Have you ever had a fear of your car breaking down,
while you’re driving,
on a deserted road,
you have no cell service?
Not every woman has a fear of this situation, but I think you’ll admit that this scenario has the potential to be a good example of a fearful situation!
When you think of your car breaking down, at night, while you’re driving alone, on a deserted road, and you have no cell service, it’s easy to let your mind wander by taking a mildly annoying situation and blowing it out of proportion by creating a “worst case scenario”.
If you were in this situation, you have a choice to stay calm and consider your options or panic and believe the worst. The good news is, whatever choice you make, both are within your power to make.
You could choose to panic and think the worst, OR you could use that same imagination to…
see yourself reaching into the back seat,
grabbing your emergency road kit with a CB that runs on solar power,
turning it on,
dialing into the emergency roadside assistance channel,
help arrives within 10 minutes and the mechanic soon has your car running and back on the road. (Feel free to add anything you want here such as you fall madly in love with the mechanic and ride off into the sunset together to live happily ever after. After all, this is your imagination we are talking about!)
With this example, you begin to understand how you have the power to actually retrain your brain because you are forcing yourself to make conscious thought instead of relying on the subconscious thought that had caused anxiety about driving at night.
We imagine the worst-case scenario for so many things in our life; what if he doesn’t call me, what if I’m not pretty enough, what if I’m not smart enough, what if I plan a meeting and no one shows… geez, the list is endless.
Teaching ourselves to think positive instead of allowing F.E.A.R. (False Evidence Appearing Real) to take over is simply a matter of replacing one habit for another (imagining a positive outcome instead of a negative outcome).
There are a couple of questions you can ask yourself when you begin to make different choices when it comes to fear based situations.
#1.) What is the name of my fear (in this case; fear of strangers, fear of carjackers, etc.)
#2.) Is this fear a cause for physical danger?
#3.) We would answer “yes” to this question if we were truly out on the deserted road however, for the sake of this conversation, we’re talking about a fear that hasn’t happened yet, but is always on your mind. Maybe you saw this scenario in a movie and it left you feeling creepy and vulnerable and you haven’t been able to let go of the fear and anxiety associated with what you saw. Keep in mind, this hasn’t happened to you, but you think about it, a lot, and can’t seem to let it go.
#4.) Now that you’ve determined you’re not in physical danger and you‘ve confirmed that your fear has been created in your mind – you can easily see how something you create in your mind can be un-created or recreated which is a positive and more empowering way to look at it.
#5.) Now… ask yourself this question, “how many times in the past, have I been driving on a deserted road, at night, alone, on a deserted road, when my car breaks down, and I have no cell service?”
Are you starting to see how powerful this line of questioning can be as you begin to chip away at the anxiety to analyze the fear?
So, the next time you find yourself thinking of the “worst case scenario” remind yourself to practice these questions that can help you move past the fear. Go ahead, be creative and find a way to bring a positive and abundant outcome to your fear and prove to yourself and the world that you have the power to create positive outcomes just as easily as negative outcomes!
What fear has been cropping up for you, over and over and over that you are finally ready to stop struggling with?
You may have to dig deep because we often disguise our struggles by believing that something is happening TO us instead of the fact that we are creating our own reality! Fear wears many masks, such as: frustration, anger, resentment, guilt, denial, and even depression.
Once you have a name for the fear, apply these questions and watch what happens.
Nancy Mueller ~ Mastering Your Beliefs Sensei
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