Living your life in high self-esteem can be the key to unlock your greatest desires in life. But what happens when your self-esteem is at an all-time low or you didn’t have much to begin with?
High self-esteem can mean the difference of going after that new client, asking for the promotion you want, working up the nerve to talk to that special guy you’ve had your eye on or even having that conversation that you have been avoiding.
An example of creating high self-esteem can be found in your shampoo bottle! When you buy a new bottle of shampoo, you are more likely to feel that you have an abundance of shampoo without giving much thought as to how much you use. However, when the bottle is close to empty, and you haven’t been shopping in a while, you probably tend to use the shampoo very sparingly.
Self-esteem is a lot like shampoo; when you have an excess of self-esteem, you are more likely to be happy and live life to the fullest. When you are low on self-esteem, you are more likely to live your life sparingly; being hesitant to join a conversation, stand up for yourself, ask for that promotion, volunteer information during a meeting or standing your ground when someone is requesting more of you than you are ready to give.
What is self-esteem and where does it come from? Self-esteem starts with our self-talk. Self-talk is that little voice inside our head that starts talking when someone else stops talking. For example; if I were to compliment you on your shirt, would you be able to smile and say “thank you?” Or would your self-talk kick in, causing you to think, “this shirt, oh my gosh, why did she have to say anything about this shirt? I haven’t done laundry for so long and this was the only clean shirt in my closet. I didn’t even have time to iron it and I am sure that she is really noticing every wrinkle in this shirt. Why, oh why, did she have to say something about my shirt, today of all days? Why couldn’t she have complimented me yesterday when I was feeling great about my outfit?”
You can see how low self-esteem and negative self-talk can take the life out of your living but unlike shampoo, I don’t know of any store that sells self-esteem. So, where do you go to refill your self-esteem?
The answer lies inside “YOU!” Let’s start with your health. On a scale of 1 to 10 (10 being the BEST) where are you? If your answer is less than a 10, what are you doing to improve your health? Let’s face it, I think you will agree that it is no fun to be sick. When you feel a cold coming on or experience depression, the whole world seems out of control.
When you’re tired, run down, out of energy and the highlight of your day is plopping down in front of your TV set, that is your clue that it is time to put some life into your living! Most people have forgotten what “healthy” feels like. Start where you are and create positive habits and eliminate your negative habits. Get off the couch, go for a walk. Turn off the TV, read a book. Stop watching the news, get out there and make the news. Learn to cook healthier, stop eating fast food and drinking soda. You are what you eat and your brain is counting on you to choose healthy nutritious food to fuel your body. If you start your day with a bowl of cereal and milk, coffee and a donut, soda and a candy bar or you skip breakfast altogether, you are setting yourself up for a day of disaster.
Our bodies need fuel; nutrients, vitamins, minerals, water, sunlight, exercise and a happy mindset. You won’t find these things in a fast food joint or a vending machine. Starting your day off with the right kind of protein can make all the difference between getting through the day and sailing through your day.
Do you want to know the best part… YOU get to choose how you live your life, what you feed your body and the level of fun you add to your daily routine.
Every negative has a positive; sometimes you have to look a little harder to find it, but it is there. If your self-talk is full of negative comments and put downs, how will you build your self-esteem to the level you need to live every day to the fullest?
Create a habit of waking up every morning and finding 10 things to be grateful for and then do the same thing before you fall asleep at night. Studies show that whatever is on our mind right before we fall asleep is what we will take into our subconscious when we are sleeping. If you are a person who falls asleep with the TV on, you have no control over what is being loaded into your subconscious as you fall asleep. Commercials and negative news shows permeate our minds and we think we are tuning them out but we are not. How can you eliminate the negative habit of falling asleep in front of the TV with a better more positive habit?
So, the next time you reach for your shampoo bottle, think about how easy it is to get a refill. Then, tell yourself that your self-esteem can be as abundant as your shampoo. Because, after all, Life Is All About Choices!
By Nancy Mueller
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