Let Go of Your Story

How do you identify yourself:  son, daughter, oldest, youngest, middle child?

Perhaps you see yourself as a wife, father, husband, mother, girlfriend, lover, boyfriend, boss, employee, successes, a failure, career oriented, married, divorced, single, widowed, leader, shy, extroverted, introverted, happy, sad, fulfilled, unfulfilled, disabled, athletic, abused child, or someone who has been dumped on one too many times in your life.

Regardless of how you see yourself (your identity) there is a story you tell yourself (your belief) about why you believe it to be true.

Your story is running your life.

What happens when your beliefs about who you are, what you believe makes you "you" is put to the test.  What happens when the story you've told yourself about who you are causes you to doubt who you are meant to be?

Divorce can cause you to doubt who you are as a person, parent, grandparent, member of society and who you are going forward.

Job loss can cause you to doubt your value in society and how you are viewed by your friends and family.

Financial stress can cause you to doubt your security, your future and your ability to care for yourself and your family.

Mental, physical or emotional health challenges can cause you to doubt your ability to function in a world that may not understand your challenges.

So who are you?  You are not your job, your marital status, your financial status or your level of health.  You ARE who you tell yourself you are, based on the beliefs you've created within your own mind.

Your beliefs create your story and that story is what you tell yourself and others, over and over and over and over.

What story do you tell yourself every morning when you wake up?  Does your story limit you to what you believe you are capable of achieving or does it empower you to do more, climb higher and dream bigger?

When you finally get to a point where you're able to let go of the negative energy around how you tell “your story”, everything changes.  The problem with change is, change is often accompanied by fear and fear can rise up inside you and invade your thoughts like a smoke-filled room invades your lungs.  

The first step to letting go of your story is to face the fear of who you are without it!  Fear would have us believe that if you let go of your story, you will experience a loss of identity and that loss includes questions such as, “if I’m not that person, who am I?”  

You can tell when your story is holding you back, because you may ask yourself questions such as, “if I can’t keep telling my story, how will people know how much I've struggled to get where I am and why I deserve to be here?” (this can be an indication of how you value your "self").  You may also believe that it is impossible to change your current situation so you will use your story as proof of why you are going through current challenges or struggles.

Your story matters but the energy with which you tell it will either cause you to continue to struggle or set you free. 

If you’re still hurt, angry, remorseful, feeling guilty, ashamed, feeling vengeful or still in “victim mode” you may be sharing your story in a way that is causing you to look to others to validate your negative feelings and emotions.

Believing that your greatest achievement comes from the experiences you've had or overcome is actually fear trying to get you to believe you will never be anything more than you currently are, or, the sum of your past experiences.

Fear would have us believe that we are nothing special and that struggle is a natural way of life. Fear causes our self-worth to agree to play small so as not to bring attention to the gifts and talents that reside within us.  Fear would have us believe that we are inconsequential rather than the super being we were born to be.

When you can share your story and it comes from a place deep within you that is based on beliefs of your own empowerment, the negative energy around your story will lose it's power over you.

You have the power to change your negative feelings into positive feelings - you have the power to change your story, change your energy and change how you show up in the world.  You can do this by letting go of your story; that belief that you've been holding onto for so long that you don't even realize it's running your life.  Pay attention to the words you choose and the energy behind your words.  Are you using words such as; "can't, won't try, maybe, if, who am I, some day, because, but, if only?"  These words are disempowering and are associated with negative energy that has the power to keep you on a hamster wheel of self-doubt and affects your belief about who you deserve to be.
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When you believe you are here to struggle, or that there is a struggle you must overcome before you can start living the life you long for, you are actually creating low self-worth.  Low self-worth emits an energy frequency that attracts other low levels of “SELF” such as low self-love, self-image, self-wealth, self-health.  You may find yourself hanging around others who also have low levels of self-worth because this gives you the ability to commiserate with others who feel the same way and who will never encourage you to let go of your story .

When you’re ready to increase your levels of “SELF” be ready to let go of your story and experience who you were born to be!

Nancy Mueller
Mastering Your Beliefs Sensei

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