As I sat in the living room, eagerly anticipating his arrival, I thought back to the last time we were together and why I thought I had ruined everything.
He had invited me to spend time with him while he babysit for the neighbors. After the kids had gone to bed, he turned on some music, then he turned to me and said, “when this song is over, it will be time for you to make your move.”
Make my move? What did that even mean; what moves?
As the song got closer to the end, I felt myself start to panic. What was I supposed to do? I had no idea; so, I just sat there and smiled at him.
When the song was over, he said, “times up” what are you going to do next?” I’m sure I said something absolutely brilliant and romantic like, “I don’t know, what do you want me to do?”
What I remember more than anything was the disappointment I felt for not knowing what to do and that’s when I started crying.
It felt like everything I had been holding inside of me was coming out with my tears and I couldn’t even talk. I just sat there and cried until the parents came home, paid him for babysitting, and we drove away in silence. The opportunity had passed, whatever was supposed to happen, didn’t happen.
But now, everything was going to be OK, because I had made my famous brownies!
When he finally arrived, he didn’t exactly look happy to see me, so I led him to the couch and ran to get the brownies.
When I proudly held the brownies up for his inspection, he just looked at me and said, “I don’t want any brownies, I can’t stay. I just came here to tell you that we can’t see each other anymore.”
I felt my heart drop to the pit of my stomach and as I was holding back the tears, I asked him why? His words hit me like a blow to the stomach, as he told me that his parents had high hopes and dreams for him, and they didn’t see me as an asset to his future.
And then he left.
I wanted him to come back so I could explain about the night we babysat together.
But I knew that even if he came back, I wouldn’t be able to tell him.
How was I supposed to tell him that he was my knight in shining armor and I had hoped he would carry me away from the awful secrets I was being forced to keep?
How was I supposed to explain the ugly secret I’d been keeping for the past three years?
How was I supposed to tell him that my father had threatened me within an inch of my life if I dared to ever tell anyone about the ongoing sexual abuse he had forced me to endure?
As I stood there, looking down at my pan of brownies, I suddenly became very aware of everything that was wrong with me.
I didn’t have any moves!
I wasn’t an asset to anyone’s future.
I was trying and failing to fit in at the 12th school in nine years.
I had no one to talk to and my mother was an expert at letting me know she could hardly stand the sight of me. Even when she did talk to me it was only to tell me that I was worthless and that I would never amount to anything.
What was wrong with me that even my own mother hated me?
Once again, I questioned the reason I’d ever been born.
Something told me my famous blonde brownies would never be special again.
My 15-year old self could not see my value, I could only see what I thought was wrong with me.
That’s the day I stopped making my famous brownies, because they only made me relive the feelings and emotions from that night.
That night became the story that I would share with myself and others to explain why I always felt so sad, how miserable I was, how unloved I was, how unworthy I was and why I had no self-worth.
Until one day I learned it was possible to go beyond my story, and I learned to start questioning my beliefs about my self-worth. Once I started asking questions, I also stopped living in fear and keeping the secrets that others threatened me not to tell!
As I discovered that my beliefs about myself and others were open for debate, I started questioning other things I had been taught to believe. I also learned that the fear of what would happen if I stopped keeping secrets was not real.
I discovered I’d been taught so many beliefs that were based on lies, half-truths and fears!
Like the belief that my mother hated the sight of me; I had that one wrong. I learned that she knew what my father was doing to me but didn’t have the resources or the mental strength to deal with it, so she just kept quiet. But the sight of me brought her so much shame that she couldn’t stand to look at me.
As children, we can only learn based on what we’re taught by our parents or those people who are closest to us. We believe what they teach us and then we go on to form our beliefs about what we can or cannot do – until we learn to question those beliefs.
We can’t go back and change the events, but we can learn how the feelings and emotions from those events are feeding into our adult beliefs and how they're creating more beliefs that turn into limiting beliefs, impostor beliefs and beliefs about what we can and cannot do. When we master those beliefs, the stories we’ve told for so long begin to change. They stop being stories of sadness, anger or feeling like a victim. The stories then become the very credentials of who we came here to be.
We stop believing that we could never be an asset to someone else’s future!
And when our beliefs change, the thoughts we think change, the words we use change and the doors that we thought were closed to us are suddenly flung wide open with unlimited possibilities!
Because there’s no greater feeling in the world than when someone tells you, “you can’t do that” and you can confidently turn to them and say, “Wanna bet? Just watch me!”
After that, brownies are just something delicious to eat!
Nancy Mueller ~ Life Sensei
This was the place Bruce Lee was first introduced to the martial arts community in August 1964, and demonstrated his one-inch punch and two-finger push-ups.
I heard them call my name, stepped into the ring, and looked up at into the faces of 7 Black Belt judges waiting for me to begin!
My Sensei had taught me a 7th Degree Black Belt kata and the time had come for me to show what I’d learned by competing at the Long Beach International Karate Tournament!
I was definitely "in the zone!"
For nine months I had studied, corrected and perfected the kata in preparation for the tournament!
I knew that kata backwards and forwards and could have done it in my sleep!
But as I stood there, looking into the eyes of those seven Black Belt judges, I could feel my knowledge drain from my mind.
😨It was as though a wall of white had come down between me and the judges;
😨My mind and my body were frozen,
😨Time seemed to have stopped,
😨I could no longer hear the shouts from the surrounding competitors!
That’s when I heard my 🕵️♀Impostor Syndrome whispered in my ear, "who do you think you are, competing with a 7th Degree Black Belt kata in front of all these Black Belt judges?"
I felt like an 🕵️♀impostor
I felt like a fraud
I felt out of my league
But most of all, I felt 😓intimidated!
As my mind deserted me, I tried to focus so my body could begin the movements that were so familiar to me, but all I could think to do was acknowledge the judges and bow out of the ring.
As soon as I left the ring my mind kicked into gear,
I wanted to run right back in there for a do-over but,
a do-over was not an option! ☹
That experience was over 20 years ago!
There were many tournaments after that, but first, I had to learn to master my beliefs around the Impostor Syndrome.
Today, that would NEVER happen to me because I've learned how to eliminate impostor beliefs BEFORE they have a chance to sabotage my success!
If you’re tired of the Impostor Syndrome sabotaging your success, CLICK HERE and learn how you too can recognize and eliminate The Impostor Syndrome!
The list goes on and on about what a woman believes it takes to be financially secure because every belief was created based on her past experiences.
There are many women who are plagued with impostor beliefs about what they're capable of, especially when it comes to being financially secure. Every woman who is financially independent possesses the ability to...
So how can women empower each other when it comes to being financially secure?
Following are a few thoughts on how women can stop tearing each other down and work to build each other up:
Encourage Instead of Discourage - When we meet a woman who's on a sincere path to something she believes in, we can encourage her. Every woman is where she is on her financial journey based on what she needs to learn. When you discourage a woman from following her dream, if she gives up, she'll never know what she may have become
Practice the Art of Non-Judgement - When we judge another woman, we're assuming we know what it's like to walk in her shoes. No one truly knows what another person is going through and one word of encouragement may be all she needs to learn what she's truly capable of
Don't Assume - When you assume another woman already knows what you know, you take away the opportunity for a teachable moment (which could very possibly be the reason you connected). Likewise, don't assume that what you know is what she's ready to learn
There Are No "Chance Encounters" - Everyone comes into our life for a purpose; it's up to each of us to know the difference between something we're meant to learn or something someone is meant to learn from us. “Knowing others is intelligence; knowing yourself is true wisdom. Mastering others is strength; mastering yourself is true power.” ~ Lao Tzu
Create Relationships Instead of Connections - Every woman wants to be seen, heard, and valued for who she is. Social media gives us the opportunity to connect or create relationships. Connecting with the intent to see, hear and value a woman for who she is, allows both women to be authentically empowered
Share Your Story - when we share our story, we give other women the opportunity to know she's not alone in what she's experiencing. You never know how your success story (and what it took for you to get there) can imact another woman when she's having doubts about what she's capable of
Recognize and Eliminate Your Impostor Syndrome - (a psychological pattern in which one doubts one's accomplishments and has a persistent internalized fear of being exposed as a "fraud"). When you're constantly doubting who you are, you're also robbing others of what you're here to do. It's up to every woman to learn who she is, what she's here to do and why she's so fabulous. Every woman deserves to know her super powers and then be confident enough to share them with the world. You wouldn't have been given your gifts, talents and abilites if you weren't meant to share them with the world. When we teach what we've learned, we become better at what we do.
Life Is All About Choices - every woman who works to build another woman up, is giving herself and others the opportunity to sleep peacefully with the knowedge that she's never alone on this journey we call life!
Now is the perfect opportunity to be reminded that the Universe is the source of your supply and that EVERYTHING is possible!
Nancy Mueller ~ Life Coach & Sensei
God smiled and asked me, “Are you sure? Are you sure that’s what you want to teach women?”
I looked at God in surprise and said, “of course. Don’t you think it’s important that women never think less of themselves just because another person forces their will on them?”
God smiled again and said, “of course I do. I want all of my daughters to know that nothing can ever take away their value!”
Feeling quite proud of my choice, I smiled up at God and said, “good, then I’m ready to get started!”
That’s when God smiled at me and said, “thank you for what you’re about to do.
I will make sure you always have everything you need to accomplish your mission during this lifetime.
The bigger the mission, the more tools you’ll need to succeed!
You know that once you’re born, this conversation will be like smoke lingering just out of your mind’s reach, as though you’re trying to recall something from a dream.
With the most determined voice I could muster, I smiled at God and said, “it’s ok, I know I can do this!”
And then I was born!
And God kept her word; she gave me everything I needed to succeed in my life’s mission.
God put me in a home with parents who made sure to victimize me. I was raised in an atmosphere of mental, physical and emotional abuse that escalated to sexual abuse by the age of 12.
As a child, I would sit and cry and ask God, “Why? Why me?”
As every cry for help went unanswered, I grew angrier.
I wanted revenge.
I wanted those people who were hurting me to know what it felt like.
I wanted to hurt them like they hurt me.
So, I learned to fight.
Until one day, I realized the fighting wasn’t helping me anymore.
Fighting kept me feeling angry, hurt, sad and trying to prove my worth.
That didn’t feel good.
😩I was so tired of being angry.
😩I was so tired of proving I was not a victim.
😩I was so tired of trying to hide from my past.
😩I was so tired of believing my past defined who I am.
😩I was so tired of feeling inferior.
😩I was so tired of living with the feelings associated with memories of my childhood.
At times, the pain was unbearable.
I longed for a softer, kinder and more peaceful way of life.
But I didn’t know how to find it and my life was becoming more painful every day.
One day, the pain was so overwhelming, I fell to my knees and cried out, “there must be another way.”
And that’s when I heard God’s voice.
That’s when I heard God say, “why are you crying daughter? Why are you in so much pain?”
With tears streaming down my face, I answered, “Life is not supposed to be this hard. I have heard so many people talk about Gods love, but where was your love when I needed it most?”
And God replied, “it’s inside you, where it’s always been.
Your struggles only happen when you search for my love outside of yourself, once you remember who you are, the need to learn through pain will end.
💖Remember who you are
💖Remember why you chose to be born and the mission you chose to teach
💖Remember the conversation we had when you chose this life
I have kept my promise to you
I have given you everything you need to teach women why they should never question their value.”
That’s when I realized that what I thought had been done TO me, had actually been done FOR me…
And because of that,
I’m here to remind women that…
“YOUR GREATEST ACHIEVEMENTS WILL NEVER HAPPEN AS LONG AS YOU BELIEVE WHO YOU ARE, IS DETERMINED BY WHAT YOU’VE HAD TO GO THROUGH TO GET HERE.”
Stop looking for the answers outside of yourself,
Every answer you’re looking for can be found within you,
All you have to do is be open to remembering your own conversation and the mission you chose.
Remember who you are!
That’s when you too will know…
… you already have everything you need!
Instead of waiting for life to drive you to your knees, let me know if you need help remembering who you are, what you're here to do and why you're so fabulous!
Nancy Mueller ~ Life Coach and Sensei
There was a time when seeing myself as a survivor, made me feel good about myself!
But did I?
For one person to win, does another have to lose?
Growing up, our father used to grab my sister and I by the back of the neck, and force us to fight each other.
If we refused, he would beat the crap out of us.
In my mind, the decision was easy; fight my sister instead of feeling the wrath of our father...
I won every fight,
I believed I was the victor!
I got old enough to see what my victory had done to my sister.
Realizing she carried the emotional and physical scars that proved I was always the winner, started to have an adverse affect on me.
How could I be proud of who I am, when it also meant facing what I'd done to get here?
That's when the Impostor Syndrome started kicking my ass in a big way...
My Impostor Beliefs made me question everything:
✅Do I deserve to be happy?
✅Do I deserve to put the traumatic experiences of my childhood behind me and instead of allowing them to swallow me whole, start using them to heal myself and others?
✅Do I deserve to publish books about my journey as a way to heal myself and others?
✅Do I deserve to have an abundant life and lifestyle as I use my experiences to inspire, motivate and empower others?
✅Do I deserve to share My Story in a way that will continually remind me that, "it's not about what happened to me that matters, it's about what I do with what happened to me"?
✅Do I deserve to forgive myself for acting on the only knowledge I had at that time?
✅Do I deserve to shout to the world "I Love My Life"?
YOU BET YOUR ASS I DO!
When we overcome what others try to destroy; we create an inner strength so powerful, no person, place or experience can us tear down!
I know the power of getting out from under the belief that being victimized made me a victim.
People will inflict atrocities towards others to keep from looking at their own pain.
When we live our lives in victim and vengeance mode, our mind is never truly free. When our minds are not free, we continually tell ourselves "we aren’t good enough, smart enough, or talented enough" because what we’re actually doing is enforcing a belief that what happened, happened because we were too weak to prevent it; this makes us feel powerless.
Forgiveness begins within; forgiving our “SELF” for believing we have to stay in that mindset! This is the true power of forgiveness, this is the ability we all have, this is the inner strength that I am so passionate about teaching other women!
Whatever childhood experiences, memories and beliefs are holding you hostage; allowing them to have a hold over you is a choice.
When you're ready to break free of ANY limiting belief that the Impostor Syndrome is using to convince you of how "unworthy" you are...
When you're ready to say, "These self-sabotaging beliefs stop NOW"...
Make some noise in the comments below for my FREE eGuide on "Recognizing & Eliminating The Impostor Syndrome"
Nancy Mueller ~ Life Coach & Sensei for Women
I overheard a family conversation recently where everyone was gathered to talk about what they want for Christmas.
The group was made up of 15 adults; all over the age of 21.
The conversation went something like this:
"What do you want for Christmas? I need some ideas"
"I don't know! I don't need anything"
"Well, you need to give me some ideas because I don't know what to buy for you."
"But I don't need anything, if I need something, I buy it when I need it."
And the conversation continued as each of them continued trying to pull ideas from each other.
When did Christmas become a time to stress ourselves out about buying something for someone that they don't really need?
What is the point?
I don't think that's what Christmas is about and yet this is a touchy subject for so many people. If pressed, they'll tell you, "But it's Christmas! I have to buy gifts; it's part of the Christmas tradition!"
Giving and receiving is about gratitude; the feeling of being grateful - gratitude cannot be forced.
Traditions begin with the best of intentions but there is a time to rethink the meaning behind them.
Traditions (AKA habits/patterns of choice) should fill a person with a feeling of abundance and gratitude.
There is so much talk about people who are less fortunate or who have fallen on hard times but this will never change as long as people follow the traditions of giving based on "that's the way we've always done it."
When the opportunity presents itself to evaluate traditions, habits and beliefs, only by making different choices will our lives become more enriched. Only by making different choices are we able to break the cycle of limiting beliefs, habits and traditions that no longer serve us.
As each year ends, we are given the opportunity to reevaluate how we want to end the year and how we want to enter the new year. We can choose to repeat past experiences, traditions and beliefs or we can be open to new beginnings.
When we hold on to traditions that are forced, the tradition loses it's true meaning. The same holds true with traditions of holding on to childhood memories of sadness, lack or loss during the holidays.
When a person uses Christmas as a time to remind themselves of everything they believe they were deprived of or lost, they are actually choosing to use what could be a joyful end of year celebration as an excuse to prove to themselves and others why their life isn't perfect.
We can choose to obsess over the tradition of forced giving or we can experience the joy of giving in a way that will create equal reciprocity in the act of both giving and receiving, this includes giving ourselves the gift of letting go of what no longer serves us!
People say they want their life to change but are often unwilling to start with something as simple as seasonal traditions.
Nothing in our lives will change if we aren't willing to start by asking ourselves one very important question, "if I continue to make these same choices, will my life be more enriched or will I continue to search for more meaning in my life and continually ask, "why am I here?"
Every person has the opportunity to give the best gift of all; the gift of letting go of past hurts, loss, slights, experiences and grudges. Every person has the ability to open up their hearts to the knowing that each one of us has the power to choose how we will make a difference in this world based on how we choose to show up every single day.
Family traditions can be a very touchy subject; younger generations would like things to change but are loathe to bring it up for fear of upsetting someone or "going against tradition" and being the outcast at the family gathering. But what if standing up for what you believe is the greatest gift you can give yourself this year? What if listening to your intuition instead of allowing yourself to be talked out of what you feel is right, is EXACTLY what you need to create that new beginning in your life? What if allowing your intuition to guide you is the first step to your physical, emotional and spiritual independence?
Gifts come in all sizes, shapes, forms and reasons - how will you give and receive this year?
Life truly is All About Choices!
Nancy Mueller ~ Life Sensei
As an entrepreneur, are you charging what you're worth or what you believe you’re worth?
There is a huge difference between the two. Most entrepreneurs charge what they believe their business, products and services are worth because they haven’t yet learned the true value of who they are and why they deserve to create financial independence from their work.
Are you charging enough for the value you offer?
If you've created a business from something you enjoy doing, and you're still not charging what you're worth, here's something to think about...
The world needs you and your gift & talents (otherwise you wouldn't be here and you wouldn't have your talents).
Since the world needs you and what you offer, you deserve to spend all the time you need or want to flourish in your business.
If you're working from a mindset that's telling you, "I do this for fun, I can't possibly raise my prices" then I strongly urge you to take a look at your relationships (past & present).
The energy involved in relationships is the same energy that resistance is made of; so, if you're resisting receiving, it will show up in your business as well as your relationships.
If you don't want more money in your life, that's your decision, but the Universe is constantly seeking suitable channels to eliminate lack for us.
LIFE IS ALL ABOUT CHOICES: you can either get on board and allow the Universe to fill you up with all the money and resources you desire or you can keep believing you're the ONLY person on the planet who doesn't deserve to be abundant!
Nancy Mueller ~ Life Sensei
The LGBT Community uses the phrase "Coming Out" or "Coming Out of the Closet" as a way of self-disclosure.
When I was going through my divorce, I was fortunate to work with a Life Coach who specializes in working with the LGBT Community; specifically people who are experiencing challenges with "coming out".
I was drawn to this particular coach because I trusted what she stands for; every person deserves to be empowered through every life choice they make. Although I was not coming out from an LGBT perspective, I was coming out from the perspective of how I had shown up in my life thus far.
After 32 years of marriage, I began to realize how I had lived my life a certain way based on the beliefs about who I thought I was. Divorce was forcing me to "come out" to a very different lifestyle. I had identified myself through the eyes of a married woman, divorce was about to change all of that. So what happens when you can no longer identify with who you believe yourself to be?
I felt like giving up.
I’m not saying I thought about ending my life, I simply wanted to cease to exist. The pain, guilt, shame and self-judgement was overwhelming and life didn’t seem worth hanging on to. I kept wondering how it was possible for me to get to a point where I could think so little of myself, that ceasing to exist seemed like the only answer.
I had so many thoughts invading my mind that staying focused for any amount of time took a great deal of effort and willpower. The thoughts ran rampant through my mind; what if..., what will I do..., what happens when..., I'm no longer..., how can I possibly..., the fear of being judged by others didn't hold a candle to the self-judgement I heaped on myself at any given moment of the day. The question that went through my mind, with more force than the surf pounding the rocks was, "how will I ever survive this?"
At the time, I had no idea how much the Universe was supporting me throughout my time of self-disclosure by guiding me to work with a "coming out" life coach. She coached me to stay true to myself, my wants, my needs and what I needed to find the most empowered pieces of myself and lean on them during times of uncertainty.
When questions arose such as, "Can I still continue to do the work I love to do? Will people think less of me? Will I lose credibility with my audience? I feel like an impostor in my own life, will others view me as an impostor? I should be better at managing this battle that's raging within me during every waking moment of my life."
As I resolved to let go of the "self-judgement" and look at the beliefs that were permeating my every thought, the real Nancy began coming out of the closet in a big way!
It was exhilarating to speak my truth, to drag all of the thoughts around my fears, hopes and dreams out of the closet and look at them for what they are. They are part of me. They all make me who I am and I have a choice to decide which thoughts I will choose to build my beliefs around.
We all have the power to choose what thoughts will enforce our beliefs; thoughts of self-judgement or thoughts of self-empowerment. Whether we choose to come out of the closet or life pulls us out kicking and screaming, we have a choice. We can choose to give up or we can choose to be loud and proud about who we are, what we do and why we're so fabulous.
You only have one life to live, so when it's your time to come out of the closet, just remember; Life Is All About Choices. You can come out of the closet kicking and screaming or you can do it with pride! Be loud and proud about who you are and what you do so while letting the world know why you're so fabulous. After all, once you're out, you put yourself in a position to bring the light out in others as you watch your light shine even brighter!
Nancy Mueller ~ Life Sensei
Who do you see when you look in the mirror?
Do you see:
The child you used to be?
A woman of strength?
A woman at peace?
Throughout our lives, we strive to "be" someone or something because we've been taught that when we "become" that woman , we'll be happy. We think we know who we are but most of us have accepted that who we are is a condition based on who we were.
As a child, you may have had a carefree life or you may have had trauma and challenges. Either way, it shaped who you grew to "be" and how you see yourself. When we want to "be" someone or something, we tend to measure our success by having to "become" who or what we want. If you can relate to this, somewhere along the way you've created a belief that something has to be "undone" before you can truly be happy and well thought of by yourself and others.
The truth is, we are ALL of the experiences of our past but have learned to compartmentalize every phase of our growth. We've been taught that we are the memories of our childhood self. We carry on beliefs, habits and family traditions because as we grow older, every aspect, choice and belief about who we "were" shapes where we believe we're going and who or what we want to be. And because of this, we are allowing who we believe we were to limit who we came here to be instead of celebrating every milestone for what it truly is, the ability to accept our greatness through our progress. We all have this ability, but not necessarily the belief.
And throughout all of this, we fear that we may never "be" who or what we want to become.
What if we learned to erase the fear? What if it's not about "becoming" anything but merely "un-becoming" our fears? What would it take for you to erase the fear of who you want to become or how you see who you used to be? The phrase, "if only I could go back and change..." is such a limiting phrase because life is meant to be lived going forward. Who you are today is not conditional on who you were yesterday and the days, months and years before today. Who you are today, and who you've been every day since your birth is God made manifest through you. Somewhere along your journey you may have forgotten this, but only fear can keep you from this truth.
So, who do you see when you look in the mirror?
If you're haunted by childhood memories that create regret, you're limiting your ability to be who you came here to be. If you're still judging yourself for choosing the wrong career, the bad investment, the divorce, the marriage, your parenting choices, and every morning you wake up wishing you could be anyone but who you are, you are choosing to live your life through fear.
The simple answer is, "the woman in your mirror" is a Spiritual Being, having a human experience as a woman in this lifetime. Everything you need or want, to have the most amazing human experience, is yours; all that is required of you is to "accept" your greatness!
When you look in the mirror, if you can only see the child who suffered at the hands of others, the woman who never quite "fit in", the mediocre student, the woman with one failed relationship after another, the woman who is in debt, the woman who is confused, anxious, searching, feeling lost or hopeless or wondering why your life is so difficult, if this is the woman you see staring back at you, you are limiting who you "ARE".
Why is it so much easier for you to see a woman born of fear instead of a woman born of love and light?
You tell yourself you have to be strong but that means you have a fear that you may be weak. You convince yourself that you need to be more but that means you have a fear that you are not enough. When will you believe that you ARE everything you were born to be? When will you stop allowing past memories, experiences and beliefs to limit who you truly are?
When will you look in the mirror and see only a Spiritual Being having a human experience as a woman in this lifetime looking back at you with a magnitude of love and light that has the ability to transcend any fear based belief that would try to convince you that you could possibly be less than who you truly are?
You came here with gifts and talents that are unique to you; the world is waiting for you to believe in who you are so everyone in it can benefit from your gifts and talents. Why do you deny your greatness? Who told you that you must limit how you share yourself with the world? Who told you that you must censor your greatness? To withhold your gifts and talents from the world is an act of great selfishness that is limiting you from going out into the world and being of great service to others.
Enjoy your pictures, enjoy your memories, but above all, never give them power over you. Never allow how you see your "past self" as a reason to limit who you came here to be.
Life Is All About Choices - choose to release your fear based beliefs and you will see only the gift that is "YOU" smiling back at you from your mirror; she's telling you that you are amazing, you are loved and you are limitless!
The only question that remains is this, "where will you go from here?"
Nancy Mueller ~ Life Sensei at www.MasteringYourBeliefs.com
Every morning as you lie in bed transitioning from sleep to wakefulness, you have the ability to choose your thoughts for the day. Whatever thoughts you choose, will determine how you'll spend your day.
Given the choice, most people would tell you they prefer to choose thoughts that will bring them feelings of gratitude, happiness, joy, creativity, wealth, mindfulness, love, fun, being healthy and a sense of belonging.
Most people would tell you they would never consciously choose a thought that will bring them shame, excuses, anger, doubt, guilt, judgment, or fear.
If we're able to choose the thoughts we think, why are so many people unhappy when they start their day? Why do they dread going to work? Why do they wake up only to wish they could fall back to sleep and sleep the day away? The answer is simple; it's about the thoughts you think as you're falling asleep!
What if you went to sleep the night before with something that was weighing you down in mind, body or spirit? Perhaps you were listening to a newscaster spreading fear based information or reading something that was unsettling to you. Perhaps you laid in bed doubting your gifts, talents and abilities or judging yourself based on how you perceive who you are or what you're capable of. The subconscious mind is working 24/7, whether you're awake or asleep and has the ability to absorb unsettling information while you sleep.
Now imagine you wake up, it's a brand new day with new opportunities but the thoughts you choose are based on the information your subconscious mind has been working on while you slept. When you wake up, the thoughts that were running through your mind all night will determine how you feel when you wake up (you'll either feel positive and looking forward to your day or you'll wake with feelings of dread and look for reasons to avoid your day), and every single one of your thoughts is associated with a feeling; either positive or negative.
Make no mistake, your feelings are running your life.
If you're allowing negative thoughts, feelings and emotions to create your beliefs, how can you possibly believe you deserve to choose opportunities that will bring you feelings of gratitude, happiness, joy, creativity, wealth, mindfulness, love, fun, being healthy and a sense of belonging?
How you face your day is a choice; you simply need to understand how your mind formulates the beliefs that determine what your choices will be! What price have you been paying for your negative thoughts? Have you found yourself locked behind thoughts of shame, excuses, anger, doubt, guilt, judgment, or fear without a clear understanding of how to get out?
Pay close attention to your self-talk (that little voice inside your head that starts talking to you during moments of doubt or uncertainty) because your self-talk can whisk you away to thoughts of negativity faster than a virus spreading through your computer!
Every person has the key to unlock the thoughts of uncertainty within their mind. When you master your beliefs, you're discovering the beliefs behind your current mindset (perceived problem), the feelings and emotions attached to that belief(s) and how you can transmute your current belief(s) to raise your vibrational energy, giving you the power to make choices from a mindset of "what is possible" rather than a mindset based on past experiences (yours or others).
Whatever thoughts you may be facing in your life, you alone hold the power to choose which thoughts you will feed, and which thoughts deserve to be eliminated; this gives you the power over how you'll spend your day! The choice is yours ~ when you want to experience feelings of gratitude, happiness, joy, creativity, wealth, mindfulness, love, fun, being healthy and a sense of belonging more than you believe you deserve to experience shame, excuses, anger, doubt, guilt, judgment, or fear; I invite you to be more mindful of your self-talk and the thoughts it's planting in your mind!
Nancy Mueller ~ Empowerment Sensei