I used to tell my story because I was raised to believe it was a representation of who I am.
I used to believe that, but I don't believe it anymore!
I used to share the traumas of my childhood before I understood that those traumas also created beliefs within my mind that reinforced my lack of self-worth.
One of the traumas that created a belief within me was about going hungry. There never seemed to be enough food in our house, in fact most of our food and clothing was donated by the church. That might sound like something to be grateful for but not when you're hungry and the only thing to eat is Lima beans. As a child, I had no idea I was creating self-limiting beliefs based on the abundance or lack of generosity from others.
Our beliefs are created between the ages of birth to about 8 years of age; every belief we have is based on something we were taught as children by our caregivers or how we intuited what our caregivers taught us. As we grow into adults, we bring those beliefs with us into adulthood, without even questioning why we believe them. Until we're exposed to an opportunity to question our beliefs we will live our adult lives making choices based on beliefs we incurred in childhood - whether those beliefs support us or hinder us.
This is how we learn to create our world from the outside in; we learn that the source of our supply is based on people, places or conditions in our life, such as the generosity of others. The generosity of others can include (but certainly isn't limited to) the type of grades you get in school (self-esteem), whether you get the job (self-confidence), accepted into your college of choice (self-image), being accepted by your peers (self-worth) if someone will buy your products or services (self-sufficiency). This type of thinking is how people create their lives from the outside in.
As I understand that abundance in the physical world is an out-picturing of my beliefs, I began to realize how the story that my child-self had created was blocking my flow of abundance. I began to realize how one belief creates another belief because it is the only way for our mind to validate the story.
It wasn't until I learned to "go beyond my story" that I was able to free my mind of the limiting beliefs to make way for the abundance that was waiting to come pouring forth into my life! Thus, I began living and creating my life from the inside out, the vibration of abundance.
I've found that a first step to "Go Beyond Your Story" can be to ask yourself 3 questions:
1. What feeling/belief can I let go of right now?
2. What feeling/belief will I let go of right now?
3. What feeling/belief do I need to hold onto for just a little while longer?
The important thing to remember is HOWEVER you answer these questions, trust that you have the right answer. Sometimes questioning our beliefs can create fear because our mind tells us we're questioning the very foundation of who we believe we are (that's exactly what we're doing but everyone needs to process their thoughts in their own time frame and not according to someone else's). Be kind to yourself. Learn to sit in silence, ask your questions and be open to the answers.
When you listen for the answers to your questions, all you need to do is ask, "what if?" "What if that (awful, sad, traumatic, embarrassing, hurtful) experience does not define who I am?"
So go ahead and share your story; but always be ready to "Go Beyond Your Story" because that's how you create a new belief about who you are and why you're so fabulous, that's when you will free your mind!
Nancy Mueller ~ Life Sensei