Before we go any farther, let me explain what your “Known Zone” is.
Your “Known Zone” is that part of you where all of your beliefs are stored.
From the age of birth to about 8 years of age, someone (usually our parents or caregivers) teach us what we need to know and this knowledge is stored in our “Known Zone” and then buried in our subconscious mind.
As an example, let’s take the brand of toothpaste you used growing up. Every time you brushed your teeth, you reach for the toothpaste and you never even question WHY you are using this brand of toothpaste – you just know that you’re supposed to brush your teeth and this is what you reach for when you do it. Your brand of toothpaste becomes as much a habit as brushing your teeth.
Then you grow up, move out of the house and you run out of toothpaste. You go to the store and “based on habit from your “Known Zone” – you purchase the toothpaste you’ve always used. You probably don’t even give it a second thought as you throw it in your cart.
If someone were to ask you WHY you use that brand of toothpaste, you probably couldn’t come up with much of an answer other than, “I don’t know, it’s what I’ve always used!” Somewhere between the ages of birth and 8 years of age, you created a belief around this brand of toothpaste.
But if someone were to really pressure you about WHY you use this brand of toothpaste, you might get irritated and feel the need to defend your choice. You have your belief; the other person has their belief and it causes you to doubt yourself.
When we doubt ourselves, we can get angry, frustrated, depressed and have feelings of low self-worth, causing us to struggle.
Now, this might not sound like such a big deal when we’re talking about toothpaste, but what about the other beliefs lurking in our “Known Zone”
Go to church on Sunday
Life is hard
Right / Wrong
Kids should be seen and not heard
Don’t talk back
Don’t talk to strangers
The boogeyman is real
If you do that, you’ll go blind
Sex is private, we don’t talk about it
Don’t tell anyone what goes on in our house
If you want to be healthy, you have to eat plenty of meat
This is Good / That’s Bad
You’re not wanted
Candy is good
Hold out for Prince Charming
Get a college education
Ok, you get the picture – RIGHT? You’re now beginning to understand your “Known Zone. When we take this information to the next level, it’s easy to see that every choice we make is based on beliefs from our “Known Zone”
When the time comes for your parents to have a real discussion about your belief in Santa Claus and the Tooth Fairy, parents don’t usually say, “Oh yea, and you might want to think twice about all that other stuff in your “Known Zone” because some of it might not be accurate. We were only teaching you what someone taught us and there are a lot of things we’re still trying to figure out but if you figure it out before we do, come and talk to us because we would really be interested in what you’ve learned so we can change our beliefs around the way we parent you!
Here’s the part that I REALLY want you to think about – how many adults are walking around making choices based on childhood beliefs because they were never taught to question what they were taught before it became a belief? The answer is, “most of us!”
When we think about the level of success in our life, business, relationships, health and finances we begin to understand that our struggles are based on our “Known Zone” and the beliefs deriving from our “Known Zone”.
What are you struggling with that never seems to get easier?
Your Financial Situation
Your Parenting Choices
Where do you struggle? The definition of insanity is to continue doing things the same way and expecting different results – IT ISN’T GOING TO HAPPEN!
If your goal is to be a better “YOU” tomorrow than you are today, all of your choices must come from a different belief around your struggle than you’re currently using. If you want to get divorced but you have a belief that divorce is wrong, you may be staying in a marriage that’s unhealthy for both of you and any children who are involved.
If you want to quit your corporate job and start your own business but your belief is that you must be a loyal employee, give your all to the company, look forward to retirement and then you can start to have fun – it’s not likely you‘ll make the move.
If you want a healthier body but your belief about a healthy body is that you have to spend six hours a day in the gym and eat food you don’t like – you’ll never find the motivation you need.
If your relationship with one or both of your parents is strained but you have a belief that expressing your opinion means you’re being disrespectful, you will never help them see the real you!
When you know where your beliefs come from, you begin to see why your success could depend on understanding your “Known Zone”!
Nancy Mueller ~ Mastering Your Beliefs Mentor
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