Maybe, sometimes we just need to allow ourselves to sit and cry.
It's times like these, when I feel like giving up and simply saying, "what's the point? What's the point of going forward with my day or my life? What's the point of continuing to share my message in an effort to motivate, empower and inspire others when I feel so helpless to be able to help my own brother?"
It's times like this when I go back and read all of the testimonials from clients and people whose lives I've touched through my work that remind me of my own message, "we may struggle to make sense out things we wish we never had to experience, but we must never give up on the love and light that shines so brilliantly within us."
When I choose to walk in faith instead of fear, I may not be able to help everyone, but I know I am doing what it takes for to be the best me that I can be, and that's how my Higher Self reassures me that I'm on the right path, and how I can show up for the people who need to hear my message!
Our life experiences make us who we are; we can choose to give up or we can choose to ask ourselves, "what have I learned from this and how can I use it to help others?"
Because even though we each have our own individual journey to walk, our journeys are interwoven with others who are also walking their journey. How we choose to show up for ourselves will determine how we show up for others.
Life Is All About Choices!
Nancy Mueller ~ Empowerment Sensei
Imagine that every morning, when you wake up, you must choose a door to walk through and it will determine how you'll spend your day.
Life Is All About Choices!
Imagine that with the power to choose how you want to spend your day, you can actually choose which door you're going to walk through to bring you the day you'd like to experience.
Most people would tell you they would choose the doors that will bring them feelings of gratitude, happiness, joy, creativity, wealth, mindfulness, love, fun, being healthy and a sense of belonging.
Most people would tell you they would never consciously choose a door that will bring them shame, excuses, anger, doubt, guilt, judgment, or fear.
Now that it's been proven that our conscious mind is responsible for only 12% of what we believe to be true, the decision about which door we choose becomes a bit more complicated.
Because your subconscious mind makes up about 88% of your beliefs (what we believe to be true), the door we choose becomes a bit more challenging. When you consider that your beliefs are attached to specific feelings and emotions it becomes easier to understand that the door you would choose is based more on how you're feeling when it's time to make your choice.
What if you went to sleep the night before with something that was weighing you down in mind, body or spirit? Perhaps you were listening to a newscaster spreading fear based information or reading something that was unsettling to you. Perhaps you laid in bed doubting your gifts, talents and abilities or judging yourself based on how you perceive who you are or what you're capable of. The subconscious mind is working 24/7, whether you're awake or asleep and has the ability to absorb unsettling information while you sleep.
Now imagine you wake up, it's a brand new day with new opportunities but the door you must choose to walk through is based on the information your subconscious mind has been working on while you slept.
You may consciously want to choose the doors that will bring you feelings of gratitude, happiness, joy, creativity, wealth, mindfulness, love, fun, being healthy and a sense of belonging but because your subconscious mind is making all of the decisions, you will choose a door based on how you're feeling. Every choice is based on a belief and every belief has a feeling or emotion attached to it.
If you're allowing negative thoughts, feelings and emotions to create your beliefs, how can you possibly believe you deserve to choose the doors that will bring you feelings of gratitude, happiness, joy, creativity, wealth, mindfulness, love, fun, being healthy and a sense of belonging?
How you face your day is a choice, you simply need to understand how your mind formulates the beliefs that determine what your choices will be! What price have you been paying for your negative thoughts? Have you found yourself locked behind the doors of shame, excuses, anger, doubt, guilt, judgment, or fear without a clear understanding of how to get out?
Every woman has the key to unlock the doors of uncertainty within her mind. When you master your beliefs, you're discovering the beliefs behind your current mindset (perceived problem), the feelings and emotions attached to that belief(s) and how you can transmute your current belief(s) to raise your vibrational energy, giving you the power to make choices from a mindset of "what is possible" rather than a mindset based on past experiences (yours or others).
Whatever door you may be facing in your life, you alone hold the power to choose which door you will step through and how you will spend your day! The choice is yours ~ when you want to experience feelings of gratitude, happiness, joy, creativity, wealth, mindfulness, love, fun, being healthy and a sense of belonging more than you believe you deserve to experience shame, excuses, anger, doubt, guilt, judgment, or fear, you will also experience the power of conscious choice!
Nancy Mueller ~ Empowerment Sensei
Let's face it, workplace changes can be fearful!
If you want to change jobs, you have the fear of timing everything just perfectly so no one learns about your plans before you're ready for them to know.
If you like your job but there are changes happening within your company and you're not sure how those changes are going to affect you, that can be fearful.
If you're happy with your chosen profession but some of your co-workers or employer are difficult to work with, you may dread going to work; creating fear about your future.
If you find yourself out of work and you have a belief that you are overqualified, companies aren't hiring people your age, or you're having regrets that you didn't choose a different career path when you still had a job, that can be fearful.
Bottom line, changes that involve your career can be fearful, especially when when you believe those changes will negatively affect your livelihood.
We've all heard the phrase, "it's not personal, it's just business." But when you're being forced into a work situation you don't feel ready for, it can feel pretty darn personal!
Every successful company must have a good business model that includes being able to change with the times. But when companies experience mergers, acquisitions, cut-backs, downsizing, outsourcing or new management; it's difficult for employees to see the changes as something positive when they view these changes as having power over how they want to live their life.
When changes occur within the workplace, you may quite easily feel yourself resisting the coming changes, especially if your identity is tied to your career, job or place of business. If you feel you've given your very best to the company, any change that includes being let go, downsized or displaced can feel like an act of betrayal. Most people avoid change because it requires them to step into unfamiliar territory. Choosing to make certain changes in our life can be difficult, but when change is forced on you, it may be difficult to find an upside.
Any type of change can tap into your fear based beliefs because it also taps into the perception that you are no longer in control of what happens to you. Change can a fear that you have lost all autonomy about how you want to show up in your work life and your personal life.
When you're able to let go of your fear based beliefs about what "might" happen to you, you are then able to gain a new perspective about embracing change within the workplace, how to bend instead of resist, how to view change as opportunity instead of a threat and something to be embraced rather than feared.
Once you accept that your innermost thoughts are running your life and creating your resistance to change and that you actually have the power to let go of your resistance, you will be able to shift your perception of the changes taking place. When you're able to recognize the power behind the very thoughts you're thinking and your resistance to change (the fear based perception of what you "believe" is going to happen) you can begin to recognize negative thoughts, feelings and beliefs before they gain power over you, so you can cut them off before they have a chance to take root or when you find yourself in a downward spiral of negativity.
You have the power within you to let go of fear based thoughts about change in the workplace and to accept and embrace upcoming changes. As you begin to understand that you have a choice; you can choose to be negatively impacted or positively impacted, you will realize that choosing to be negatively impacted means you are working from a fear based belief. Fear based beliefs convince you that the worst thing ever is happening to you. The good news is, there is a yin for every yang so instead of choosing a fear based belief you also have the power to choose a faith based belief; a faith based belief will help you see the possibility for any change as a way to make room for a new opportunity in your life.
Your reaction to changes in the workplace, whether you react from fear or faith, is absolutely your choice. Whatever reaction you choose to feed is exactly what you will manifest into your life.
If you're allowing fear based beliefs to determine how you perceive change, you will also create a resistance to any possible positive outcome. Give yourself permission to stop resisting the change and instead, open your mind to the countless opportunities you may not have considered had this change not occurred. The Universe is always conspiring to bring us our greatest joy; all we need to do is be open to receiving the opportunity we are being given!
Nancy Mueller ~ Empowerment Sensei
There have been times when I felt that my life was too hard, with too many struggles and I'd never find a way out. I would get so frustrated because I'd pray for my struggles to be over and my prayers seemed to go unanswered.
Through it all, I've gained a very powerful understanding; "you don't know what you don't know".
Once I accepted this, I learned to see my life through different lenses. How can I possibly ask for something when I can't be sure that getting it would keep me from something greater?
Ask for peace of mind. Ask for love in your words, deeds and thoughts. Ask for blessings for yourself and others. See light even when things appear to be dark (the sky is always blue; gray clouds can sometimes block the blue skies but the sky is always blue!).
Practice the art of "non-judgement" (no one knows what someone else is going through).
If you choose to feed anger, doubt, grief, depression and fear based ideas, you will surely receive them.
If you choose to feed beauty, happiness and joy you will receive them. Life Is All About Choices ~ you were born of love and light (that's who you are) but we all have free will.
Stop being afraid of what you don't know; that's where your blessings come from!
Nancy Mueller ~ Empowerment Sensei
#peace #happiness #TakeBackYourPower #MasterYourBeliefs#GoBeyondYourStory
If I ask you to think about a diamond ring, a pearl ring, an amethyst ring and a sapphire ring, and then I ask you which ring doesn’t belong in with this group of rings, which ring would you choose?
The answer is; they all belong in this group; they are all rings.
Sometimes people feel like they don’t belong, or they don’t fit in.
Have you ever felt like you just don’t fit in? Maybe you’ve always felt that way or maybe something has happened in your life and you simply don’t feel part of the crowd you thought would be your friends for life.
When the time comes to let go of relationships that no longer serve us, it’s often easier to tell ourselves, “we did something wrong. We don’t fit in. We must have made a mistake. We must have said or done something that has completely alienated us from the people we always thought would be there for us.”
If you are one of those people who believes there is something wrong with you because, “you no longer want to be part of the old gang, you don’t fit in at social gatherings, you can’t listen to one more conversation about the same old topics or you’re feeling unwanted; here’s your wake-up call.
Are you ready to wake up?
Warning: as you begin to wake up, you might feel fear, anxiety, guilt, lost, depressed, adrift, alienated, or even wrong.
The good news is, when a previous way of life is no longer comfortable for you, this means you are actually moving forward in your life. You are actually starting to live your life for YOU instead of living it for someone else.
You are feeling this way because you are doing something different. You are stepping outside of what you’ve always known your life to be and into unfamiliar territory. This is where the fear sets in, this is where fear tells you that you did something wrong, you don’t fit in, you made a mistake, or you owe someone an apology.
It’s time to stop apologizing for wanting to live your life in the most amazing way possible. It’s time to stop apologizing because you don’t fit in. It’s time to stop apologizing; PERIOD!
Isn’t it time you started to live your life instead of letting it pass you by while you remain a prisoner to your old beliefs, relationships and choices?
When was the last time you did something you’ve never done before? If you keep yourself tied to old habits, friends, choices, beliefs and locations, if you never try something new because you’re always waiting for permission from someone, you are choosing to let your life pass you by because you are choosing to live it according to another person’s opinion or beliefs about you.
When everyone else is wearing black, this is your opportunity to wear red and stand out from the crowd. Be the leader in your own life – dare to be the brightest light in the room. Stop letting the beliefs of others determine your own beliefs.
The only way you are going to live your life to the fullest is to be in charge of your choices. Stop letting life pass you by because you choose to give in to fear based beliefs. If you don’t take charge of your life, someone else will!
Nancy Mueller ~ Life Empowerment Sensei
How do you identify yourself: son, daughter, oldest, youngest, middle child?
Perhaps you see yourself as a wife, father, husband, mother, girlfriend, lover, boyfriend, boss, employee, successes, a failure, career oriented, married, divorced, single, widowed, leader, shy, extroverted, introverted, happy, sad, fulfilled, unfulfilled, disabled, athletic, abused child, or someone who has been dumped on one too many times in your life.
Regardless of how you see yourself (your identity) there is a story you tell yourself (your belief) about why you believe it to be true.
Your story is running your life.
What happens when your beliefs about who you are, what you believe makes you "you" is put to the test. What happens when the story you've told yourself about who you are causes you to doubt who you are meant to be?
Divorce can cause you to doubt who you are as a person, parent, grandparent, member of society and who you are going forward.
Job loss can cause you to doubt your value in society and how you are viewed by your friends and family.
Financial stress can cause you to doubt your security, your future and your ability to care for yourself and your family.
Mental, physical or emotional health challenges can cause you to doubt your ability to function in a world that may not understand your challenges.
So who are you? You are not your job, your marital status, your financial status or your level of health. You ARE who you tell yourself you are, based on the beliefs you've created within your own mind.
Your beliefs create your story and that story is what you tell yourself and others, over and over and over and over.
What story do you tell yourself every morning when you wake up? Does your story limit you to what you believe you are capable of achieving or does it empower you to do more, climb higher and dream bigger?
When you finally get to a point where you're able to let go of the negative energy around how you tell “your story”, everything changes. The problem with change is, change is often accompanied by fear and fear can rise up inside you and invade your thoughts like a smoke-filled room invades your lungs.
The first step to letting go of your story is to face the fear of who you are without it! Fear would have us believe that if you let go of your story, you will experience a loss of identity and that loss includes questions such as, “if I’m not that person, who am I?”
You can tell when your story is holding you back, because you may ask yourself questions such as, “if I can’t keep telling my story, how will people know how much I've struggled to get where I am and why I deserve to be here?” (this can be an indication of how you value your "self"). You may also believe that it is impossible to change your current situation so you will use your story as proof of why you are going through current challenges or struggles.
Your story matters but the energy with which you tell it will either cause you to continue to struggle or set you free.
If you’re still hurt, angry, remorseful, feeling guilty, ashamed, feeling vengeful or still in “victim mode” you may be sharing your story in a way that is causing you to look to others to validate your negative feelings and emotions.
Believing that your greatest achievement comes from the experiences you've had or overcome is actually fear trying to get you to believe you will never be anything more than you currently are, or, the sum of your past experiences.
Fear would have us believe that we are nothing special and that struggle is a natural way of life. Fear causes our self-worth to agree to play small so as not to bring attention to the gifts and talents that reside within us. Fear would have us believe that we are inconsequential rather than the super being we were born to be.
When you can share your story and it comes from a place deep within you that is based on beliefs of your own empowerment, the negative energy around your story will lose it's power over you.
You have the power to change your negative feelings into positive feelings - you have the power to change your story, change your energy and change how you show up in the world. You can do this by letting go of your story; that belief that you've been holding onto for so long that you don't even realize it's running your life. Pay attention to the words you choose and the energy behind your words. Are you using words such as; "can't, won't try, maybe, if, who am I, some day, because, but, if only?" These words are disempowering and are associated with negative energy that has the power to keep you on a hamster wheel of self-doubt and affects your belief about who you deserve to be.
When you believe you are here to struggle, or that there is a struggle you must overcome before you can start living the life you long for, you are actually creating low self-worth. Low self-worth emits an energy frequency that attracts other low levels of “SELF” such as low self-love, self-image, self-wealth, self-health. You may find yourself hanging around others who also have low levels of self-worth because this gives you the ability to commiserate with others who feel the same way and who will never encourage you to let go of your story .
When you’re ready to increase your levels of “SELF” be ready to let go of your story and experience who you were born to be!
Mastering Your Beliefs Sensei
My path to become a coach, author, mentor and speaker became clear when I was a student, competitor and teacher of the Martial Arts;, the longer I studied, I began to understand the philosophies behind the Martial Arts and I soon realized that my mind was my most powerful weapon.