Are You Faking Happiness

Before you can stop being triggered in your current relationship you have to know what it means to be triggered:

Triggers often show up as:

✅ When the other person has a habit that bothers you but you don't know why
✅ Specific smells set you on edge
✅ Loud noises that cause you to fee anxious
✅ Inability to trust another person
✅ Faking orgasms
✅ Liking someone A LOT but not sure if you can overlook certain behaviors
✅ You don't feel like you deserve to be happy
✅ You try to prove you're right by trying to prove how wrong the other person is
✅ Feeling like you have to justify your actions
✅ Feeling judged
✅ Holding a grudge
✅ Unable to forgive
✅ You're always apologizing
✅ Feeling helpless
✅ Arguing about the same thing, over and over and over
✅ Feeling criticized
✅ Feeling betrayed
✅ Believing if the other person REALLY loved you, they'd know what's wrong without you having to explain yourself
✅ Not sleeping well
✅ Wanting out of a relationship because you don't see any other way to be happy
✅ Feeling like no one really understands you
✅ Trying to overcompensate in your present relationship to make up for the choices you made in your previous relationship
✅ Pleasing others more than you're able to please yourself
✅ Feeling drained because you're trying so hard to make others happy
✅ You're arguing... again
✅ You keep attracting the same type of man/woman in your relationships
✅ You believe that being with someone who doesn't always treat you well is better than being alone
✅ You fear being alone
✅ Your arguments turn violent and you tell yourself he/she didn't mean it

Triggers happen when something you're currently experiencing FEELS very similar to a negative experience from your past.

When you're being triggered, you're bringing something from a past experience into your present day relationship (this is how you recreate your future from your past)

YOU are the only person who has the power to stop yourself from being triggered.

When you're ready to improve your current relationship, let's have a conversation about how you can stop being triggered by your past negative experiences.

Nancy Mueller ~ Life Sensei