10 Ways You Are Making Your Divorce Harder Than It Needs To Be

I have 4 words for you: “You Have The Power”

Keep these 4 words in mind when you’re struggling through the 3 Stages of Divorce. 

The 3 Stages of Divorce are: 
​​#1:  Thinking About It
#2:  Going Through It
#3:  Life After Divorce

If you’re struggling during these 3 stages, you have the power to make it easier on yourself and everyone involved while you are on this journey.  



​10 ways that you are making your divorce harder than it needs to be are:

1. You are blaming, name calling, holding a grudge and in some way creating negativity around your divorce.
2. You are using your children to get back at your ex or soon to be ex.
3. You are telling yourself that your life is over and that you will never again be happy
4. You are depressed
5. You spend a great deal of your day thinking of ways to get back at your spouse or your ex
6. You are angry and can’t let go of the hurt
7. You want your friends or family members to take your side
8. You see divorce as an ending instead of a new beginning
9. Ignoring your health
10. Making choices based on your financial situation

If you see yourself choosing any of these 10 choices, you are making your divorce harder than it needs to be because these really are a choice that you're making, whether consciously or subconsciously. Here are 3 questions you can ask yourself that will help during your journey:

1. What Belief/Feeling can I let go of at this very minute?
2. What Belief/Feeling will I let go of at this very minutes?
3. What Belief/Feeling do I need to hold on to for a while longer?

These 3 questions are the first steps to retraining your mind to understand your beliefs about how “YOU” have the power over the choices you are making in your life. 

It doesn't matter if you're thinking about getting divorced, faced with starting the divorce proceedings, in the middle of a divorce or trying to put your divorce behind you - divorce can create a virtual roller coaster of fears, anxieties, and emotions that can leave your life tossed around like a raft at sea.  It doesn't matter if you initiated the divorce or your spouse did, it doesn't matter if you are in favor of the divorce or dreading it; bottom line - your life is forever changed. 

The good news is, “YOU” have the power to make this change can work in your favor.

Understanding what your beliefs are, around the topic of divorce, can help you understand why you are reacting the way you are.  Once you understand where our beliefs come from, you then have the power to continue with that belief or eliminate the belief once you see how it’s holding you back.

You truly do have the power to walk your journey through the 3 Stages of Divorce as an empowered woman.  If you are struggling, when do you think would be a good time to stop making it harder than it needs to be?

Nancy Mueller ~ The Mastering Your Beliefs Sensei

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