Ladies, when was the last time you thought about how trauma can affect your everyday choices; specifically when the trauma is a result of sexual abuse in any form. Trauma that is a result of being victimized by another person can shadow every area of your life. The shadow of sexual trauma and/or abuse can follow you into your dreams, your relationships, your career and then the feelings and emotions that stem from that trauma can become overwhelming to the point of debilitating.
Sexual trauma can also hold you back when marketing your business, products or services. When you're still experiencing the shadow effects of sexual trauma, it can take the lead in your thoughts.
99% of the thoughts you're thinking today are the same thoughts you had yesterday and will be the same thoughts you have tomorrow unless you change your mindset.
With this knowledge, any woman who finds herself struggling with the traumatic after-effects of sexual abuse such as: self-sabotaging thoughts that can include low self-worth, low self-confidence, low self-esteem, or the ever looming memory of something that was forced upon her, may also be struggling to find her voice when marketing her business.
Experts estimate that the mind thinks between 60,000 – 80,000 thoughts a day. That's an average of 2,500 – 3,300 thoughts per hour.
During that hour, if you're presenting your business, products or services and have no idea of the thoughts that are running through your mind, you may be sabotaging yourself when marketing your business and not even be aware of it! Then you'll walk away and start doubting yourself as you think, "I was so sure that person was interested in my work, I don't understand why they weren't open to my message."
This is when we doubt our capabilities as an entrepreneur because it never occurs to us that the underlying thoughts that are running through our mind are also sending out a strong negative energy to the very person we were hoping to impress or share our message with. This will result in the person being turned off by your energy but not being able to explain the uneasy feeling they have when talking with you. Because you're unaware of the negative energy, thoughts, feelings and emotions you're emitting, you fall down the rabbit hole of self-doubt. And this cycle will happen over and over and over again until you can release the negative emotions associated with every traumatic experience.
There is an answer to being able to eliminate these self-sabotaging thoughts and beliefs and it entails being able to "Go Beyond Your Story". Your story has been created from your memories; memories exist only in your past, so ask yourself, "what past experiences have I created my story from?
Your Story is what you tell people when you want them to know who you are. It's also something you use to tell yourself what you're incapable of, why you'll never succeed, that you don't have the right education, the right social status, or why something in your past has convinced you that you don't deserve to live a life of prosperity and abundance; emotionally, physically, financially and spiritually.
“I am not what happened to me, I am what I choose to become.” ― Carl Jung
When you Go Beyond Your Story, you create your life from this moment forward and you become more empowered when marketing your message, business or products.
Often when clients choose to work with me, they believe they have a problem with getting their message across to potential clients. But the problem is never the problem; more often, it's their mindset that's holding them back because their mindset stems from their beliefs that they've held onto and how it's shaped their story about who they believe they are and how successful they deserve to be.
Often times we'll tell ourselves that what happened is in the past. We aren't going to allow it to effect any part of our life, our relationships, or our careers. We may even be able to do a great job of telling ourselves that we've put the past in the past and that's where it'll stay. We are strong, vigilant, successful career oriented women who work hard for what we have and deserve the recognition for the work that we've done. And it can all come unraveled like a ball of yarn rolling across the floor the minute any part of the shadow effects of past sexual trauma starts to encroach on our thoughts. Because when that shadow begins to loom over you, it brings feelings and emotions that you were unprepared to deal with during a business transaction (especially when you had yourself convinced that you'd put it behind you).
If you're wondering if past sexual trauma is encroaching into any area of how you show up in your personal or professional life, all you have to do is pay attention to your story. Are you able to talk about what happened without falling apart emotionally? Does telling your story bring up negative feelings and emotions of self-loathing, self-judgement or still make you angry when you think about it? If so, learning to Go Beyond Your Story will give you back your power and put an end to the negative feelings and emotions that can crop up at the most inopportune times.
When your story keeps you from going after the promotion, speaking in front of groups of people, making yourself heard, feeling valued in your personal and professional life or convinces you that you are "less than" in any area of your life, you owe yourself the experience of learning to Go Beyond Your Story. When you've talked about the experience, allowed yourself to feel every emotion, examine every belief and then Master Your Beliefs around the experience, you will free your mind, your thoughts and your beliefs so they can no longer hold you hostage in any situation that may arise within your personal and professional life.
You have the power to dream BIGGER than your story. You have the power to live BIGGER than your story and you have the power to Go Beyond Your Story. Every woman deserves to release the emotional bondage that ensues after sexual trauma or abuse. Every woman deserves to believe in her value; how talented, gifted, loved and special she is.
YOU are a woman of Inner Strength; you deserve to experience financial abundance and freedom for sharing your gifts and talents with the world. If you have an old story that still has negative emotions associated with it, you're giving your story the power to hold you back from the very person you're meant to be. You may also find that by holding onto your story, you've been unable to charge what your worth because you yourself do not value your worth. When this happens, you'll offer discounts, coupons or undercharge for your services or products. You deserve so much more because you're worth so much more!
The world is waiting for you. The world is waiting for the gifts and talents that only you can share. Only you have the power to choose how much longer you're willing to wait to share YOU with the world!
Nancy Mueller ~ Life Empowerment Sensei
You wake up and don't "FEEL" like going to work; you decide to go anyway but throughout the day, you know you're not giving 100% of yourself to your work.
Your spouse/partner wants to have a romantic evening but you're exhausted and would rather take a hot shower and go to sleep. You "FEEL" guilty for wanting to put your needs first so you don't.
Your mother has found yet another reason to criticize you and makes you "FEEL" like you're five years old again.
You live thousands of miles away from your parents but they're getting too old to take care of themselves and, since you're single, you "FEEL" obligated to move closer to help take care of their needs.
Your business partner wants to make some changes in the business that you don't agree with but since she is the major financial contributor to the business, you "FEEL" like you have to agree with her suggestions.
It doesn't matter if it's business or personal, your feelings are always running your life.
So what happens when you don't "FEEL" like giving 100% at work, or putting someone else's needs before your own? What happens when you want the approval of another person but never seem to get it or you "FEEL" too disempowered to say what's really on your mind?
Whether you realize it or not, your feelings are always running your life and your feelings are based on your beliefs. When your feelings seem to be overtaking your life you can take back your power by asking yourself "what would happen if..."
> I don't go to work today (or I go but give myself a break for not showing up 100%)
> I put my needs before the the needs of someone else
> I stopped needing my mother's approval
> I found another way to help my parents
> I speak up and tell my business partner what's really on my mind
You'll answer these questions based on what you "believe" the outcome will be. If you believe the only viable outcome involves some scenario where you look like the bad guy, chances are you'll make a decision that works out better for someone else than for yourself.
When you're ready to stop making choices that puts the wants and needs of others before your own, here are 3 tips that may help you be more empowered in your life!
When you question your beliefs, the feelings around the belief will change! When you start feeling more positive, you're actually changing your vibrational energy. Here's the best part, abundance is a vibration! Once you learn how to use your feelings to raise your vibrational energy, you will also begin to feel more abundance within your life; feelings such as joy, happiness, love, gratitude and more!
I don't know about you, but the feelings of abundance are exactly the kind of feelings I'm happy to have running my life!
Life Is All About Choices!
Nancy Mueller ~ Life Sensei at Mastering Your Beliefs