Who do you see when you look in the mirror?
Do you see:
The child you used to be?
A woman of strength?
A woman at peace?
Throughout our lives, we strive to "be" someone or something because we've been taught that when we "become" that woman , we'll be happy. We think we know who we are but most of us have accepted that who we are is a condition based on who we were.
As a child, you may have had a carefree life or you may have had trauma and challenges. Either way, it shaped who you grew to "be" and how you see yourself. When we want to "be" someone or something, we tend to measure our success by having to "become" who or what we want. If you can relate to this, somewhere along the way you've created a belief that something has to be "undone" before you can truly be happy and well thought of by yourself and others.
The truth is, we are ALL of the experiences of our past but have learned to compartmentalize every phase of our growth. We've been taught that we are the memories of our childhood self. We carry on beliefs, habits and family traditions because as we grow older, every aspect, choice and belief about who we "were" shapes where we believe we're going and who or what we want to be. And because of this, we are allowing who we believe we were to limit who we came here to be instead of celebrating every milestone for what it truly is, the ability to accept our greatness through our progress. We all have this ability, but not necessarily the belief.
And throughout all of this, we fear that we may never "be" who or what we want to become.
What if we learned to erase the fear? What if it's not about "becoming" anything but merely "un-becoming" our fears? What would it take for you to erase the fear of who you want to become or how you see who you used to be? The phrase, "if only I could go back and change..." is such a limiting phrase because life is meant to be lived going forward. Who you are today is not conditional on who you were yesterday and the days, months and years before today. Who you are today, and who you've been every day since your birth is God made manifest through you. Somewhere along your journey you may have forgotten this, but only fear can keep you from this truth.
So, who do you see when you look in the mirror?
If you're haunted by childhood memories that create regret, you're limiting your ability to be who you came here to be. If you're still judging yourself for choosing the wrong career, the bad investment, the divorce, the marriage, your parenting choices, and every morning you wake up wishing you could be anyone but who you are, you are choosing to live your life through fear.
The simple answer is, "the woman in your mirror" is a Spiritual Being, having a human experience as a woman in this lifetime. Everything you need or want, to have the most amazing human experience, is yours; all that is required of you is to "accept" your greatness!
When you look in the mirror, if you can only see the child who suffered at the hands of others, the woman who never quite "fit in", the mediocre student, the woman with one failed relationship after another, the woman who is in debt, the woman who is confused, anxious, searching, feeling lost or hopeless or wondering why your life is so difficult, if this is the woman you see staring back at you, you are limiting who you "ARE".
Why is it so much easier for you to see a woman born of fear instead of a woman born of love and light?
You tell yourself you have to be strong but that means you have a fear that you may be weak. You convince yourself that you need to be more but that means you have a fear that you are not enough. When will you believe that you ARE everything you were born to be? When will you stop allowing past memories, experiences and beliefs to limit who you truly are?
When will you look in the mirror and see only a Spiritual Being having a human experience as a woman in this lifetime looking back at you with a magnitude of love and light that has the ability to transcend any fear based belief that would try to convince you that you could possibly be less than who you truly are?
You came here with gifts and talents that are unique to you; the world is waiting for you to believe in who you are so everyone in it can benefit from your gifts and talents. Why do you deny your greatness? Who told you that you must limit how you share yourself with the world? Who told you that you must censor your greatness? To withhold your gifts and talents from the world is an act of great selfishness that is limiting you from going out into the world and being of great service to others.
Enjoy your pictures, enjoy your memories, but above all, never give them power over you. Never allow how you see your "past self" as a reason to limit who you came here to be.
Life Is All About Choices - choose to release your fear based beliefs and you will see only the gift that is "YOU" smiling back at you from your mirror; she's telling you that you are amazing, you are loved and you are limitless!
The only question that remains is this, "where will you go from here?"
Nancy Mueller ~ Life Sensei at www.MasteringYourBeliefs.com
Nancy Mueller ~ Life Sensei