You wake up and don't "FEEL" like going to work; you decide to go anyway but throughout the day, you know you're not giving 100% of yourself to your work.

Your spouse/partner wants to have a romantic evening but you're exhausted and would rather take a hot shower and go to sleep.  You "FEEL" guilty for wanting to put your needs first so you don't.

Your mother has found yet another reason to criticize you and makes you "FEEL" like you're five years old again.

You live thousands of miles away from your parents but they're getting too old to take care of themselves and, since you're single, you "FEEL" obligated to move closer to help take care of their needs.

Your business partner wants to make some changes in the business that you don't agree with but since she is the major financial contributor to the business, you "FEEL" like you have to agree with her suggestions.

It doesn't matter if it's business or personal, your feelings are always running your life.

So what happens when you don't "FEEL" like giving 100% at work, or putting someone else's needs before your own?  What happens when you want the approval of another person but never seem to get it or you "FEEL" too disempowered to say what's really on your mind?

Whether you realize it or not, your feelings are always running your life and your feelings are based on your beliefs.  When your feelings seem to be overtaking your life you can take back your power by asking yourself "what would happen if..."

> I don't go to work today (or I go but give myself a break for not showing up 100%)
> I put my needs before the the needs of someone else
> I stopped needing my mother's approval 
> I found another way to help my parents
> I speak up and tell my business partner what's really on my mind

You'll answer these questions based on what you "believe" the outcome will be. If you believe the only viable outcome involves some scenario where you look like the bad guy, chances are you'll make a decision that works out better for someone else than for yourself.

When you're ready to stop making choices that puts the wants and needs of others before your own, here are 3 tips that may help you be more empowered in your life!

1. Pay more attention to how you're feeling.  Men and women tend to look at feelings and emotions very differently; men tend to avoid them altogether and women often believe they will be considered weak if they are "too emotional" but the truth is, your feelings guide your intuition and your intuition is your internal guide to what's best for you.  When you can be open and honest with yourself about what your "feeling", you'll also be more empowered to have your needs met more often.
2. Get in the habit of questioning your beliefs.  When you have a strong feeling or emotion that's causing you to react or disempower you, ask yourself what you believe about what you're feeling.  Taking the time to know "what" your feeling and the belief behind it can be very liberating to your thoughts.  It can free your mind to create new patterns of thought and you'll actually start understanding why you feel guilt, remorse, shame, embarrassed, belittled or afraid to speak your mind.
3. When you're feeling "fear" stop and ask yourself this question,  "am I in physical danger?"  If the answer is "no" then you know that your fear is in your mind (something you believe is going to happen based on past experience is showing up in your subconscious mind).  When this happens, you're actually projecting into the future based on a past event that you've created a belief around.  It is possible for us to believe so strongly in something that we can't see any other way of looking at it.  Here's a great example:  if I were to tell you that 1 + 1 = 1, based on what you believe you "know" you'd probably tell me I'm wrong.  If we were to have a discussion around it, you could probably give me all kinds of proof that 1 + 1 = 2!  But what if I took one drop of water and added it to another drop of water?  There would still only be one drop of water (in which case, I just proved my point that 1 + 1 = 1).  Whenever you're open to asking yourself, "is that true, or is that what I believe to be true based on what someone else told me, taught me or forced upon me and I've created a strong belief around it.

When you question your beliefs, the feelings around the belief will change!  When you start feeling more positive, you're actually changing your vibrational energy.  Here's the best part, abundance is a vibration!  Once you learn how to use your feelings to raise your vibrational energy, you will also begin to feel more abundance within your life; feelings such as joy, happiness, love, gratitude and more!

I don't know about you, but the feelings of abundance are exactly the kind of feelings I'm happy to have running my life!

Life Is All About Choices!
Nancy Mueller ~ Life Sensei at Mastering Your Beliefs  

 You've done the work, you've earned the right to be where you are, you've set up your business, so where are all the clients?

If you can relate to this question, here's another question for you, "why are you asking yourself where all of your clients are?"

Listen up because this is a POWERFUL message I'm about to share with you.  It can literally take you from zero clients to an infinite number of clients, IF you're willing to be honest with yourself and do the work.

Think about my question for a minute.  When you ask yourself, "where are all the clients" what does it feel like to you?  Sit with this question for at least 10 minutes when you won't be disturbed.  Turn off your electronic devices and give yourself 10 minutes to "go within".  You can do that for yourself, right?  You can give yourself 10 minutes.

Now ask yourself the question again, "where are all the clients?"

Does this question bring up feelings of positivity or feelings of negativity?  I'm going to assume your answer is, "it brings up feelings of negativity."  Now think of the feelings that are washing over you and write them down.  What are those feelings?  If your answer is that you're feeling depressed, hopeless, angry, fearful, sad - these are surface emotions (emotions are felt in the body and feelings are felt in the mind).  Surface emotions are an indication that we're on the right track with what we're thinking about but we haven't gone deep enough.  When you go deeper, you'll find that your answers are more concise; such as, "I feel intimidated, unworthy, not good enough, self-conscious".  These are the feelings that are tumbling around in your mind, day in and day out, and those feelings create a vibration within you.  That vibration is attracting the same level of vibration in all areas of your life - YOU are creating your life with every thought, word and action based on how you're "feeling".

The words you speak, the thoughts you think, the actions you take are all dependent on the vibration you're sending out.  So when you ask yourself, "where are all the clients" you're actually sitting in a low vibrational energy that is repelling your clients.

Would you like to change that?

Here is a way to re-frame your question: "What action can I take today that will put me in contact with my ideal clients?"  Do you see the difference in your energy when you ask this question?  Asking the question this way gives you a sense of hope because your changing your "feeling nature" around your question.  This is a power question - this question empowers you because it lets you know that you have the power to do something that can attract what you want the most.

Simply by re-framing your question, you give yourself the power to change your energy.  When we think negative thoughts, we vibrate on a low energy frequency.  When we think positive thoughts, we vibrate on a higher energy frequency.  This is the way the law of attraction throughout the Universe works.  You can change the words you use but if you don't change your energy frequency, you will attract what you're "feeling" and not what you're saying.  This is why affirmations only get you half-way to your dreams and goals.  Every word you speak has a feeling attached to it and that feeling has a vibrational energy that you're sending out into the Universe to multiply.

Every thought is based on a belief and every belief is associated with a feeling.  When you Master Your Beliefs, you change your thoughts and in turn elevate your energy!  You may be reading this and telling yourself, "it can't be that easy."  But it is that easy!  Life is meant to be easy but we make it so hard.  Somewhere along our life's journey we created a belief that life is hard, we have to work hard and we have to wear ourselves out before we can experience our good.  But that's just a belief.

You have the power to turn everything around this very moment. You are more powerful than you can ever imagine.

When you change your thoughts, the feelings change, the energy changes and what you're bringing into your life changes; including the number of clients you're looking for!

Now it's your turn; you can choose to live your life the hard way or the easy way; Life Is All About Choices!

Nancy Mueller ~ Life Sensei

Who are you, really?

Are you the person others can count on?  Are you always there when someone needs to talk, a ride to the airport, or someone to help them move?

What about you?  Can you count on others the way they can count on you or do you sometimes find yourself not asking for help because "you don't want to bother anyone or impose?" 

If you've ever complained when you really needed someone and they weren't there for you, did they, all of a sudden, come running to your aid or do you find it happening over and over?

What about family?  What about all those times when you've shared a new thought, idea or dream, only to have the people closest to you tell you why, "it'll never work?"  When that happens, you can feel like they aren't being there for you when you really wanted or needed their support (but you've learned let it go because, after all, "family is family").

If you find yourself constantly putting the needs of others before your own, the cost of being who you are can be quite high!  The simple truth is, when your needs are being met, you feel happy, content, safe, secure and empowered.

It can be such a foreign concept for us to actually believe why putting our needs and wants first, is the most empowering choice we can make for ourselves.  But here's the caveat to that, when someone else puts his or her needs before your own, how do you react?  Do you feel slighted, angry, judgmental, vindictive or hurt?  So how do you have your needs met while allowing others to have their needs met as well?

Check your thoughts, did you act with love or with malicious intent?  Are you open to feedback?  If your intentions come from love but others see it differently, are you open to learning how others view your delivery or actions, or are you defensive?  When someone gives you loving, constructive criticism, how do you handle it? 

Learn not to take anything personally:  how someone treats you is their karma; how you react is yours.  When someone says or does something that invokes your negative self-talk, instead of beating yourself up over whatever is going on in your mind, ask yourself "WHY" it bothered you. 

99% of the thoughts you're thinking today are the same thoughts you had yesterday and will be the same thoughts you have tomorrow unless you change your mindset.  Stanford studies have concluded that 90% of all self-talk is negative; that means 90% of what you're saying to yourself, inside your own mind, is self-critical.

Every single person that comes into our lives is here to gift us with something to learn about ourselves; that includes the people we like and the people we don't like.

But what happens when someone you like says or does something to piss you off? How do you deal with it.
When someone says or does something that makes you angry or defensive, keep in mind that the only way it can bother you is if there is truth to what they're showing you.  You may not like hearing it and you may not be ready to take a look at it but it can't bother you if there is no element of truth to what they're saying.
You may not be ready to hear it, you may not want to admit it, but Life Is All About Choices! You can choose to learn something about yourself and try to find a way to blame it on someone else or you can choose to take 100% responsibility for what you're learning and make some changes.

Allow every person in your life to have their perception of you while maintaining your own empowered perception of yourself.  What others think of you is merely a reflection of how they view the world and everything in it.  Friends and family can be the most disappointing to us because we naturally want someone who is important to us to approve or support what we're doing.  But if that person is vibrating on a different energy frequency than you, they can't possibly understand or support what you're sharing.  Just like you can't turn on the sports channel to watch a cooking show, you can't expect someone who is on a lower energetic frequency than you to be tuned into the energy of your thoughts and words.

If you truly want your dreams to be bigger than your fears, take 100% responsibility for your choices!  If you tend to blame rather than take responsibility, the cost to yourself and others can be very high.  You'll either take the risk of alienating someone special to you or you'll walk away feeling like you've been taken advantage of, once again.

Life is all about choices.  We can see others as being non-supportive, rude, hurtful or malicious or we can simply shrug it off and stay empowered by assuming they're showing signs of having a perceptual handicap.

Your job is to know your value, who you are and what you're here to bring to the world.  Once you know that,  you'll have built such a solid foundation on which to build your life that no person, place or condition can pull it down.   Now that's a cost worth investing in!

Ciao for now,
Nancy Mueller ~ Life Sensei

I used to tell my story because I was raised to believe it was a representation of who I am.

I used to believe that, but I don't believe it anymore! 

I used to share the traumas of my childhood before I understood that those traumas also created beliefs within my mind that reinforced my lack of self-worth.

One of the traumas that created a belief within me was about going hungry.  There never seemed to be enough food in our house, in fact most of our food and clothing was donated by the church.  That might sound like something to be grateful for but not when you're hungry and the only thing to eat is Lima beans.  As a child, I had no idea I was creating self-limiting beliefs based on the abundance or lack of generosity from others.

Our beliefs are created between the ages of birth to about 8 years of age; every belief we have is based on something we were taught as children by our caregivers or how we intuited what our caregivers taught us.  As we grow into adults, we bring those beliefs with us into adulthood, without even questioning why we believe them.  Until we're exposed to an opportunity to question our beliefs we will live our adult lives making choices based on beliefs we incurred in childhood - whether those beliefs support us or hinder us.

This is how we learn to create our world from the outside in; we learn that the source of our supply is based on people, places or conditions in our life, such as the generosity of others.  The generosity of others can include (but certainly isn't limited to) the type of grades you get in school (self-esteem), whether you get the job (self-confidence), accepted into your college of choice (self-image), being accepted by your peers (self-worth) if someone will buy your products or services (self-sufficiency).  This type of thinking is how people create their lives from the outside in.

As I understand that abundance in the physical world is an out-picturing of my beliefs, I began to realize how the story that my child-self had created was blocking my flow of abundance.  I began to realize how one belief creates another belief because it is the only way for our mind to validate the story. 

It wasn't until I learned to "go beyond my story" that I was able to free my mind of the limiting beliefs to make way for the abundance that was waiting to come pouring forth into my life!  Thus, I began living and creating my life from the inside out, the vibration of abundance.

I've found that a first step to "Go Beyond Your Story" can be to ask yourself 3 questions:

1.  What feeling/belief can I let go of right now?
2.  What feeling/belief will I let go of right now?
3.  What feeling/belief do I need to hold onto for just a little while longer?

The important thing to remember is HOWEVER you answer these questions, trust that you have the right answer.  Sometimes questioning our beliefs can create fear because our mind tells us we're questioning the very foundation of who we believe we are (that's exactly what we're doing but everyone needs to process their thoughts in their own time frame and not according to someone else's).  Be kind to yourself.  Learn to sit in silence, ask your questions and be open to the answers.  

When you listen for the answers to your questions, all you need to do is ask, "what if?"  "What if that (awful, sad, traumatic, embarrassing, hurtful) experience does not define who I am?"  

So go ahead and share your story; but always be ready to "Go Beyond Your Story" because that's how you create a new belief about who you are and why you're so fabulous, that's when you will free your mind!

Nancy Mueller ~ Life Sensei

  

During a recent interview, I was asked how I define success.  My answer was more about a "FEELING" than a definition.

My definition will vary from other people because I am the only person who can be me!  Therefore, what works for me may not work for someone else.

This was my answer, "when I can stand up (and I did suggest that the listeners get their asses off their chairs and try this) and hold my hands up in a wide "V" (as in Victory) and shout, I am an amazing freaking human being!  I am awesome.  I have had so many successes and so many accomplishments that I continue to amaze myself every time I think about them!"

Some people may think this is an arrogant thing to do, but why are we so hesitant to be loud and proud about what we do? Too often we are so focused on what we BELIEVE success looks like that we spend more time going after the goal than celebrating what we've done.  

What good is an achievement if you don't learn to celebrate it and acknowledge yourself for a job well done?

I find that women, especially, are less likely to acknowledge their achievements because they don't see the things they do as achievements; rather, they see them as something to mark off of their "To Do" list and move on.

If you REALLY want to see what success "FEELS" like, make a list of your successes/accomplishments/achievements on a piece of paper and then stand in a "VICTORY" pose with each one of the items on your list and "FEEL" how good it feels to have done that.  Emotions are felt in the body and feelings are of the mind - when you can "FEEL" the vibration of each one of your accomplishments, you are giving your body an amazing gift.  You are raising your energy which in turn raises your vibration levels.  The better you "FEEL" the more you'll feel like doing something else just as fantastic or better!

So instead of living your life based on someone else's definition of success, "FEEL" how successful you already are and keep going.  The world is waiting for the thing that only you can share!

Nancy Mueller ~ Empowerment Sensei at www.MasteringYourBeliefs.com

As he sat by the window, looking out over the lush green yard, compliments of a week and a half of rain, he was reminded of having read somewhere that over 300 shades of green exist in nature. With this view, he believed it!

Sitting there, It seemed like such a short time ago that he'd bought this house, with the dense woods behind it and the closest neighbor being over a mile away, the seclusion had seemed so inviting.

The trees were much smaller when he first looked at the property, but they’d grown to create the tranquil view he was now looking at, and the seclusion that surrounded him.

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