Where do women learn to be disempowered and when does it start? Is it something we're taught? Is it something we intuit? Is it something cultural?
When a woman is not having her needs met, what could possibly be the reason she chooses to put the needs of someone else before her own needs?
This isn't a post about the pro's and con's of faking an orgasm, it's a question to ask why a woman would make the choice to deny herself any of life's pleasures.
When a women is not having her needs met, at what point did she draw the line and what is the tipping point or incentive to move the line?
When women are unwilling or unable to ask for what they want, when their needs are not being met, they are not showing up as their authentic self.
When a woman has lived her life one way for any length of time, how does she go about moving the line? How does she begin letting others know what she will no longer tolerate?
The answer is simple; she begins with the person in the mirror.
Start by asking the question, "what do I want" followed by, "why haven't I allowed myself to have that?" This is where you have to be honest with yourself instead of blaming someone else for where you are.
Living authentically starts from within, you have to know what you want and then decide if it's important enough to have it.
Ask yourself when and why you first thought it would be best to remain silent. What have you endured for weeks, months or years that is expanding your feelings of denial or low self-worth?
Showing up as your authentic self starts with getting to know who you are and what you're no longer willing to accept. What limiting belief caused you to make the choice you made that has gotten you to where you are?
What are you missing out on that you are yearning to experience? What have you been holding back that is now ready to burst forth because you can no longer tolerate not having it?
What is the desire, deep within you that you can no longer ignore? Where are you hiding? What are you not saying because you're trying to keep the peace or protect someone's feelings?
Whatever you're ignoring, if you're thinking about it, if you're focused on it and you're giving your attention to the feeling of not having it, this feeling of lack is expanding within you.
Look at your relationships, your finances, your health, your career, your emotional and spiritual well-being; where is lack showing up for you?
Being in a state of lack is a negative vibration and wherever you've been allowing yourself to be disempowered, you can be sure that feeling of lack is going somewhere; it has to, it's energy.
We live in a Universe where there is contrast to everything; light/dark, up/down, happy/sad, lack/abundance. Everything is energy and you're either expanding or contracting your desires. Whatever you're focusing on, whatever you're feeling creates a vibration and this vibration is attracting your experiences.
What experiences are you denying yourself and how much longer are you going to keep yourself from the pleasure of having it?
Everything you want starts with YOU; joy, happiness, orgasms, abundance, prosperity, laughter, fun, enjoyment and love of life starts with you.
What are you waiting for?
Nancy Mueller ~ Life Sensei
Nancy Mueller ~ Life Sensei