we won't be believed but what we're really afraid of is diminishing our value by letting others know what happened. Many of us don't realize that we are the only person who has the power to diminish our value. The only way we are going to take the power away from these silent predators is by increasing our value of "SELF" (self-esteem, self-love, self-confidence, self-image, self-worth). As we expand our value of who we are, we break the silence that has gone on for too long. Every woman deserves to be heard, valued and seen for who she is but this can't happen until she can see it for herself. The only power a person has over us is the power we give them. When we stop asking questions such as "why me" we give ourselves the opportunity to shift from a victim mindset to a mindset of power and prosperity. It's not what happens to you that matters, it's what you do with what happens. Believe in who you are, believe in your value, believe in your Divine right to stop suffering in silence and start living your life through harmony, healing and happiness. Trust what you're feeling, speak up and remind yourself that if you're living in fear, it's because you have a belief about something that may or may not happen in the future. When you master your belief in the present you are using your inner strength to create your future. If you're still being triggered by the memory of a silent predator in your life, I want you to know that it is possible to let go of the painful emotions associated with your experience. The first step to doing this is to teach your brain to reach for a more positive thought than the thoughts you're currently thinking. If you'd like some help with this, download your free guide to Turning Your Negatives Into Positives In 4 Easy Steps. This is how you witness the true inner-powerful you possess to stop being triggered by negative emotions associated with painful experiences. Nancy Mueller ~ Life Sensei By We all have a story. In fact we have many stories!
Our stories are created from the thoughts we had today, yesterday, last week, last month and the years before that. The more we think about them, we are either feeling better about our life or feeling less hopeful about our life. Our stories come from the thoughts we think and the stories taught to us by others. Our stories include who we believe we are, what we believe we're capable of, the identity we've created based on how we see ourselves through our own eyes and the eyes of others. We create stories about why we can or can't achieve our goals, receive love, experience fulfilling relationships, enjoy a healthy body and a sense of well-being. Our stories become self-fulfilling prophesies causing us to wonder why our lives are not going in the direction we'd hoped. We can get so used to living with the struggle that we create a story about why struggle is a part of life! We look to outside sources to make our story better so we can live happier lives but these sources are usually a temporary solution to an ongoing challenge. What you're experiencing may be out of your control but the struggle is optional once you choose to go beyond your story! Once you realize that everything you're experiencing is based on a story you're telling yourself about the experience, you can begin to go beyond your story. Start by asking yourself, "What story am I telling myself about this particular experience?" When you can answer the question as a person watching your story instead of being the character in your story, you'll be able shift your perspective about what's going on. This is the first step to going beyond your story! For example: if your story sounds something like: "No matter what I do, I can't seem to get ahead. I can never seem to create the financial success I want in my business." If this is your story, every choice you make will reenforce your story. Your mind always wants to be right and will go to great lengths to make your story true. It's up to you to re-train your mind and this will happen with daily practice as you learn to Go Beyond Your Story. Whether something that happened yesterday, a week ago, a year ago or 30 years ago, it can negatively effect you if the memory of the event is still triggering negative emotions within you and is negatively affecting your story. When a past event is triggering you now, you’re reliving it emotionally and because the mind does not know the difference between something that’s actually happening or something you’re remembering, you are reliving it in your present moment. Do you want proof of this? Think about a scary movie you saw or something that frightened you. Focus on a specific part of the movie or whatever you were afraid of and watch how you can summon that feeling of fear into your body. Even though the event happened in the past, recalling how it made you feel is happening in the now! If your story doesn't FEEL good, you're setting yourself up for mental, physical and emotional struggle! When the pain of where you are, becomes greater than your fear of letting go, you'll be able to go beyond your story to create different and positive experiences. Once you've identified your story, ask yourself if this is how you want to be identified by yourself or others. Do you want to be known as a person who can't seem to get ahead? Your answer will probably start with "No, but..." It's the "but" that gets in the way of your prosperity by blocking prosperous thoughts. When you've identified your story, keep asking yourself "WHY?" Why do I believe that? Why do I choose to hold onto this story? Why did I allow myself to create this story? As you force yourself to answer the "WHY" question, you are moving out of subconscious thought and into conscious thought. This is how you make conscious choices about what you want instead of choosing by default. This is how you create your life instead of living your life by default. When you go beyond your story, your thoughts change, your words change, your choices change and your vibration (feelings) change. This is how you begin to feel better, hopeful, powerful and unstoppable. It is from this change that your story will shift from one of struggle to one of success! All you have to do is Go Beyond Your Story! Nancy Mueller ~ Life Sensei I’m so excited to have received this set of bone china with lemons and doubly excited for what they represent for me.
They are a gift from my mother. If you’ve read my books or follow my work, you’ll know that my mother and I didn’t always have an easy relationship, in fact, most of my life it was quite painful. Several years ago my mother started to follow me on social media and once she realized what I was teaching, she called me and asked, "I've been watching what you're teaching, do you think it will work for you and I?" When the student is ready, the teacher will appear. That was the start of each of us being able to go beyond our story about our painful past to heal our relationship in the present so we can stop creating our future from our past. This is how we break the cycle of anything unwanted. We teach people how to treat us based on the treatment we allow from others. If memories of your painful past arise, the only power it has over you is the power you give it. No one has power over another person; it's only when we give away our power to someone that they can use it against us. It's not what happens to us that matters, it's what we do with what happens. Blame is a weapon people use when seeking the burden of proof because they are holding on to hate, anger and animosity based on a driving force to be right. Your burden will only get heavier when you're looking for reasons to prove the other person wrong because all you're really doing is proving your role as the victim. The burden of proof becomes a vicious cycle until your desire to heal and feel peace within your mind, body and soul outweighs the driving force of vengeance within you. You will know you have healed when the peace within you outweighs your desire for revenge and your memories no longer make you cry. Learn the power you possess when you go beyond your story because when you wake up every day feeling the joy and happiness that comes from the peace you feel in your mind, body and soul; you'll know you've learned to turn lemons into lemonade! Nancy Mueller ~ Life Sensei I want to care how I feel and everything I think do, and say; I want that to matter more than everything else
I want to care how I feel I care so much about this that I’ll change my thoughts that don’t feel good I care so much that I’ll focus upon the people who are easy to feel good about when I think of others I care so much about myself that I will stop feeding the negative thoughts about people and experiences both past and present that make me uncomfortable every time those thoughts come to my awareness and practice shifting negative thoughts to positive thoughts to create feelings of love, joy, happiness, abundance and prosperity I care so much about myself that I will focus in a way that feels good to me. I care so much that I will listen to the calling of the Source within me, even when it calls me away from anger, rage, judgment, guilt and frustration I care so much about myself that I’m going to listen for that consistent, steady voice within me. I care so much that I am actively aware of the vibration of Source energy and I immediately go allow myself to flow with it When I am following the guidance of my Inner Being, when I practice subject by subject, into vibrational alignment with how my Source feels about me, I can reach expanded feelings of love and joy within me I care so much about how I feel that I tell myself continually that I am a magnificent Being There is nothing that I cannot achieve The world always addresses itself to me in positive ways. Everything is always working out for me. I live a charmed life Things are supposed to, and always do go well for me Seas part for me! Doors open for me I have the resources of the Universe at my disposal I live in an environment where I am inspired to a new thought, and as soon as I give birth to it, things align in order to bring me the actualization or the manifestation of it I am an extension of Source energy I am God in physical body I am worthy, and because I am worthy, good things come to me If I am sick it is temporary because it is natural for me to be well If I am not abundant of things that are important to me, I know it’s temporary because it’s natural that I be abundant There is nothing that I am supposed to do but all kinds of things that I want to do When I listen to the hypnotic voice of my Source, I am constantly hearing the drum beating that shouts, “I am loved, I am worthy, I am valued and life is supposed to be good for me.” I am worthy | I am valued | I am loved and life is supposed to be good for me and it is! Sensei Nancy Mueller |
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