Unbecoming

Women can be quick to take the blame for something just to stop an argument, create a peaceful solution or to boost the morale of another person.

Consider this short story:

A man spent hours watching a butterfly struggling to emerge from its cocoon. It managed to make a small hole, but its body was too large to get through it. After a long struggle, it appeared to be exhausted and remained absolutely still.

The man decided to help the butterfly and, with a pair of scissors, he cut open the cocoon, thus releasing the butterfly. However, the butterfly’s body was very small and wrinkled and its wings were all crumpled.

The man continued to watch, hoping that, at any moment, the butterfly would open its wings and fly away. Nothing happened; in fact, the butterfly spent the rest of its brief life dragging around its shrunken body and shriveled wings, incapable of flight.

What the man – out of kindness and his eagerness to help – had failed to understand was that the tight cocoon and the efforts that the butterfly had to make in order to squeeze out of that tiny hole were Nature’s way of training the butterfly and of strengthening its wings.

Sometimes, a little extra effort is precisely what prepares us for the next obstacle to be faced. Anyone who refuses to make that effort, or gets the wrong sort of help, is left unprepared to fight the next battle and never manages to fly off to their destiny.

(Adapted from a story sent in by Sonaira D’Avila)
 
When women believe they are doing something FOR someone, it’s usually because she is convinced she’s being helpful.

When it becomes difficult for a woman to see her value through her partner's eyes, a woman will often believe she’s doing something wrong.  

Whether a woman is in a relationship, getting out of a relationship or looking for a relationship, it is imperative that she understand she is already enough.  When a woman allows self-degradation to be the starting point for who and what she wants to be in her life, she is sending a message to the Universe saying, “I know I am less than I should be, please help me find a way to be more than I am!”

When women give themselves permission to never allow another person to determine her value - and always begin with the understanding that "She Is Enough" she builds a solid foundation in her relationships!  Imagine the number of women we could empower if we could get women everywhere to adapt the simple message of, “I Am Enough!”

Life is a perception based on what we believe to be true.  If a woman believes she is not worthy, has no value, is not pretty enough, not healthy enough, not smart enough and doesn't like who she sees in her mirror; every single choice she makes will confirm her belief. 

When women are ready to let go of someone else’s perception of who she believes she is, when she’s ready to live her life in a way that matters most to her, she will understand that life isn’t about becoming anything.  It’s about unbecoming the limiting beliefs of who she believes she is.
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Nancy Mueller ~ Mastering Your Beliefs Sensei

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