You've found that special person you think you could spend the rest of your life with. Now if only you could get him or her to change one or two things about himself, your relationship would be perfect.
You have a close friend that you enjoy spending time with but you're uncomfortable when he's around your other friends because his social skills leave a lot to be desired.
You understand why your father was so hard on you while you were growing up but you can't bring yourself to share your success with him because what he put you through still hurts.
You believe in the company you work for but your boss is unrelenting. You want to quit but you love the company and your co-workers. You feel powerless when it comes to making your boss understand how miserable he's making you feel at work.
Your personal life feels out of control. You've read the self-help books, you repeat your affirmations every day and you know you have a lot to be grateful for. So why is it so hard for you to create the happiness you've heard is possible?
If you believe your life would be a whole lot happier if the people around would change their behavior, you're never going to find the happiness you seek as long as you're expecting it to come from someone else.
When you believe someone else has to change who they are before you can love who you are, you're setting yourself up for continual disappointment and unhappiness.
Every person comes into our life as a gift or a lesson and a gift can be found in every lesson. If you need to learn to let go of anger, the Universe will gift you with someone who makes you angry. If you need to let go of low self-worth, the Universe will gift you with someone who makes you feel worthless. If you need to let go of the belief that nothing you have to say is worth listening to, the Universe will gift you with someone who makes you feel unheard.
The good news is, how long you keep the person the Universe has gifted you with is your choice!
The truth is, no one can make you FEEL anything; it's what you believe about their words and actions that are creating your reality. If someone tells you you're worthless, and you believe yourself to be worthless, you will see that person as the cause of your low self-esteem. When you're ready to stop feeling low self-esteem, you'll change what you believe to be true and that person will either disappear from your life or your relationship will become stronger and happier.
Every one of us has the power to create happy relationships as soon as we realize how we give our power away to another person. This takes a commitment to self-love and believing in who we are. This takes commitment on our part to master our beliefs about who we are and what we believe we're capable of.
If you want to create happy relationships, start with the relationship you have with your self. Who do you believe you are? What do you believe your capable of? When do you feel most empowered and what is your daily practice to stay in your power? How do you determine your value? Where do you see future-self (if you don't have a daily practice of empowerment, you'll find yourself creating your future from your past).
Creating happy relationships is easy when you yourself are happy. When you feel happy, you share your happiness with others. When you feel less than happy, the Universe will gift you with experiences that feed your unhappiness.
Your feelings are the key to everything; feelings are a vibration; the vibration you send out will be returned to you on that same vibrational frequency. This will never change because it's Universal Law; the Law of Attraction.
If you're ready to create happy relationships, start with your vibration. Pay attention to your thoughts and know what you're feeling at all times. Pay attention to how you feel in every situation and around other people. When you feel your vibration being lowered, only you can choose to allow it to happen or refuse to allow it to happen.
Be the change you want to experience in your life; every happy relationship begins with YOU!
Nancy Mueller ~ Life Sensei