As I sit here this morning preparing to write this blog, I have searched my heart to find what I want to share most with you on this day; something that will encourage you to live an empowered life.
I decided to begin at the end to show you the possibility of a New Beginning.
June 11, 2014 I filed for divorce. This was the 2nd time in my life that I found myself at the Orange County Courthouse ending my marriage. I never thought this could happen a second time in my life but there I was, sitting in the waiting room, waiting for my number to be called to begin the divorce proceedings.
I was trying so hard to hold on to the the reasons that I had finally made this decision. We were married less than 2 years but I was losing more of myself as he was refusing to deal with his demons. How is it possible to be given a glimpse of what held the possibility of happiness only to live every single day watching that glimpse fade away like dust in the wind?
That morning I drove to the courthouse, walked through security, took the elevator to the 7th floor for Family Law and waited to be called to the window to end my marriage. As I stood in line, waiting my turn to talk to the man behind the bulletproof glass, I kept asking myself how it could have come to this. When it was finally my turn at the window, the clerk barely looked me in the eye; he sees this many times a day, every single day that he works at that window and he has learned to be numb to the pain of others.
Finally, it was my turn, the documents had been filed and the divorce was set in motion. Now what?
One of my favorite authors, John Strelecky, teaches us to stop trying to figure out "HOW" we are going to make changes in our life and instead watch for our "WHO's". Who is in your life or going to enter your life to help you manifest your greatest joy?
When one of my "WHO's" found out that I had filed for divorce he suggested I move to the desert. What??? Move from the beach to the desert? Move away from family and friends and everything that I have known? Hadn't I already lost enough? It turned out THAT was the very thing I needed to do!
The desert has had a healing effect that I could not have possibly known existed until I discovered it for myself. For the first two months things felt pretty rough. I was far away from anyone I knew and living in an unfamiliar area. Every time I needed to file paperwork at the courthouse I now had an extra 2 hours added to the drive. What had I done? Wouldn't it have just been easier to stay with him and take the easy way out?
The truth is, staying would not have been the easy way out. The easy way will never include a choice that hurts your heart and destroys your soul.
I made a choice... I chose "ME" and in the process I met new friends, let go of old friends that stopped calling, grew my client base, started a new women's group in the desert, started a Podcast Show called Choices 4 Women that made the "New & Noteworthy" section of iTunes within the first 2 weeks, finalized my divorce, published my 2nd book, became a Best Selling author, and find it easy to look myself in the mirror and say, "I Love You!" Once again, I have created a New Beginning in my life because I value being impeccable with my word and being true to myself.
My only advice to anyone reading this article is, "always be true to yourself, stand in your power and never compare yourself to someone else. Never covet what someone else has because you do not know the price he or she paid to get where they are. To thine own self be true!"
If you are facing a challenge that feels too huge to deal with, look for your "WHO's" because I promise you, they are out there. Perhaps it will be a coach, a teacher, a mentor, a friend, a family member, a character in a book or movie; they are out there and they are waiting for you to ask for help. Sometimes our greatest lesson is allowing ourselves to receive. It is impossible for the Universe to bring you your greatest joy if you have difficulty receiving. Learn to say "yes" and watch what you manifest into your life!
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