Do you ever think about how short life can be?
Are you living your passion?
Do you feel that you are doing exactly what you were sent here to accomplish in your lifetime?
Many people don't start thinking about what or who is important to them until they suffer a great loss. Once you or someone you love is gone, you have lost the opportunity to live the life you were meant to live. What would you like to change in your life?
Once you allow yourself to think "outside of the box" and truly embrace the concept of how you will be remembered, this exercise has the power to help you see where you are off track in your current life. If you want to be remembered as a great baseball player, how often are you practicing baseball? If you want to be remembered as a great artist, how are you practicing your art?
Here is an example of what this exercise might look like:
As I look out on all of the faces of those of you in attendance, I can’t help but smile that Jack Canfield has come to pay his respects. Jack, Nancy really admired your work and was always the first in line to help promote you and your books!
I hardly know where to begin; Nancy was such an inspiration to so many women and once she determined her life’s mission, there was no stopping her.
Nancy’s mission statement was to encourage women to improve their health, value their “self” and increase their wealth. One of Nancy’s favorite sayings was, “A Man Is Not A Plan!” Nancy truly encouraged women to find their gifts and build a business around what they loved to do because she knew that when women have financial independence, they are able to make the better choices.
When I think about what Nancy would love to be remembered for, I know that a big part of her happiness came from being a mother and grandmother. Nancy learned many things about being a mother long after her children had moved away and had children of their own. When it comes to being a mother, Nancy felt confident that only after learning to love herself, did she begin to truly enjoy the bonds of motherhood and her advice to mothers everywhere was always, “Love yourself first!”
Whether she was traveling, speaking to women’s groups or sharing her message on the radio Nancy loved encouraging women to believe in themselves. By sharing her story, Nancy has been able to help thousands of women understand their story, make the necessary changes and live their life to the fullest.
I am sure that wherever Nancy is, she is Partying Like Purple!
Ok, now it is your turn. Give yourself permission to write your own Eulogy and then read it and be honest with yourself. Are you living the life you want to be remembered for?
I hope this blog has given you something powerful to think about and the next time you are wondering if you are living your life "on purpose" think of this exercise and you will know if you are on the right track!
Yours In Health,
My Mission: To encourage women to improve their health, value their "self" and increase their wealth!
Mother Nature has her own way of taking care of life.
Have you ever seen crabs in a bucket? When you place one crab in a bucket, the first thing it will attempt to do is escape. If you put two crabs in a bucket together, as soon as one tries to climb out, the other crab will grab the escaping crab by the legs and try to use it to climb over him to escape itself. This process will continue to repeat itself so that NO crab actually ends up escaping.
Do you ever feel like there is someone attempting to hold you down so that you can't escape or move forward in your life? Who is holding you down?
Do you recognize the crabs in your life? Crabs come in many forms:
Are you your OWN crab? Being your own crab can look like this:
Knowing the difference between the crabs in your life and being your own crab has a great deal to do with your self-talk. When you take a step closer to your success goals, do you second guess yourself? Do you worry about what others are going to say or if they will support your choices? Do you constantly wonder what others are thinking of you and if they approve of the choices you are making? Who are the people in your life that support you? Who are the people in your life who constantly try to remind you not to get too far ahead of yourself?
When you are following your life's passion who are the people that are supporting you? Do you support yourself or do you tell yourself that you don't have enough:
My wish for you is to crawl out of whatever bucket you feel trapped in and move towards the freedom you will feel when you are following your life's passion. Give yourself permission to eliminate the crabs in your life and the next time someone tells you that you "can't" do something, simply turn around, look them straight in the eye, and say, "WATCH ME!"
My Mission: To encourage women to improve their health, value their "self" and increase their wealth!
One of the reasons I love hosting Life's About Choices Radio is because not only do I get the opportunity meet fascinating women who have fascinating stories, but I also get to share these women with our listening audience.
One of my recent guests was Dr. Noreen Kahn-Mayberry PhD. Noreen Khan-Mayberry, PhD, also known as "The Tox Doc", is a toxicologist that specializes in environmental, space, food and nutritional toxicology. Her personal mission is to translate the language of science for non-scientists in order to educate and inform the public of critical issues that affect their health and quality of life.
In 2006 I was at my most unhealthy state in my life; little did I know that toxins in my food, cosmetics and environment were a contributing factor. With so much conflicting information being given to us by the media, how does the lay person know what to choose?
When you have questions, who do you turn to for answers? Here are two of my favorite nutritional consultants: Terri Crystal and Sharon Madsen. Check out what they are doing to bring answers to those who have questions!
I love my nutrition program and how it continues to promote health in my body. However, I am not a nutritionist nor an expert on toxicology. How then do I share what I have learned so that people who are also looking for answers will be open to making some changes in their health as well? Well... I find the experts and invite them to be a guest on my show!
Here are some of the reasons that Dr. Noreen shared about weight gain...
When we find something that we are passionate about, and we know it will enhance the lives of others, and we take the time to share the message in any way we can, this puts us in a position to educate, empower, motivate and inspire others.
Me... I LOVE MY LIFE! I feel so very blessed to meet so many women who are working to enlighten others by sharing their stories. When women embrace the concept that we are stronger by collaborating than competing, we begin to see how we can make changes in our lives and the lives of others!
“True forgiveness is when you can say, "Thank you for that experience.”
― Oprah Winfrey
Has someone ever done something to you that made you so mad that forgiveness did not seem possible?
3 women were discussing this very question this week with me...
One woman was complaining about paying another woman several thousand dollars to advertise her business but the advertising never materialized. This woman was very upset, posting negative comments on the internet and was telling everyone who would listen about how she had paid for something she never received.
Another woman was talking about her ex-husband making negative comments about her to their children. This woman was practically falling apart because of the awful things that her ex said-husband was telling their children about her.
In yet another conversation, a woman was complaining about how her mother ruined her life due to bad parenting.
As I listened to these 3 separate conversations, I wondered if each woman understood the amount of power that she was giving up to the person they were angry with.
What if, every person that comes into our lives does so to teach us something? If this is the case, and we are able to look at situations that upset us and quickly realize that rather than be upset, perhaps we should be saying, "thank you for that experience because it has taught me to make better choices next time.
If the lesson:
Michael Jackson has a song that really brings to mind the effectiveness of looking inward at the struggles we are dealing with in our lives:
I'm Starting With The Man In The Mirror
I'm Asking Him To Change His Ways
And No Message Could Have Been Any Clearer
If You Wanna Make The World A Better Place
Take A Look At Yourself, And...
Then Make A Change
Too many people want to blame others for where they are in life or the struggles they are dealing with because they under estimate the person in the mirror. Beginning with the person in the mirror will always help you resolve life's challenges in a way that will allow you to feel empowered rather than disempowered!
You are a very powerful person. Instead of dealing with a situation with negative energy towards another person, start empowering yourself by creating a positive outcome to the situation. People are going to do what they do, stop giving them your power. Look yourself directly in the eyes and ask, "how can I take control of this situation?" Blaming others will only add to the negative energy in the situation. Start by loving the person in the mirror and appreciating the gift of each experience you have been given.
"I forgive you for making a poor business choice"
"I forgive you for letting your ex-husband make you feel disempowered"
"I forgive you for allowing an abusive parent to continue to have control over your thoughts in the present"
Once you have forgiven yourself and are ready to take back your power, you begin to see the endless possibilities that life has to offer you!
Speaker, Author, Life Coach and Media Host
submitted by Christy Monson
Fear: Facing the Unknown Alone
Megan, age 21 and an only child, returned from burying her parents in a double funeral. They had been killed when her father's small plane went down in turbulent weather. She felt devastated. No! Worse than that! Words were not adequate to describe her feelings. Her insides felt like they'd been hashed through a meat grinder. She could hardly breathe.
She still had their house—her childhood home—to clean out, and the estate to settle. No time for that now. She had to return to her new job tomorrow. She'd only worked there six weeks—since college graduation a couple of months ago.
What was she going to do?
How would she handle life?
She had always relied on her parents for advice.
Now she faced the unknown world alone.
This sweet client of mine faced a bleak situation. Tougher than most of us will have to confront.
Megan went to work the next day, and each day thereafter. But she seemed to wilt during this period of intense grief, locking emotional self away during her job and daylight hours, and falling apart in grief after dark.
Megan felt frozen with fear. She just knew she would never be able to live a normal, healthy life.
CLICK HERE to read more and join us on Life's About Choices Radio when Christy discusses "Beyond Fear". CLICK HERE to access the radio interview.
My story starts with child abuse, fear, anxiety and the belief that I would never amount to anything.
Your story may be one of happiness and a belief that you can be anything you desire.
It's really all about perception.
Take a close look at the picture to the left. This is a picture of something you have seen many many times throughout your life. And yet, looking at it in this manner, you may have difficulty seeing it for what it really is.
Take a close look - let your mind relax... WHAT DO YOU SEE?
Our mind is a very powerful tool that can bring us our greatest desire or hold us back from the abundance that we seek.
All people struggle with limiting beliefs. These beliefs are so strongly ingrained in our subconscious that we KNOW with absolute certainty that they must be true.
Truth: If you let go of an object in your hand, it will fall to the ground
Truth: If you touch a hot stove, you will get burned
Truth: After night, comes day
Truth: You can "DO", "BE", or "HAVE" anything you desire. Is this statement a TRUTH or do you have a limiting belief that this might not be true?
Whether you THINK you can, or you THINK you can't, you are probably right. ~ Henry Ford
Can we think our way to happiness? Can we think our way to abundance? Can we think our way to love? Can we think our way to a healthy body? The answer is "YES" to all of these questions.
Is it possible that you have a limiting belief (a story you have told yourself over and over so many times that you believe it to be absolute FACT) that is holding you back from the success and abundance that the Universe is waiting to add to your life?
Limiting Beliefs can include:
My story began with the belief that I would never amount to anything. When I learned that I had the power to change my story, to eliminate the limiting beliefs that were holding me back and then started sharing my story and encouraging others to change their story, miracles began to happen.
Perception is everything because after all, Life Is All About Choices!
Speaker, Author, Women's Life Coach & Media Host
Encouraging Women to Change Their Story!
Living your life in high self-esteem can be the key to unlock your greatest desires in life. But what happens when your self-esteem is at an all-time low or you didn’t have much to begin with?
High self-esteem can mean the difference of going after that new client, asking for the promotion you want, working up the nerve to talk to that special guy you’ve had your eye on or even having that conversation that you have been avoiding.
An example of creating high self-esteem can be found in your shampoo bottle! When you buy a new bottle of shampoo, you are more likely to feel that you have an abundance of shampoo without giving much thought as to how much you use. However, when the bottle is close to empty, and you haven’t been shopping in a while, you probably tend to use the shampoo very sparingly.
Self-esteem is a lot like shampoo; when you have an excess of self-esteem, you are more likely to be happy and live life to the fullest. When you are low on self-esteem, you are more likely to live your life sparingly; being hesitant to join a conversation, stand up for yourself, ask for that promotion, volunteer information during a meeting or standing your ground when someone is requesting more of you than you are ready to give.
What is self-esteem and where does it come from? Self-esteem starts with our self-talk. Self-talk is that little voice inside our head that starts talking when someone else stops talking. For example; if I were to compliment you on your shirt, would you be able to smile and say “thank you?” Or would your self-talk kick in, causing you to think, “this shirt, oh my gosh, why did she have to say anything about this shirt? I haven’t done laundry for so long and this was the only clean shirt in my closet. I didn’t even have time to iron it and I am sure that she is really noticing every wrinkle in this shirt. Why, oh why, did she have to say something about my shirt, today of all days? Why couldn’t she have complimented me yesterday when I was feeling great about my outfit?”
You can see how low self-esteem and negative self-talk can take the life out of your living but unlike shampoo, I don’t know of any store that sells self-esteem. So, where do you go to refill your self-esteem?
The answer lies inside “YOU!” Let’s start with your health. On a scale of 1 to 10 (10 being the BEST) where are you? If your answer is less than a 10, what are you doing to improve your health? Let’s face it, I think you will agree that it is no fun to be sick. When you feel a cold coming on or experience depression, the whole world seems out of control.
When you’re tired, run down, out of energy and the highlight of your day is plopping down in front of your TV set, that is your clue that it is time to put some life into your living! Most people have forgotten what “healthy” feels like. Start where you are and create positive habits and eliminate your negative habits. Get off the couch, go for a walk. Turn off the TV, read a book. Stop watching the news, get out there and make the news. Learn to cook healthier, stop eating fast food and drinking soda. You are what you eat and your brain is counting on you to choose healthy nutritious food to fuel your body. If you start your day with a bowl of cereal and milk, coffee and a donut, soda and a candy bar or you skip breakfast altogether, you are setting yourself up for a day of disaster.
Our bodies need fuel; nutrients, vitamins, minerals, water, sunlight, exercise and a happy mindset. You won’t find these things in a fast food joint or a vending machine. Starting your day off with the right kind of protein can make all the difference between getting through the day and sailing through your day.
Do you want to know the best part… YOU get to choose how you live your life, what you feed your body and the level of fun you add to your daily routine.
Every negative has a positive; sometimes you have to look a little harder to find it, but it is there. If your self-talk is full of negative comments and put downs, how will you build your self-esteem to the level you need to live every day to the fullest?
Create a habit of waking up every morning and finding 10 things to be grateful for and then do the same thing before you fall asleep at night. Studies show that whatever is on our mind right before we fall asleep is what we will take into our subconscious when we are sleeping. If you are a person who falls asleep with the TV on, you have no control over what is being loaded into your subconscious as you fall asleep. Commercials and negative news shows permeate our minds and we think we are tuning them out but we are not. How can you eliminate the negative habit of falling asleep in front of the TV with a better more positive habit?
So, the next time you reach for your shampoo bottle, think about how easy it is to get a refill. Then, tell yourself that your self-esteem can be as abundant as your shampoo. Because, after all, Life Is All About Choices!
By Nancy Mueller
In 1938, Ugo Cerletti, the Italian psychiatrist, came up with the idea for treating human beings with electroshock therapy. Cerletti was observing the barbaric act of slaughterhouse pigs being electrocuted into unconsciousness to make it less difficult for workers to slit their throats and thought that it could be applied to the treatment of mental illnesses in human beings.
It’s not too pleasant of an image to think about while you’re laying on a gurney about to go into the operating room for your first treatment. The concept of having electricity pass through your brain is daunting enough to frighten even the most educated of people. The reputation of electroshock - - also referred to as electroconvulsive therapy or ECT by proponents - - has suffered. Not more than a year after Cerletti got his brilliant idea, the New York State Psychiatric Institute introduced ECT into the United States. For the next thirty years, hundred of thousands of patients of all ages, received electroshock treatments for every type of “disorder” including depression, mania, schizophrenia and even homosexuality and truancy.
As barbaric as this treatment sounds, it goes without saying, "You Don't Know What You Don't Know." Having said that, what is it that we believe to be true today, that will one day go the way of...
... Lead Paint
... Blood Letting
Did you know that a healthier "YOU" could be as close as your kitchen cupboard? It's true; the answer is Organic Apple Cider Vinegar!
The old adage is true:
"An apple a day keeps the doctor away."
Here are just some of the uses for Apple Cider Vinegar helps:
10 Steps to Happiness
Smiles are contagious. When you smile, others will smile with you. When you teach yourself the habit of smiling, it will change your entire focus. If you tend to feel depression, simply practice your smile!
What are you grateful for? Too often we tend to concentrate on what we "don't" have rather than what we "do" have. It goes without saying that any time we feel lack in our life, there is always someone who is worse off. Knowing this, how can you start to look at the little things in your life and feel gratitude? Life is all about choices; we can choose to be ungrateful or we can choose to look around us and be grateful for what we have.
Human beings thrive on the power of touch. Much like a baby who cries to be comforted, as adults we often overlook the importance of touch. A hug, a massage, or even a shoulder to cry on (literally) can lead to feelings of appreciation.
Often times when we think of "love" we think of the love we give to others but forget the importance of self love. How do you love yourself? In our often hectic life we are always doing for others, giving to others, keeping commitments we made to others. Putting your "self" first is self preserving. If you are worn out, stressed, fatigued or overwhelmed with the amount of energy you spend giving to others, how can you turn your love for others into love for your "self?" Discover what makes you the happiest and start doing more of what makes you happy. When you are treating yourself with love and kindness, happiness will flow from you and the energy it brings will be contagious to others.
Everyone has successes in his or her life and too often we are so busy running after the thing that we feel we "need" to do that we forget to give ourselves credit for the things we have already done. This mindset works in your career, your relationships, your health and even your wealth. Think back to the goals you set for yourself and how you reached them. Once reached, what did you do to celebrate these milestones? Once you celebrate the milestones, what do you do to remember these milestones? Journaling can be an excellent way to look back and remember you accomplishments. Simply reading about your milestones will bring you happiness and a desire to "keep up the good work."
If you take the term "stop to smell the roses" in a literal fashion, when was the last time you stopped to simply take in the beauty that surrounds you? In our very hectic world, we often forget to stop and watch a sunset, marvel at a child's face during play, appreciate the smile of your loved one, give thanks for your health, feel the sun on your face, meditate, give thanks for the air we breathe, the water we drink and the food on our plates. There are so many things you could give thanks for at any given moment. When times of stress are upon us, get in the habit of concentrating on what you "DO" have rather than what you "DON'T" have.
On a scale of 1 to 10, what is the level of your health? If it is less than a 10, what can you do to make it a 10? What steps are you avoiding to improve your level of health? If you are feeling tired, run down, fatigued, out of energy and lack focus, consider looking at your diet. Fast food, diet soft drinks, processed foods all lack the nutrients our bodies need. The term "you are what you eat" is very true. Have you ever eaten a huge meal and an hour later you are once again looking for something to eat? This is because you are putting "stuff" in your body but that "stuff" lacks the nutrients your body and brain require to give you optimal health. What changes can you make (baby steps) to create happiness in your health?
F.E.A.R = False Evidence Appearing Real - what are you afraid of, how is it holding you back and how is the fear and being held back from your true potential serving your highest good? Most fears are built from limiting beliefs and old habits. How can you change these beliefs and create new habits to rid yourself of the fears that are holding you back? You have the power to choose to move from pain, paralysis, and even depression to power, energy and happiness in your life.
Change your environment; if you always eat in the cafeteria at work, consider eating outside. If you work from home, give yourself permission to go outside for a walk midway through your day. If you work from home (or have a brick and mortar business that keeps you confined, how can you leave that environment and surround yourself with positive, motivated, uplifting thinking people? As a wise woman once said, "It takes a village!" No one person arrives at success alone. There is always someone there, a friend, a coworker, a mentor, a coach, cheering them on to success. Find a way to step outside of your every day environment and seek this energy opportunity.
To know others is wisdom, to know oneself is enlightenment. ~ Lao Tzu
Too many people fear looking within to create more success in their life because they fear what they may find. Knowing oneself, loving oneself, understanding oneself is the key to unlocking the answers to what most people seek. What are your daily habits to know yourself better? If you have difficulties with this step, ask others for help. Feedback can be negative or positive and we learn from both. Keep in mind, feedback is another person's perception of who you are. If you want others to see you in a different light, here is your chance to choose change, thus bringing the happiness you seek.
I believe that every person that reads this blog will take away something unique to their way of thinking. If something in this blog gave you pause for thought, please feel free to share this blog with people you know. Whatever you learned, you have the opportunity to pay it forward and cause a ripple of happiness in the life or lives of others.
Yours In Health,
Speaker, Author, Life Coach for Women & Radio Show Host
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