The only reason a woman would want to live the life of another woman is because she believes there is something wrong with her own life.
The question then becomes, what do you believe is wrong with your life?
Actually, there’s nothing wrong with your life; but if you don’t believe that then please allow me the opportunity to persuade you otherwise…
The mother was elated; she had waited for the birth of her first child with an eager anticipation of sharing all the love she had to give to this tiny bundle of joy.
Her child was born into this world; it was a girl. The mother’s eager anticipation was short lived when she discovered yet another mean streak in her husband; as he forbade her to hold their baby girl except to feed, bathe and diaper her. The mother’s eager anticipation soon turned to bitter disappointment; within a month she discovered she was pregnant once again. This time there was no eager anticipation for the child within. Five children in five years and her first child, the daughter whose birth only five years earlier had been eagerly anticipated, never experienced the childhood her mother had once dreamed for her.
The years progressed, and the girl’s home life became a place of insecurity and fear, resulting in emotional abuse, verbal abuse, physical abuse that escalated to sexual abuse by the age of 12. The girl cried for help that never came, and she often wished she could live anyone else’s life but her own.
The girl was lost, lonely, afraid and distrustful; in her world she knew only fear and self-loathing. The answer came at age 17, she married and vowed she would create a different life for herself and raise a family with love and security. The girl was now a woman, a wife and a mother. The girl who was now a wife and mother showered love on her daughters; encouraging them seek a better way, a gentler way of life and an opportunity to see their world from a life lived from love and laughter.
All too soon the daughters grew up and started their own lives, but the girl who was now a wife suffered yet another blow; divorce. Everything was turning out all wrong; how could her life have gone so wrong? She would have given anything not to be living this nightmare; she would have given anything to be living someone else’s life at that time.
Soon, out of grief came knowledge, out of despair came hope and from that hope a whole new world opened up to her. Oh, how could she have ever known that this new beginning she had created was the start of something wonderful and life fulfilling! Out of her experiences she had learned; from her darkest moments in childhood to the shattered dreams of her marriage, like a Phoenix rising from the ashes she began to understand that everything happens in life for a purpose.
Now she knows life is always meant to be lived beyond her expectations because too often she had expected so little, that the life of another appeared grander than her own.
The girl who is now a woman understands the only life she’s meant to live is the life she is living. How else would she now be able to teach women that it’s not what happens to you that matters, it’s what you do with what happens to you.
The truth is, we have no idea how perfect our life really is until we are able to see the possibilities that remained hidden from us while we longed to live the life of another!
Nancy Mueller ~ Life Empowerment Sensei