The Strength of a Woman

I just had an insightful conversation with a client who was able to shift her perspective about the strength of a woman.

She made the comment that some cultures teach women to be strong so they can handle anything in life that comes along but what it actually does is teach them they have to be the one that thinks for others and holds everything together and it's exhausting.

I asked her to get very clear on her definition of "strong"

There is physical strength and there is mental strength. Your mind is your most powerful ability because it's how you create your experiences.

If your definition of "being strong" means you must be able to handle anything in life that comes along, think for others and hold everything together; then you are setting yourself up for exhaustion.

Strength is about knowing who you are and what you're willing to allow or not allow. When you shift your belief about your definition of "strong" you create an opportunity for yourself that didn't exist before.

When strength is seen as a requirement to think for others and hold everything together, you will work yourself to exhaustion because the work is never ending.

When strength is seen as the ability to delegate so that what needs done is divided up between the people who are best equipped or knowledgeable about the task, you're actually giving others the opportunity to do something they enjoy!

Choosing not to put the needs and wants of others before your own, does not make you weak nor does it mean you're not fulfilling your responsibilities as a woman!

Knowing you have the ability to choose makes you strong!

Nancy Mueller ~ Life Sensei