Stop Letting Your Life Pass You By

If I ask you to think about a diamond ring, a pearl ring, an amethyst ring and a sapphire ring, and then I ask you which ring doesn’t belong in with this group of rings, which ring would you choose?
The answer is; they all belong in this group; they are all rings.

Sometimes people feel like they don’t belong, or they don’t fit in.

Have you ever felt like you just don’t fit in?  Maybe you’ve always felt that way or maybe something has happened in your life and you simply don’t feel part of the crowd you thought would be your friends for life.

When the time comes to let go of relationships that no longer serve us, it’s often easier to tell ourselves, “we did something wrong.  We don’t fit in.  We must have made a mistake.  We must have said or done something that has completely alienated us from the people we always thought would be there for us.”

If you are one of those people who believes there is something wrong with you because, “you no longer want to be part of the old gang, you don’t fit in at social gatherings, you can’t listen to one more conversation about the same old topics or you’re feeling unwanted; here’s your wake-up call.

Are you ready to wake up?

Warning: as you begin to wake up, you might feel fear, anxiety, guilt, lost, depressed, adrift, alienated, or even wrong.

The good news is, when a previous way of life is no longer comfortable for you, this means you are actually moving forward in your life.  You are actually starting to live your life for YOU instead of living it for someone else.

You are feeling this way because you are doing something different.  You are stepping outside of what you’ve always known your life to be and into unfamiliar territory.  This is where the fear sets in, this is where fear tells you that you did something wrong, you don’t fit in, you made a mistake, or you owe someone an apology.

It’s time to stop apologizing for wanting to live your life in the most amazing way possible.  It’s time to stop apologizing because you don’t fit in.  It’s time to stop apologizing; PERIOD! 

Isn’t it time you started to live your life instead of letting it pass you by while you remain a prisoner to your old beliefs, relationships and choices?

When was the last time you did something you’ve never done before?  If you keep yourself tied to old habits, friends, choices, beliefs and locations, if you never try something new because you’re always waiting for permission from someone, you are choosing to let your life pass you by because you are choosing to live it according to another person’s opinion or beliefs about you.

When everyone else is wearing black, this is your opportunity to wear red and stand out from the crowd.  Be the leader in your own life – dare to be the brightest light in the room.  Stop letting the beliefs of others determine your own beliefs.

The only way you are going to live your life to the fullest is to be in charge of your choices.  Stop letting life pass you by because you choose to give in to fear based beliefs.  If you don’t take charge of your life, someone else will!

Nancy Mueller ~ Life Empowerment Sensei 

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