Every choice we make is based on a belief; we make choices because we believe it’s the right choice at that moment.
When we BELIEVE we are making the right choice, how do we know that our belief is accurate? Where do our beliefs come from and do they have a shelf life?
Whatever you believe can either support your success and happiness or create more struggle in your life or business.
Let’s take Victoria’s Secret – they have models with perfect bodies and sell millions of bras, lingerie, fashion items and perfume because somewhere, deep down, we believe that if we wear these items, we are one step closer to bringing their fashion success into our life.
Where does that belief come from?
Is it a belief or is it a wish, and where does the wish end and the belief begin?
When we wish for something, we must believe it’s possible or we wouldn’t wish for it.
Why do we struggle between our wishes and our beliefs?
Let’s go back to Victoria’s Secret.
A young girl sees a poster of a beautiful Victoria’s Secret model. She makes a wish, right then and there, to grow up to look like that woman.
The young girl may do some research to learn how this beautiful model keeps herself looking so beautiful. She learns that models are required to maintain a certain weight and what they do to maintain that weight. Thus, begins a journey to fulfill her wish to look like this model as well as creating a belief about what she can and cannot eat to fulfill this wish.
What if this same young girl sees this beautiful young model only to have her mother tell her, "that's inappropriate, young ladies don't sit like that!” In this scenario, the young girl grows up believing that posing this way is inappropriate and as she gets older, she struggles with body image issues.
Years later, both of these scenarios can cause this young girl who is now a young adult to struggle with her weight, her self-image, how she believes she is viewed by others, intimacy issues with a significant other, and the list goes on and on!
As an adult, what are the odds that this young woman will be able to recall that exact time in her life when she saw that poster and created her belief?
As an adult, she may believe her mother taught her right from wrong and how young ladies should and shouldn’t act. She loves her mother, and she knows that her mother always has her best interests at heart.
Or, as an adult she may struggle with her weight; always believing she is overeating and can never appreciate the woman she sees in the mirror. Through the years her mother tried to get her to eat, and now this young woman believes that her mother never supported her dream and this belief has caused a huge gap in their mother daughter relationship.
As adults, we often look for “who’s to blame” instead of giving ourselves permission to ask the most important question we could ask ourselves, “is that true or is that something I’ve always believed to be true and now that belief is causing me to struggle in certain areas of my life?”
The reality is, we believe what we believe because we do what we’ve always done because we know what we’ve always known to be true based on what we were taught.
But who taught them?
Did it all start with Victoria’s Secret, the girl, the mother or generations before them?
Perhaps she’ll never be able to track her belief back to its origin – but she can begin with the most important question she will ever ask herself, “Is that true, or is that something that I’ve always believed to be true, and how long will I allow that belief to cause me to struggle today?”
After all, Life Is All About Choices!
Nancy Mueller ~ Mastering Your Beliefs Mentor
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