Who are you, really?
Are you the person others can count on? Are you always there when someone needs to talk, a ride to the airport, or someone to help them move?
What about you? Can you count on others the way they can count on you or do you sometimes find yourself not asking for help because "you don't want to bother anyone or impose?"
If you've ever complained when you really needed someone and they weren't there for you, did they, all of a sudden, come running to your aid or do you find it happening over and over?
What about family? What about all those times when you've shared a new thought, idea or dream, only to have the people closest to you tell you why, "it'll never work?" When that happens, you can feel like they aren't being there for you when you really wanted or needed their support (but you've learned let it go because, after all, "family is family").
If you find yourself constantly putting the needs of others before your own, the cost of being who you are can be quite high! The simple truth is, when your needs are being met, you feel happy, content, safe, secure and empowered.
It can be such a foreign concept for us to actually believe why putting our needs and wants first, is the most empowering choice we can make for ourselves. But here's the caveat to that, when someone else puts his or her needs before your own, how do you react? Do you feel slighted, angry, judgmental, vindictive or hurt? So how do you have your needs met while allowing others to have their needs met as well?
Check your thoughts, did you act with love or with malicious intent? Are you open to feedback? If your intentions come from love but others see it differently, are you open to learning how others view your delivery or actions, or are you defensive? When someone gives you loving, constructive criticism, how do you handle it?
Learn not to take anything personally: how someone treats you is their karma; how you react is yours. When someone says or does something that invokes your negative self-talk, instead of beating yourself up over whatever is going on in your mind, ask yourself "WHY" it bothered you.
99% of the thoughts you're thinking today are the same thoughts you had yesterday and will be the same thoughts you have tomorrow unless you change your mindset. Stanford studies have concluded that 90% of all self-talk is negative; that means 90% of what you're saying to yourself, inside your own mind, is self-critical.
Every single person that comes into our lives is here to gift us with something to learn about ourselves; that includes the people we like and the people we don't like.
But what happens when someone you like says or does something to piss you off? How do you deal with it.
When someone says or does something that makes you angry or defensive, keep in mind that the only way it can bother you is if there is truth to what they're showing you. You may not like hearing it and you may not be ready to take a look at it but it can't bother you if there is no element of truth to what they're saying.
You may not be ready to hear it, you may not want to admit it, but Life Is All About Choices! You can choose to learn something about yourself and try to find a way to blame it on someone else or you can choose to take 100% responsibility for what you're learning and make some changes.
Allow every person in your life to have their perception of you while maintaining your own empowered perception of yourself. What others think of you is merely a reflection of how they view the world and everything in it. Friends and family can be the most disappointing to us because we naturally want someone who is important to us to approve or support what we're doing. But if that person is vibrating on a different energy frequency than you, they can't possibly understand or support what you're sharing. Just like you can't turn on the sports channel to watch a cooking show, you can't expect someone who is on a lower energetic frequency than you to be tuned into the energy of your thoughts and words.
If you truly want your dreams to be bigger than your fears, take 100% responsibility for your choices! If you tend to blame rather than take responsibility, the cost to yourself and others can be very high. You'll either take the risk of alienating someone special to you or you'll walk away feeling like you've been taken advantage of, once again.
Life is all about choices. We can see others as being non-supportive, rude, hurtful or malicious or we can simply shrug it off and stay empowered by assuming they're showing signs of having a perceptual handicap.
Your job is to know your value, who you are and what you're here to bring to the world. Once you know that, you'll have built such a solid foundation on which to build your life that no person, place or condition can pull it down. Now that's a cost worth investing in!
Ciao for now,
Nancy Mueller ~ Life Sensei
I used to tell my story because I was raised to believe it was a representation of who I am.
I used to believe that, but I don't believe it anymore!
I used to share the traumas of my childhood before I understood that those traumas also created beliefs within my mind that reinforced my lack of self-worth.
One of the traumas that created a belief within me was about going hungry. There never seemed to be enough food in our house, in fact most of our food and clothing was donated by the church. That might sound like something to be grateful for but not when you're hungry and the only thing to eat is Lima beans. As a child, I had no idea I was creating self-limiting beliefs based on the abundance or lack of generosity from others.
Our beliefs are created between the ages of birth to about 8 years of age; every belief we have is based on something we were taught as children by our caregivers or how we intuited what our caregivers taught us. As we grow into adults, we bring those beliefs with us into adulthood, without even questioning why we believe them. Until we're exposed to an opportunity to question our beliefs we will live our adult lives making choices based on beliefs we incurred in childhood - whether those beliefs support us or hinder us.
This is how we learn to create our world from the outside in; we learn that the source of our supply is based on people, places or conditions in our life, such as the generosity of others. The generosity of others can include (but certainly isn't limited to) the type of grades you get in school (self-esteem), whether you get the job (self-confidence), accepted into your college of choice (self-image), being accepted by your peers (self-worth) if someone will buy your products or services (self-sufficiency). This type of thinking is how people create their lives from the outside in.
As I understand that abundance in the physical world is an out-picturing of my beliefs, I began to realize how the story that my child-self had created was blocking my flow of abundance. I began to realize how one belief creates another belief because it is the only way for our mind to validate the story.
It wasn't until I learned to "go beyond my story" that I was able to free my mind of the limiting beliefs to make way for the abundance that was waiting to come pouring forth into my life! Thus, I began living and creating my life from the inside out, the vibration of abundance.
I've found that a first step to "Go Beyond Your Story" can be to ask yourself 3 questions:
1. What feeling/belief can I let go of right now?
2. What feeling/belief will I let go of right now?
3. What feeling/belief do I need to hold onto for just a little while longer?
The important thing to remember is HOWEVER you answer these questions, trust that you have the right answer. Sometimes questioning our beliefs can create fear because our mind tells us we're questioning the very foundation of who we believe we are (that's exactly what we're doing but everyone needs to process their thoughts in their own time frame and not according to someone else's). Be kind to yourself. Learn to sit in silence, ask your questions and be open to the answers.
When you listen for the answers to your questions, all you need to do is ask, "what if?" "What if that (awful, sad, traumatic, embarrassing, hurtful) experience does not define who I am?"
So go ahead and share your story; but always be ready to "Go Beyond Your Story" because that's how you create a new belief about who you are and why you're so fabulous, that's when you will free your mind!
Nancy Mueller ~ Life Sensei
During a recent interview, I was asked how I define success. My answer was more about a "FEELING" than a definition.
My definition will vary from other people because I am the only person who can be me! Therefore, what works for me may not work for someone else.
This was my answer, "when I can stand up (and I did suggest that the listeners get their asses off their chairs and try this) and hold my hands up in a wide "V" (as in Victory) and shout, I am an amazing freaking human being! I am awesome. I have had so many successes and so many accomplishments that I continue to amaze myself every time I think about them!"
Some people may think this is an arrogant thing to do, but why are we so hesitant to be loud and proud about what we do? Too often we are so focused on what we BELIEVE success looks like that we spend more time going after the goal than celebrating what we've done.
What good is an achievement if you don't learn to celebrate it and acknowledge yourself for a job well done?
I find that women, especially, are less likely to acknowledge their achievements because they don't see the things they do as achievements; rather, they see them as something to mark off of their "To Do" list and move on.
If you REALLY want to see what success "FEELS" like, make a list of your successes/accomplishments/achievements on a piece of paper and then stand in a "VICTORY" pose with each one of the items on your list and "FEEL" how good it feels to have done that. Emotions are felt in the body and feelings are of the mind - when you can "FEEL" the vibration of each one of your accomplishments, you are giving your body an amazing gift. You are raising your energy which in turn raises your vibration levels. The better you "FEEL" the more you'll feel like doing something else just as fantastic or better!
So instead of living your life based on someone else's definition of success, "FEEL" how successful you already are and keep going. The world is waiting for the thing that only you can share!
Nancy Mueller ~ Empowerment Sensei at www.MasteringYourBeliefs.com
Stand in a Super Hero pose and hear the Universe applauding you. Don't try to turn everything you're feeling around all at once, inch by inch it's a cinch. Set a timer and stand in your Super Hero pose and repeat, "happiness" when the timer goes off, pay attention to how you feel.
One of the most debilitating feelings is a feeling of "powerlessness" - Repeat this every hour if you have to - the point is, inch by inch "You Have The Power To Shift Your Energy from lack to abundance.
If this post resonates with you, please know that I'm holding the highest intention for you today. You may not feel it or believe in it, but you can't see air and I'd be willing to bet it's something you believe in!
Happiness, abundance, prosperity, joy, acceptance, non-judgement, hope, faith; all begin from the "inside / out"
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Nancy Mueller ~ Empowerment Sensei
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As he sat by the window, looking out over the lush green yard, compliments of a week and a half of rain, he was reminded of having read somewhere that over 300 shades of green exist in nature. With this view, he believed it!
Sitting there, It seemed like such a short time ago that he'd bought this house, with the dense woods behind it and the closest neighbor being over a mile away, the seclusion had seemed so inviting.
The trees were much smaller when he first looked at the property, but they’d grown to create the tranquil view he was now looking at, and the seclusion that surrounded him.
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