“True forgiveness is when you can say, "Thank you for that experience.”
― Oprah Winfrey
Has someone ever done something to you that made you so mad that forgiveness did not seem possible?
3 women were discussing this very question this week with me...
One woman was complaining about paying another woman several thousand dollars to advertise her business but the advertising never materialized. This woman was very upset, posting negative comments on the internet and was telling everyone who would listen about how she had paid for something she never received.
Another woman was talking about her ex-husband making negative comments about her to their children. This woman was practically falling apart because of the awful things that her ex said-husband was telling their children about her.
In yet another conversation, a woman was complaining about how her mother ruined her life due to bad parenting.
As I listened to these 3 separate conversations, I wondered if each woman understood the amount of power that she was giving up to the person they were angry with.
What if, every person that comes into our lives does so to teach us something? If this is the case, and we are able to look at situations that upset us and quickly realize that rather than be upset, perhaps we should be saying, "thank you for that experience because it has taught me to make better choices next time.
If the lesson:
Michael Jackson has a song that really brings to mind the effectiveness of looking inward at the struggles we are dealing with in our lives:
I'm Starting With The Man In The Mirror
I'm Asking Him To Change His Ways
And No Message Could Have Been Any Clearer
If You Wanna Make The World A Better Place
Take A Look At Yourself, And...
Then Make A Change
Too many people want to blame others for where they are in life or the struggles they are dealing with because they under estimate the person in the mirror. Beginning with the person in the mirror will always help you resolve life's challenges in a way that will allow you to feel empowered rather than disempowered!
You are a very powerful person. Instead of dealing with a situation with negative energy towards another person, start empowering yourself by creating a positive outcome to the situation. People are going to do what they do, stop giving them your power. Look yourself directly in the eyes and ask, "how can I take control of this situation?" Blaming others will only add to the negative energy in the situation. Start by loving the person in the mirror and appreciating the gift of each experience you have been given.
"I forgive you for making a poor business choice"
"I forgive you for letting your ex-husband make you feel disempowered"
"I forgive you for allowing an abusive parent to continue to have control over your thoughts in the present"
Once you have forgiven yourself and are ready to take back your power, you begin to see the endless possibilities that life has to offer you!
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