 The holidays can be a time of obligation but wouldn't you rather use this time to do more of what makes you happy instead of just going through the motions to make others happy.
Obligation comes in many forms so it can be difficult to recognize. Obligation can be described as family traditions, gift giving, over eating, shopping, spending time with undesirable family members, office parties, decorating, cooking, baking, tree trimming, last minute shopping, finding the perfect gift and more. Obligations are so hidden in the quest to have the perfect holiday or a Norman Rockwell experience that we don't recognize them for what they are and we ignore how they make us feel. If you'd like to eliminate your holiday stress, when you're feeling stressed, ask yourself:
Once you give yourself permission to understand the basis of your obligation beliefs you also shift your perspective and open yourself up to alternate solutions. What self-satisfaction do you get from saying, "yes" to holiday obligations? When you can honestly answer this question, (honestly means you can answer it based on what it's doing for you, not what it's doing for someone else or expected of you). Do you need to feel needed, to have the recognition, are you trying to relive a special childhood memory? What fear comes up for you if you were to say, "NO"? You are the only one who can make your holidays joyful because joy, love, happiness, excitement, satisfaction and peace is an internal gift you can only give to yourself. If you're reading this message and thinking, "can I really do all this to eliminate my holiday stress" then I invite you to ask yourself if you believe it's possible! Because whether you believe this message is true or or whether you believe this message is false, you're absolutely right and your holiday experience will be a result of what you believe to be true for you! Sensei Nancy Mueller Mastering Your Beliefs
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 Recognizing your life's path can help you eliminate most of the struggles you may be experiencing.
Life struggles often feel like you're swimming upstream because the physical work you're doing is exhausting, stressful and you often feel motivated by obligation instead of desire. Swimming upstream is tiring, flowing downstream is relaxing! Any negative thought, feeling, emotion or choice is YOU, moving out of alignment with your true self. When you're out of alignment, you don't "FEEL" good. Alignment with your "True Self" is the vibration you feel from excitement (AKA your "Happy Place"), it's that physical sensation you feel in your body, it's your body's translation of the vibratory energy you feel when you're in alignment with your Inner Being, Source, the Creator, God, The Universe! Any time something in your life contains a high degree of excitement, it's an indication that you should act on what you're feeling because this is your life's path inviting you to more of yourself and who you are! That's why certain experiences contain the vibration (feeling) of happiness and excitement and how you know that acting on your joy, will support you! True abundance is having the ability to do what you need to do when you need to do it; you are always supported by the Universe at all times, if you weren't you would not exist! Keep in mind how unconditionally supported you are by reminding yourself that you are so unconditionally supported by Creation that you are even allowed to believe you are not unconditionally supported. You are so unconditionally supported by your Inner Being, Source, the Creator, God, The Universe that you have actually been given the ability to believe that you are not supported. You can believe that you are worthless, that you are unsupported, that you are nothing and yet you still exist. This is a true demonstration that your Inner Being, Source, the Creator, God, The Universe is absolutely willing to unconditionally support anything you believe to be true about yourself. So when you believe you are hated, you are a bad person, you are worthless, you've made too many mistakes or that you are lacking in anything you want, if the Universe is willing to support you with those beliefs, it is also willing to support you when you believe you are loving and you deserve to have everything you desire! You were born with free will; there is absolutely no difference in the eyes of creation, no contradiction whatsoever with what you choose to believe. When you decide what is true for you, there is nothing in existence that can or will contradict you. The Universe will simply reflect whatever you believe is true about you at any given moment because that's what it means to be made in the image of creation. You get to decide to use your free will to choose who and what you are but your life's path will always call to you from your passion which was given to you through your love, joy, happiness and excitement! Life Is All About Choices! What you believe to be true will determine your life's path; you can either flow downstream or struggle to swim upstream. Use your feelings as your internal GPS to guide you on your life's path and you will experience happiness, joy, love, abundance, prosperity and peace of mind! Nancy Mueller Life Sensei at MasteringYourBeliefs.com  If you put something in your mouth that tasted awful, you'd probably spit it out to get rid of the experience.
A negative or limiting belief is something we don't like or want to experience but it can take a little longer to recognize it before we spit it out of our thoughts. 90% of the thoughts we think are the same thoughts we had the day before based on habitual behaviors, emotions, beliefs and reactions; we react to life instead of act because of habitual negative or limiting beliefs.
When you finally get tired of this habitual pattern that's been going on for however many years old you are, you might be looking for a way to spit out your negative beliefs before they can cause any more negative experiences in your life.
Once you're able to answer "what is the feeling I'm living with day in and day out" the answer is like shining a light in a dark corner of your mind; you light up with new thoughts and beliefs! The word, "meditation" means "to become familiar with." Meditate to become familiar with what you're thinking about, the more familiar you are with your limiting beliefs, such as:
If you want to create a practice of spitting out your negative beliefs as soon as you're aware of them, you've got to start being aware every time you say or think:
There is a positive contrast to every negative experience but unless and until you're willing to sit with what you're thinking and feeling, you'll keep having the same negative experiences. Stop trying to resist what you're thinking and feeling by staying preoccupied with meaningless things, retail therapy, alcohol, calling your friends, scrolling or posting on social media or any other distraction you choose to try to keep you from paying attention to your thoughts, feelings and emotions. The only way you can spit out your negative beliefs is to recognize the so you can stop finding things to help you resist them. When you're ready to step out of your "Known Zone" (the beliefs you have based on your known experiences) to unlearn the negative thoughts and beliefs that have gotten you where you are, you'll get much quicker at spitting out those negative beliefs before they become your habitual response! A habit is defined as "something you've done so many times that your body knows how to do it better than your mind" The good news is, you can create happy experiences based on habits from your positive thoughts just as easily as you can create unhappy experiences based on your negative thoughts! Life Is All About Choices! Nancy Mueller ~ Life Sensei at MasteringYourBeliefs.com  They say you can't go home again, but that isn't really true when it comes to the painful memories of your past.
Women are here to heal the world, and for you to have everything you need to succeed, the healing must begin individually. When women are being triggered by painful childhood memories, it can effect their mental, physical, financial and spiritual relationships in the present. Painful memories of past experiences can be triggered through smells, sounds, books, songs, movies, another person's story, specific people, experiences and even our environment. Those triggers can take us right back to the event, causing us to relive the experience in the present. When this happens, our mind searches for a reason we feel triggered, because of an emotional response based on what we believe to be true. We try to tell ourselves things like, "It's in the past, let it go, I should be over this, what's wrong with me" and we even use those experiences to convince ourselves that we are inferior in some way. Your convictions about not being smart enough, educated enough, talented enough, worthy enough, or that you are inferior in some way can be so deeply rooted in what you believe about yourself that it becomes part of your identity. How can we heal the world when we resist the healing that must take place within each of us first? One day something will happen and you will think, "Wow, I can't believe I was able to do that, I always thought that was something I'd never be able to accomplish." That's all it takes, one time to accomplish something you never thought possible and then you'll start asking yourself, "if I can do that, I wonder what else I can do!" And that's when the fear sets in. Fear sets in because you start wanting more and your "wants" are accompanied by your limiting beliefs that you can't have it, accomplish it or that it's impossible because of your fear based beliefs! This is why many coaches will tell you, "if your goal doesn't scare you, it's not big enough." Give yourself permission to think outside of your "known zone" (that part of your thinking process that's always made choices based on what you believe to be true). Allow yourself to stretch beyond your limiting beliefs, your perceived limitations and the story you use to convince yourself that what you really want is only possible for others! Women are here to heal the world; if you're open to being part of the healing process, what one belief are you willing to master to heal the painful memories of your past so you can stop being limited by your outdated, worn out, limiting and negative beliefs about who you are and what you're capable of? Next stop: The World! Are you ready? Nancy Mueller ~ Life Sensei at MasteringYourBeliefs.com Women  My mom always bought the gallon size container of ice cream containing half chocolate and half vanilla. She also had a knack for ruining our excited anticipation when the time came to eat the ice cream!
As she was scooping ice cream into bowls, she'd ask, "Do you want chocolate or vanilla?" I always wanted chocolate so that's what I'd ask for but she always gave me vanilla. When I thought I could outsmart her, I'd ask for vanilla and still get vanilla. We knew better than to complain, if we did, we'd get no ice cream at all. If we looked disappointed at what she gave us she'd simply say, "you get what you get, now eat." This experience taught me to believe that, "no matter what I asked for, I would never get what I asked for." Probably not a big deal when we're talking about ice cream but it's a BIG deal when I started applying that belief to other areas of my life like, a life partner, my job, money, relationships, my health, my body, my education and the big one for me was "God never gives me what I ask for." Something so simple, like ice cream, created a huge limiting belief in my life that often held me back when I wanted something. After all, why ask for something if you know you can't have what you want! And for the longest time, I was able to blame that belief and not having what I wanted on my mother! When I got older, I asked her why she did that to us and her answer was, "I tried to teach you kids that life is hard and I wanted you to be tough so you could handle it." Can you see where I'm going with this? Because my mother had a belief that "life is hard and you have to be prepared for disappointment" she passed that belief on to me and my siblings. She became my teacher on the subject of "Life is disappointing, will always disappoint you and you might as well face it and not ask for what you want because you won't get it!" My child-self interpreted her action as someone being mean to me but my mom saw it as teaching me a valuable life skill. Isn't it interesting how two people can experience the same event and have two completely different interpretations of the event! Life is never what it appears to be and we have the power to see things differently whenever something comes into our awareness that we do not want. If we're unhappy about our how someone is treating us, the number of our bank balance, the image in our mirror, the car we drive; our unhappiness is defining our self-confidence, self-worth, self-love, self-image, and self-esteem. Life is all about choices; we can choose to blame events, people, experiences and circumstances for what is currently showing up for us, or we can choose to see another side of it. The existence of "opposite" is a metaphysical process of creation. When the opposite of what you want to have, do or be is showing up for you, express gratitude for it and make a choice to bring forth the opposite of what's currently showing up for you. You have that power, we all have that power! The word "metaphysical" roughly translates to: "after physical" - when you accept that nothing happens on the outside until it's first created on the inside, you realize how powerful you truly are! Once I understood that I could continue to give my power away by blaming my mother for my beliefs and my shortcomings, or I could embrace the existence of the law of opposites as a metaphysical process of creation, my inner power began changing the outer manifestations I no longer wanted to experience. If life has been serving you something you don't want, would "now" be a good time for you to start practicing the "law of opposites" as your process of creation? Nancy Mueller ~ Life Sensei at MasteringYourBeliefs.com  In 2019 I was in the attic with two of my cousins; going through a lifetime of boxes that my aunt had amassed over the years; her attic was a gold mine of memories!
In one of the boxes, I found letters, newspaper articles, birth announcements and documented proof of affairs, illegitimate children, betrayal, and even a homicide. This box held documentation of long held secrets about our entire family. As the three of us sat there, stunned and trying to process what we were reading, my cousin said, "oh my gosh Nancy, I think you just found information for your next book!" We laughed at her suggestion and began talking about the things we were learning about family members we thought we knew so much about. Ever since that day, I've thought often about how much we rely on what others tell us about the truth of who we are and that saying of "who would you be if someone hadn't told you who you are?" The foundation of who we are is based on what we believe about what we've been told. We've all heard stories, read books or watched movies where an adult learns...
People are very accustomed to telling half-truths, lies and innuendo without a second thought. We read books, go to the movies, or read the headlines because stories can be entertaining, frightening, hard to believe, outlandish, and even an opportunity to be thankful it happened to someone else and not us! (There but by the grace of God go I) The seed of thought I'd like to plant with you today is this: we've all created our lives based on something we were taught, told or intuited and how we understood it at the time, but that was then and this is now, so how much of what someone told you, taught you or was intuited by you, do you still believe in today? What if you really are...
Remember: when one of us rises, we take everyone else with us, this is the power of the collective! Enjoy the rest of your week, be mindful of your thoughts and be prosperous in all that you do! Nancy Mueller ~ Life Sensei  Deep within each of us resides a precious treasure—an inner child who holds the essence of our innocence, wonder, and pure joy. Just as we carry cherished memories and experiences from our childhood, we also carry wounds and emotional burdens that may affect our present lives. Healing your inner child is a transformative journey that allows you to reconnect with that little girl or boy within you, providing an opportunity for profound personal growth and healing.
We All Have That Little Girl or Boy Inside Us: No matter how grown-up or accomplished we become, the truth is, we all carry a part of our childhood self within us. That little girl or boy holds our deepest vulnerabilities, dreams, and emotions. He or she experienced the world with wide-eyed wonder and openness. However, they may have also experienced pain, rejection, or trauma that left lasting imprints on their innocent soul. Recognizing and acknowledging the presence of your inner child is a powerful first step towards healing. By doing so, you create a safe space for their emotions, fears, and needs to be heard and validated. Embracing your inner child with compassion and understanding allows you to address unresolved wounds and cultivate a deeper sense of self-love and acceptance. The Healing Journey: Healing the inner child is a process that requires patience, empathy, and self-reflection. Here are some key steps to embark on this transformative journey:
The healing of your inner child is an ongoing, transformative process that brings you closer to your true self. By recognizing and nurturing that little girl or boy within us, we unlock the power to heal past wounds, release limiting beliefs, and embrace a future filled with authenticity, joy, and personal fulfillment. Embrace the opportunity to heal your inner child, and watch as your life transforms into a beautiful reflection of your innermost desires and dreams. Namaste, Nancy Mueller ~ Life Sensei  As a Life Sensei, one of my key responsibilities is to help individuals cultivate strong and meaningful relationships. In this blog, we'll explore the importance of connection and how your Life Sensei can support you in developing fulfilling connections with yourself and others.
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 Being a Life Sensei goes beyond teaching martial arts; it involves guiding individuals on their journey toward personal fulfillment and overall well-being. Let's delve into the transformative role of a Life Sensei and how they empower others to live their best lives.
Being a Life Sensei is an opportunity to empower others, inspire personal growth, and foster a sense of purpose and fulfillment. By guiding individuals on their path to self-discovery and supporting them through life's challenges, I have the privilege of witnessing transformative change and helping them create lives they truly love. Being a Life Sensei is part of what my J.O.B. (Jump Outta Bed), this is why I'm fond of saying, "I Love My Life!" Nancy Mueller ~ Life Sensei at Mastering Your Beliefs  Inner-child work is an approach to recognizing and healing childhood trauma. Healing your inner child addresses the unmet needs your child-self longed for and your adult-self is still searching for.
So how do you know the difference between needing to heal your inner-child and just having a bad day? The first step is to pay attention to how you're feeling. Do you notice that whatever is causing you to have a bad day feels a lot like the negative feelings you had as a child. It may take you a minute to connect the dots but when you begin to see the correlation, you know you're on the right track to healing your inner-child. As you learn to heal your inner-child you'll have less bad days and more happy days when you learn to let go of the negative emotions associated with your thoughts. Here are some unmet needs your child-self may have longed for and your adult-self may still be thinking about or experiencing:
If you see the correlation and recognize any of the above thoughts showing up in your life, this is your opportunity to do some inner-child work. The first step to doing this work is to teach your brain to reach for a more positive thought than the thoughts you're currently thinking. If you'd like some help with this, download your free guide to Turning Your Negatives Into Positives In 4 Easy Steps. This is how you witness the true inner-powerful you possess to stop being triggered by negative emotions associated with painful experiences. |
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