While on the road to discovering our life’s purpose, the greatest joy is when we find ourselves saying, “This is it, this is what I’m meant to do with my life!”
But what happens when you think you have it all figured out and then setbacks happen; we start to doubt ourselves because things aren’t going according to our plans or we feel like our life is spiraling out of control.
This is when doubts set in and we have conversations with ourselves that sound something like, “I am such a loser! I can’t believe how many times I have tried to make this business/goal/belief work and have had nothing but failures! If this is what I’m truly meant to do with my life, then why am I having such a hard time (earning a living at this, getting my message out, finding the right clients, getting others to believe in my dream, etc.).
Once these negative conversations get started, this is where most people give up. They allow doubt to creep in because friends and family members who mean well and want the best for them will say things like, “hey, at least you tried” or “when are you going to get serious about your life?”
When I was in the sixth grade, I wanted to study Martial Arts. When I was in the ninth grade, I decided I wanted to speak in front of large groups of people and share a message that would create a positive impact on the audience.
When I was in my thirties, I finally had the opportunity to begin my Martial Arts training and that is when I thought I had discovered my life’s purpose; teaching self-defense to women. My business was called W.A.V.E. (Women Against Violent Encounters) and I loved teaching.
When teaching self-defense, I also loved teaching the philosophies behind the Martial Arts (or, what I call, Mental Martial Arts). I loved sharing these philosophies so much that soon the women were not as interested in learning the physical techniques but became more interested in mental martial arts.
Doubt set in; how can I keep accepting their money to take my classes and workshops when they aren’t even learning what they are supposed to be learning?
We learn from our mistakes; one of my mistakes was assuming the women were there to learn what I thought I was supposed to be teaching them. Once I got out of my own head and started paying attention to what they were taking away from the classes and workshops, I realized the mental martial arts were empowering women in their everyday lives; in their relationships, careers and aspirations! In this case I, as the teacher, had become the student as I started to see the bigger picture of what I was offering these women. Once I accepted the transition from the physical teachings to the spiritual teachings or, the Mental Martial Arts, my ability to be able to help my clients grew into something I could not have foreseen when I started my journey.
Once we understand that “we don’t know what we don’t know” and give ourselves permission to grow farther than we ever thought possible, we open a door to more abundance, prosperity, rewards, and return on our investment because we are actually allowing ourselves to answer more than a calling, and we begin to ask questions such as, “if this was the start of my purpose, where will it grow from here? What glass ceilings will I shatter, what ladders will I continue to climb and who else am I meant to impact with my ever-growing purpose?
Once we begin to understand that every journey begins with the first step, we will no longer have those conversations with ourselves that sound something like, “I am such a loser! I can’t believe how many times I have tried to make this business/goal/belief work and have had nothing but failures! If this is what I’m truly meant to do with my life, then why am I having such a hard time (earning a living at this, getting my message out, finding the right clients, getting others to believe in my dream, etc.) because we will FINALLY understand that those first few steps are leading us to the grand design that our life is meant to be.
Once we have reached this level of “knowing” we will never again allow ourselves to doubt who we are or what we are meant to accomplish in this lifetime! Every mistake becomes a mis-take; a do-over! The do-over that is an opportunity to make mistake after mistake knowing that every single time we don’t get it exactly like we want it, it’s usually because we are limiting our true potential and not because we did something wrong!
So, the next time you believe you have discovered your life’s purpose, give yourself permission to say, “it’s more than just a calling, this is my opportunity to take the first step towards my greatness!
Nancy Mueller ~ Mastering Your Beliefs Sensei
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