When you see her, you think, "Wow, she is so amazing. She always has a smile on her face and a kind word for others. She has a beautiful home, a loving family, a fabulous career and I know that so many woman want to be just like her!"
She knows that you are thinking this as she sadly turns her head, so that you can't read her thoughts because she is thinking, "if you only knew!"
No one knows the secrets she hides in an effort to maintain outward appearances. There is no one she can confide in because surely, if she were to speak her truth, she would be judged by all she knows. After all this time, how can she possibly speak up and tell the truth?
Every time she stands in the shower longer than she intended so no one will see her tears, she is trying to convince herself that she is not a victim. Victims have bruises and black eyes because they are weak and allow themselves to be abused. She is sure that she is not abused because she works very hard to be in control and allows others to see only what she wants them to see.
Every day she thinks, "Be strong and don't tell, there are too many people counting on me! If I give up it means I am weak and I am no quitter! How can I possibly admit to anyone what has happened to me? No, I must carry the weight of this secret on my own."
The children, I must be strong for the children because they must never know or suspect what is really going on. I am a good mother because I shield my children from the truth.
I wish someone could help her understand that speaking her truth is the greatest strength of all! I wish that someone could help her understand that she is worthy and there is so much about her that is loving and good. I wish that someone could help her understand that her children know.
I wish someone could help her understand the importance of being self-preserving and experiencing self-love! I wish that someone could teach her that once she speaks her truth, she will feel a great weight lifted from her heart. I wish that someone could teach her that abuse comes in many forms and doesn't always leave bruises and black eyes but it can scar the soul! I wish that someone could teach her that being a victim does not mean that she is weak.
The truth is, I wish all of these things for her but I know that until she is ready to speak her truth, until she is ready to let go of any person, place or condition that disempowers her, she will remain a victim.
I wish someone could teach her that being a victim is not why we are here. I wish someone could teach her we are here to shine like the brightest star in the sky to light the way for others who have lost their way.
I wish someone could teach her to always give her love secondhand because she should always feel it for herself first! I wish someone could teach her to live an empowered life because it means she will never again have to hide her truth.
You may be wondering how I know these things. I know because I used to be her. I am someone.
I am someone. I am here, and I am ready to teach you these things when you are ready!
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